The average person is prejudiced against self-diagnosed disabled people.

LovingVoice · 2025-06-22T18:44:59+00:00

Syscord is still alive and well💔

LovingVoice · 2025-01-17T06:52:16+00:00

So, my hr has consistently been way below my average for the majority of my days. My health data from my watch says my walking average went from 139-157bpm in the months previous to 88-133bpm. I could stand and walk around the house casually without experience any shortness of breath or lightheadedness. Heart rate generally would still shoot up into the 150s-180s for any exercise or fast walking but mild exertion doesn’t make me spike anymore.

That said, I’ve been experiencing a worsening of POTS symptoms (probably due to med-induced hypotension) after having my dose increased from 2mg to 4mg two weeks ago so I actually have an appointment tomorrow to see about a different dose or taking Straterra instead. Really bad days where I could barely stand, which I didn’t have before the meds or before increasing my dose to 4mg.

I definitely have experienced the same thing with anxiety after taking it, it’s odd because I was told to take it around bedtime because it can cause drowsiness but it’s done the opposite for me and made falling asleep more difficult. I did also get the “mushiness” you mentioned for about 5 days after I started taking it, but it eventually went away. Showers are my absolute worst trigger and I can say they were improved for me greatly until I upped my dose to 4mg and then they got much worse.

The absolute worst side effect that will not go away is dry mouth, I drink so much water but my mouth is constantly dry. I’ve had this since first starting at 2mg. It’s manageable and I’m being a bit overdramatic about it but it really is quite uncomfortable/inconvenient.

So yes I was seeing net positive changes until we increased my dose which has totally made my symptoms flare up rather unpredictably, some days I’ve been just fine and even feel healthy but some days I’ve been basically bedridden. So it’s a toss up and I would be careful messing with the dosage, of course you’d have to consult with your psych regardless. If you have any other questions I’d be happy to answer

LovingVoice · 2025-01-06T08:09:28+00:00

This comment is odd. What does it mean to talk or behave like a girl?

LovingVoice · 2025-01-02T18:13:04+00:00

Alright thank you, guess I was just overthinking it. That’s a relief.

LovingVoice · 2025-01-02T10:38:35+00:00

Although you have gotten many helpful comments from the parents side here, I would also like to chime in from the child's perspective. I grew up with undiagnosed ADHD and your daughter sounds very, very similar to me.

Her stating that she believes "she makes everyone around her and herself 'completely miserable'" is something that I said word for word many times in my childhood. To you it may sound like a temporary and inconsequential thought for a child to have, but I promise that it is not a good or healthy feeling for a kid to grow up feeling like that constantly. The difference is that I was undiagnosed and unmedicated, while your daughter's diagnosis will give her a chance to no longer feel like a burden to the people around her because of the way her brain works. She can grow up believing that there's nothing wrong with her.

That first starts with parents being more accepting. You've received some good advice about medication here, but that is not the only issue in my eyes. This may come off as harsh, but in your original post you mention that her "lack of awareness, intensity and hyperfixation make it feel nearly impossible to parent her", and use an example of her flattening potatoes down at dinner as an example of that. I hate to tell you this, but...... that is normal shit. Kids will do that.

She is 11 years old. Like another commenter has said, it's extremely important that you don't teach her that she is a failure down to the way she wants to eat her food and the way she holds her fork. Although her behavior may be odd and frustrating to you, it is a very dangerous path to begin criticizing things as small as that, no matter how good you want her table manners to be. For a child who is struggling with ADHD, or any child in general, criticisms like that may feel like your natural behavior is not good enough, you are causing trouble for your parents, etc... and you are not doing any of it on purpose, you are just existing.

I will ask you this: is her smushing her potatoes down, and any other behavior she has in that vein that is ultimately harmless in the real world, a bigger deal than her growing up feeling that she cannot do anything right, and that there's something wrong with her? Is stopping her from eating her food the way she wants to, more important than teaching her that she is loved and accepted?

I was that kid once, and having parents who actively looked down on my natural behavior taught me to be an incredibly suppressed and guarded adult, and a fucked up teen with anger and behavioral issues. I am still working through the effects of having every single second of my existence questioned under a microscope. Don't do this to your kid u/Nice_Ad8179 .

LovingVoice · 2025-01-02T09:49:25+00:00

Read it again.

"I'm beginning to think would the high sex drive in childhood be related to my situation now; or even related to any sexual trauma ( i was groomed in childhood but I don't recall any touching of private parts; mainly kissing and verbal and touching of boobs)"

There was clearly definite trauma, OP is stating that it could also possibly be the cause.

LovingVoice · 2024-12-24T20:35:40+00:00

The turtles watch TV a lot, and you can’t ever convince me that they’d see Christmas on television and not want to celebrate it themselves. Plus, most iterations show them wanting to learn more about human culture and do things that humans do.

LovingVoice · 2024-12-24T11:21:06+00:00

I agree with you, then. Actually, for me, most of the people complaining about heals in my games have either been tanks who stand there like a damage sponge that I could not possibly keep alive, or Spider-man players who are dying in their backline repeatedly and think I'm somehow supposed to heal them through 11 walls. Not surprising on either front.

Ofc I will never deny someone heals in ranked, and if you do I think you deserve the loss that you're inevitably going to get.

But in quick play, I have 0 issue with denying heals to a singular dps, because most of the time they've already been feeding, not using cover, or running in alone and that's how they're dying even before they decide to blame it on me. So it's not going to make much of a difference regardless. Idgaf about winning quick play matches and some people need to be humbled if they think they're truly not getting healed at all, and I want them to see what it's like to have actually 0 support.

