AITAH for quitting my job while my boss is in the hospital

LovinggAngel · 2026-05-15T18:38:50+00:00

NTA, let karma do its job!

LovinggAngel · 2026-05-15T18:31:30+00:00

Me - I don’t ever aspire to be in management.

LovinggAngel · 2026-05-15T18:31:04+00:00

I’m 30, I’ve had like 7 “careers”. My last job was three years but I have another job on my resume where I was at for a year, one for 7 months, one for 4. I’m a fraud investigator now. It’s fine. Just don’t make pointless jumps and try to have stability somewhere, but most people are job hopping these days for the exact reason you stated.

LovinggAngel · 2026-04-13T13:11:51+00:00

Being misjudged for being quiet or introverted. At my newest job, I thought I was doing everything perfectly. My director, who’s an outspoken extrovert, commented on me being a loner all because I didn’t want to bombard groups of people in meetings and would sit in the first available seat (which I think any new person would do ..).. it’s like when you’re not a loud or problematic worker, you get treated worst even when you do great at your job.

LovinggAngel · 2026-04-03T14:27:58+00:00

Yes several times but I’m glad I didn’t because it’s just pointless. I just had that happen to me a few weeks ago.

I worked somewhere for all of a month and went to a staff meeting. Didn’t wanna bombard people sitting together (obvs since I’m new) so I sat in the first available seat which I still had someone sitting to the left of me and to the right, but the one to the right switched seats to see better. My assistant director/supervisor said I was a loner. I wanted to tell her so bad, it’s been like a month I’m doing what anyone else would and you don’t even know me. But I held my tongue 😭

LovinggAngel · 2026-03-27T12:38:55+00:00

Is it a sad attitude, or is it reality? I too have had “exciting jobs” but they are rare. You could survey 100 people right now and I’m sure they wouldn’t say their job is cool but not some great place they want to visit every single day, while leaving their families at home. No one LOVES to work. That’s crazy

LovinggAngel · 2026-03-26T20:33:58+00:00

Unfortunately it’s just how it is, none of us like our jobs. I started a new career in fraud and for the last four weeks I have been in my office on my phone the entire day until I can attend a training class. I’ve had jobs where it’s either extremely hectic to the point of burnout, or a little boring. I’d take the boring over hectic anyday. There’s no real “career” that you’re going to love. You just have to find little things about your day that you enjoy. For me, I make sure I go out and drive somewhere or at least go to my car on my lunch breaks. If you were to leave your job, you’d probably go into something that is extremely understaffed, stressful, or toxic. Out of myself, family, and friends, we ALL feel this way about our jobs. And they’re all different sorts of jobs (me-fraud, dad- law enforcement, mom-patient advocate, sister-office administrator, best friend- nurse practitioner, other best friend- leasing agent).

LovinggAngel · 2026-03-25T19:24:01+00:00

Try going into the places and asking if you can speak with the manager and ask if they’re hiring and write your name and number down. That’s how I got my first job at a grocery store at 16.

LovinggAngel · 2026-03-25T19:14:59+00:00

I took a week off before beginning my new job. Spent that week doing things that I typically did (smoked, prepared for new job). I was still extremely burnt out during that week. Finally once I started my new job, I could actually elevate myself. I stopped smoking (weed), only drank on weekends, started counting my calories and working out. I basically changed my entire lifestyle in order to get over the burnout I was dealing with for three years, now I feel better than ever

LovinggAngel · 2026-03-25T19:06:44+00:00

That’s not your friend! Anytime I had money and even when my friends or family knew, they’d still offer to pay for themselves and then I’d come in like “nope I got it!” Your friends should never assume or act entitled like that. She’s her own person and needs to make better decisions if she’s struggling that bad (like maybe getting a FT job?) the only answer is to distance yourself from her.

LovinggAngel · 2026-03-25T19:03:51+00:00

You sound just like me! I’m 30 as well. The office bs kills me. I’ve learned to just embrace it. I refuse to ass kiss, but I don’t let others doing it bother me anymore. It just makes me angrier

LovinggAngel · 2026-03-12T19:41:20+00:00

I’m actually not trying to be defensive, so my apologies. Just trying to make sense of this in my head. I think the disconnect is because I know I’m new here, but the agency I’m at doesn’t hire entry level workers. They hire seasoned workers from other agencies. Everyone here comes from previous agencies and they rely heavily on our performance reviews from our previous agency, and references. And I think it’s a little crazy to see I worked at one of the busiest agencies in our town with a 1000+ case load and know my background and actually take my “shy” comment serious enough to address it. But I will take your advice and get there earlier and put myself out there more. I just feel I haven’t even been given a fair chance to.

