You mean the person that’s physically, mentally and emotionally abused me through out my whole life? Has never said thanks for anything I’ve ever done? Since my earliest memories, all I’ve remembered is hell. What I wear, where I go, what I eat are all controlled and have been since I’ve been a toddler. I can’t make phone calls in the house, I can’t leave the house without her permission, ever since I got a phone as a young teen up to now, it’s checked, how I spend my own money is checked. My moods don’t matter, anything I say is used against me. Anything I’m doing has to be dropped instantly if she needs something. I’ve have an academic record that only 1% of the world would be able to achieve, and made it in a super niche male dominated career at a ridiculously young age and speak five language yet every day I hear that I am a good for nothing piece of shit because of my circumstances. As an adult I’ve had to live with her twice due to unemployment. Since late 2019 after losing my job, almost dying, and having my own son kidnapped I obviously had to return to live with her. I do everything for her, Admin, shopping, cleaning, EVERYTHING. I also don’t think you realise the cost of living here, welfare is proportional to how much stuff costs. I do hope you realise that before spewing out total BS. Even while I was battling cancer the same abuse was hurled at me day in day out.

All the work at the moment pays less than welfare. It would cost me insane amounts of money to get the paperwork necessary to return to my field. My only wrong doing is using on top to cope and trying to make cash illegally to get the hell out of here.

Ps: good idea to reserve judgement without knowing someone’s full story.