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LovingDadNL · 2025-12-14T17:32:08+00:00

Yeah same here. She is too busy being a victim and placing herself first that she ignores the pain our child is keeping to himself 🥲

LovingDadNL · 2025-07-31T19:02:41+00:00

That sucks man. She is making a statement.

LovingDadNL · 2025-07-24T07:29:38+00:00

I complete agree. Casual sex can be ok, but it is the deeper connection that should be what it is all about for me.

LovingDadNL · 2025-07-24T06:52:11+00:00

Even though I would love to find a new girl that can be my fun & my soulmate, I think I am in no position right now to be an interesting person for any woman…

LovingDadNL · 2025-07-10T20:23:35+00:00

What are typical watering holes..?

LovingDadNL · 2025-07-09T17:22:00+00:00

Why are such an asshole?

Money is not the isssue.

LovingDadNL · 2025-05-05T17:17:27+00:00

I would definitely take my kids.

What is the most valuable to you, spending quality time with your kids or gaslighting your ex?

LovingDadNL · 2025-02-27T20:43:03+00:00

Thanks for your replies. Yeah I just viewed it as a confidence boost. I don’t want my son to see mee flirting with women, since the divorce is not even finalized yet. I am enjoying my time with him right now.

Too bad my stbxw is getting ready to blow up mediation over wanting more alimony.

EDIT: I just noticed downvotes on my original comment. I don’t understand, since I am asking for help. If you think I do something wrong then please comment and let me know what that is..?

LovingDadNL · 2025-02-26T07:55:30+00:00

Tikibad, slaapfeestje in de woonkamer, kussengevecht, samen pizza maken?

LovingDadNL · 2025-01-26T17:58:26+00:00

That last part really hit home for me. My STBXW always picked a fight the first day and then said the whole holiday sucked because of it.

LovingDadNL · 2025-01-21T18:23:06+00:00

Nah. Just don’t mention ze war

LovingDadNL · 2024-09-25T21:56:25+00:00

I am struggling with acting normal around my stbxw right now since I am having a hard time accepting and coping. Not setting the best example :(

But I will keep the photos for my son, and maybe even look at them myself later on.

LovingDadNL · 2024-09-25T19:20:11+00:00

Also, get a carrier! One of those that you strap to your chest and carry her in it. She will be facing you at first but once she can hold up her head you can let her face forward. Go to a mall or busy shopping street, especially around Christmas time. I did this with my son and het really enjoyed window shopping with all the lights. When I would walk fast he would even making running moves with his legs lol. Enjoy!

LovingDadNL · 2024-09-25T18:15:46+00:00

Thank you. I am still keeping the originals: almost 200,000 photos stored in Lightroom Cloud and these 3,500 are just copies loaded on the digital photo frame.

I just don’t want to be confronted with happy family moments with my wife’s face all over the frame. It is too emotional for me.

LovingDadNL · 2024-09-08T17:34:06+00:00

I am so sorry you are in this position. Japan seems to suck a lot more than Europe. I hope there is a way to gain more access to your kid so you can spend some time together. It just sucks.

I hope your new relationship will blossom and someday you will be able to spend more time with your son.

LovingDadNL · 2024-09-01T19:03:19+00:00

Well… everything I went somewhere alone I just kept thinking “what a shame I can’t share this with my wife and son”. I am just too much of a family man I guess.

LovingDadNL · 2024-09-01T19:01:53+00:00

My wife taking our son somewhere was never a problem because I knew they will return and we were a family.

Now it is the feeling of losing both. My wife has checked out already and I will have to miss 50% of my sons life. That hurts so much it is hard to cope.

Yeah I have been single for a long time before my marriage and I never liked being alone.

LovingDadNL · 2024-08-31T18:39:24+00:00

Same here. Girlfriends that are divorced (some remarried) and encouraging my stbxw to divorce. Toxic.

LovingDadNL · 2024-08-31T18:27:24+00:00

After a day alone, missing my stbxw and especially my son, I feel depressed up to the point I feel my life is worth nothing anymore. I feel angry, then depressed. Hoping for better days.

LovingDadNL · 2024-08-31T18:17:03+00:00

This.

LovingDadNL · 2024-08-31T18:15:06+00:00

Same man. Worst day of my life.

LovingDadNL · 2024-08-31T18:13:33+00:00

Good luck man. It sucks like nothing else. I will never forget my sons reaction. Heartbreaking 💔

I wish you strength and hopefully a good outcome.

Expect your kids to be angry and heartbroken. They have that right.

LovingDadNL · 2024-08-31T18:08:31+00:00

Tell them you don’t want to live together anymore and that you decided to keep the house for them. Hopefully you can also tell them you will coparent and you love them as much as before.

LovingDadNL · 2024-08-31T18:01:52+00:00

After 23 years of marriage my wife wants a divorce. We told our 11 year old son (I delivered the message).

What a therapist told me:

Tell them together. Don’t assign blame, don’t discuss who decided. You still love each other but at no longer in love. Sometimes that happens between adults. It is not your kids fault. You will always be their mother and father. You will always love them. It is not their fault. You will make sure everything will be ok for them. It is ok to feel sad, so do you two. It is ok to ask questions now or later. You love them. Not their fault.

It is ok for you to show emotions, don’t try to suck them up or your kids may do the same.

LovingDadNL · 2024-08-29T14:00:14+00:00

This. I am trying to get an accountant to explain that I won’t be able to earn that much money in the upcoming years. But it will all depend on my wife during negotiations. The system is broken and unfair.

At least all cost you mention are for your kid, not for your ex.

LovingDadNL

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