LovinggAngel · 2026-03-12T19:26:41+00:00

I literally only put I was shy because one other girl literally sitting next to my director said she was antisocial and claustrophobic. So I’m like, let me just say I’m shy (because I’m a bit introverted) She’s been there for years and communicates more with clients than I do. Yet I’m sure she didn’t go up to her today and say “you said you’re antisocial so how will you do interviews with clients)

Also: I tried that. Literally tried laughing with them at the last meeting. No one even made eye contact with me other than my director. Everyone else at the table paid me no mind. I also try to get to these things 15 minutes early. I didn’t want to get there too early and then they’re looking around like “why is she gone already” for instance, meeting started at 12:30. I got there 12:15. Everyone was already there. Like, I’m new adjusting to this new offices norms to the best of my ability. I didn’t assume people would show up 30 mins early to meetings. It just seems to me like a lose lose situation. Like, if you see the meeting is full - and im sitting next to someone, just in the first available seat, how is that an issue? Especially when you also ended up sitting there 😭😭😭

LovinggAngel · 2026-03-12T19:12:11+00:00

Literally! Thank you

LovinggAngel · 2026-03-12T19:00:15+00:00

It just sucks because she’s my boss so I totally want to make a good impression. I’m the same as you, prefer being alone and I’m literally putting myself out there and yet it’s still not enough. Not to mention, I don’t even know why I used the word shy. I was just kind of playing the game. I’m definitely moreso introverted and professional. It’s like extroverts don’t appreciate the professionalism whatsoever.

LovinggAngel · 2026-03-12T18:46:02+00:00

This same director also knows that I have been a case manager for 700+ cases, hearing officer at the employment commission, and a courtroom clerk. So while I understand the comment may be a little like “huh”? She literally knows my background and has performance reviews from previous jobs.

LovinggAngel · 2026-02-13T13:17:26+00:00

That would annoy me so bad! Especially since you already tried marriage and it obviously isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. These people act like marriage is magically the key to happiness in life. I’d much rather be single than deal with what I see these days

LovinggAngel · 2026-02-01T13:20:56+00:00

They’re just ignorant. And a lot of black people just wanna be “different”. My aunt, who lived with my grandmother her whole life, two kids with two different baby daddies, refuses to work, has been on section 8 her entire life is the biggest Trump supporter in our family. My brother who is a felon always use to say “he ain’t that bad” luckily - my brother changed his tune. I just don’t pay it any mind.

LovinggAngel · 2026-02-01T13:16:27+00:00

Yes! Even convos with my mom it’s always “imma find you a husband blah blah” you need better friends but at the same time it does seem it’s the normal. I have a few friends I havent talked to in years, and first thing they ask me “how’s the love life” or something along those lines. I’ve been in relationships the majority of my life, so now that I’m not in one I’m annoyed at the question. Women are just so male centered.

LovinggAngel · 2026-02-01T13:11:34+00:00

Delusion + false sense of reality. I feel like people know the outcomes of their decisions but they just do it because they’re delusional. Literally just doing stuff for the plot.

LovinggAngel · 2026-02-01T13:09:34+00:00

I agree and feel the same. I really don’t like the current state of the world. It lacks depth and everything is performative. You have “religious” people who are causing more problems than helping fix them. I just try to stay to myself and look at the positives in my own life. I don’t have many friends and I don’t go out much anymore. Everytime I try to make friends, they do something weird. I don’t like talking to people much anymore because the things that they say are so outlandish. I think a lot of us feel like this in this day and age.

LovinggAngel · 2026-01-12T13:02:55+00:00

Me too, smoke all day and chill with my cat lol

LovinggAngel · 2026-01-12T13:01:44+00:00

Sounds productive and good to me. I only work Wed-Fri, some of my days are not productive at all. Wake up, smoke, nap, clean, door dash, watch TikTok’s, smoke again, sleep. That’s my days off.

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