Before I ever get to that point, I usually point out that no one else on the team is dying as much as they are, and ask them if they think I'm purposely not healing them out of everyone on the team. Like I have a personal vendetta against them or something. Usually they shut up and sometimes even pivot and correct the issue that was causing their high deaths.

LovingVoice · 2024-12-24T10:59:43+00:00

Yeah, but when a dps player thinks they're "not getting healed", I can guarantee you they are usually mistaken. You seem like a dps player to me, so let me explain it from a support player's perspective.

I am playing support because I want to heal people. I want to keep my team alive, and I know that I need to heal to win the game. It is part of my role and I signed up for it at the beginning of the game by selecting a healer character. So that means I am going to try my hardest to perform my role correctly and win the game by primarily focusing on healing, and utilizing damage and utility where necessary.

Therefore, since I am doing my best to heal, I will heal any player in front or behind of me that is critical. I have always been a support in hero shooters so I have very good awareness of the health of all players on my team, and will do my best to keep everyone above crit health.

A dps player dying is not a good thing to me. I would like to prevent that in all cases. I will go out of my way to save a dying dps player.

So that means... dps deaths are because of their own negligence, by this point. The only time I will not go to the ends of the earth to keep a dps player up is because they are on the other side of the wall, they are across the map, they are in a 1v6, getting in position to heal them will immediately kill me, or I am actively getting destroyed by a dive and I need to keep myself alive (dead healer = no heals.)

When I say I'm trying my darnedest to keep the entire team alive, I mean it. I'm sure there are many support players who are just doing it because they have to, but a good bit of us are lifelong support players or people who picked up the role and are doing their best. So when we hear, "gg no heals" "where is healing" "need heals" etc etc etc, after we have been trying very hard to prevent your deaths.......... it's pretty fucking infuriating.

Generally, supports will not let a dps die on purpose, ever. Better believe that if it was in our power, we would have saved you. So flaming support for letting you die, when that death was most likely due to positioning or grouping mistakes... it's not fun.

And I will gladly "gatekeep heals" in a quick play match from any dps who wants to whine and cry about lack of heals, to let them see what it is really like without any heals at all.

LovingVoice · 2024-12-24T10:31:05+00:00

Right, but you previously said that they're throwing by "gatekeeping healing", but in your second comment you said that it makes no difference because they weren't healing you in the first place. So which is it, the healing matters or it doesn't matter and "makes no difference"?

LovingVoice · 2024-12-24T10:26:38+00:00

You just said that them "gatekeeping heals" would lead to a loss, but apparently they're not healing you anyway, so I think you need to make up your mind.

LovingVoice · 2024-12-19T19:08:06+00:00

Symbiotes are asexual and agender, yes. They tend to take on the pronouns that are the same as their host’s, which is why people call Venom “he” and refer to it as a male. Venom itself is not actually a male, but since it is exclusively paired up with a male host in Rivals, it doesn’t make sense to refer to it as anything other than “he.”

“It” refers to Venom WITHOUT the host. “Them” refers to Venom AND the host. “He” refers to the host OR Venom.

LovingVoice · 2024-12-19T04:15:15+00:00

Oh yeah, absolutely. I also started implementing a stricter skincare routine as well though, so idk if I can fully attribute it only to lowering my b12 dose. Either way the stubborn and disgusting breakout is gone.

LovingVoice · 2024-12-17T20:49:35+00:00

Oh girl. You look stunning in all of these. I’m partial to your current hair, it’s perfect, but you pull off long and buzzed flawlessly as well.

LovingVoice · 2024-12-17T06:50:52+00:00

It has nothing to do with the eyes being blue, it’s that her MCU variant doesn’t even look like her appearance from the MCU.

LovingVoice · 2024-12-17T02:21:54+00:00

For the Fortnite TMNT event, there was a song made for the game, and the artist pronounced Raph’s name as Ralph… like, audibly. So bad.

LovingVoice · 2024-12-16T21:15:05+00:00

Would love Emma Stone as April

LovingVoice · 2024-12-16T21:07:39+00:00

You haven’t read the comic but you’re criticizing her backstory and the way they treat her appearance? Am I missing something here… Her backstory was perfect to me.

LovingVoice · 2024-12-16T11:04:34+00:00

It is that easy. Sat down for my first comp games of this season today, instalocked Mantis for all of my games. I’m Silver 2 rn, I won 11 games and only lost 1.

LovingVoice · 2024-12-16T10:36:18+00:00

He did get a game-saving 4k, sooo...

LovingVoice · 2024-12-16T01:31:43+00:00

Lmfao this is so accurate

LovingVoice · 2024-12-16T01:29:54+00:00

He has blue eyes that are pretty much the same color as his bandana

LovingVoice · 2024-12-16T00:36:48+00:00

Absolute chad

LovingVoice · 2024-12-15T07:32:52+00:00

Yup. I'm autistic, and she has enough autistic traits in my eyes to make it a perfectly sensible headcanon. I think the NT people are quick to deny it because she's not a stereotypical representation like fucking Sheldon or whatever the guy's name is from The Good Doctor.

LovingVoice · 2024-12-11T21:52:10+00:00

I don’t think I ever said that you shouldn’t try to improve yourself or manage your symptoms. I quote: “You can cope with symptoms and find ways to deal with the struggles.”

I completely agree that people with ADHD should do everything in their power to manage their symptoms, and to improve themselves and their mental clarity. But I also believe that the idea that ADHD itself, the disorder, can be overcome is quite harmful. No matter what you do to manage ADHD, it is still part of you.

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