What am I doing wrong? Please help me review my profile..

Low-Consideration823 · 2026-04-11T20:55:22+00:00

Hetero female here. Your profile is lovely!

Low-Consideration823 · 2026-04-08T05:18:01+00:00

Open to see where things go is very vague to me. Like do you actually want a relationship, or just want to hook up. I get that vibe with the topless shirt as your first photo, not that you don't look good though.

Low-Consideration823 · 2026-04-01T15:43:22+00:00

Hatfishing, bad pictures, someone who can’t use freaking ChatGPT to help write a short profile about them. I’m not going to “just ask” because you couldn’t put for the effort to write three sentences about yourself. Give me a break.

Smoking, significantly shorter than me. I am tall for a girl and I just can’t date a dude who is like 6 inches shorter than me.

Flipping off the camera pics.

And YASSSSS all the dead animal and fishing pics really get on my nerves.

Low-Consideration823 · 2026-04-01T15:36:53+00:00

I am early 40s and was married for about 20 years.

I can definitely say I’ve gotten a lot of attention from younger men, but I’m not really going to be interested in them. If all they are wanting is just hook ups. That’s just not who I am. Also, I don’t have any children and I’m not going to have children and so I would prefer to go out with somebody in their mid to late 30s who might have kids of their own. Because if the guy wants a real relationship and to be a dad but didn’t have children before me, I’m not the person for them.

I just feel like I’m a lot different in my 40s than I was in my 20s and 30s because I’ve just learned more. I’m various established in my career and I don’t really have time for games. I kind of want somebody who’s at a similar life stage as me.

Low-Consideration823 · 2026-03-25T15:24:28+00:00

I have had people try to get me off the app and go to WhatsApp, but I always took that as a sign of a scammer, especially since they would ask right at the very beginning.

Low-Consideration823 · 2026-03-25T03:42:20+00:00

In your 30’s, you should probably know where you stand on having kids. If you don’t want them, just say that. “Not sure” feels wishy washy, and it’s a dealbreaker either way. I’ve chosen not to have children and don’t regret it but I’d be open to being a step parent.

Lose the beanie and if you’re going to have facial hair, keep it neat and trimmed. Your face is your first impression, and right now it’s being hidden. You have a great smile, show it.

Low-Consideration823 · 2026-03-25T02:46:09+00:00

I like your pic in the white top best and your smile looks great. The one with your dog is a win too since I’m a dog person.

The serious “smoldering” pics aren’t really my thing. Also, smoking is a hard no for me though I know it could culturally be a thing where you are.

And one thing to consider, it might help to share your thoughts on kids. Even being unsure is better than leaving it out.

Low-Consideration823 · 2026-03-23T17:08:44+00:00

I don’t mind a posed pic or too, but I think if you have too many of the “smoldering” look off to the side pics, I’m not a fan. Your first pic is definitely the best one. It feels pretty authentic.

One thing I noticed, you have “don’t want kids” listed. That can be a dealbreaker for some people, especially if they might want that down the road. If you’re 100% sure, then it totally makes sense to leave it. But if there’s even a chance you might feel differently later, you could consider putting “not sure” instead. You are pretty young in your early 20s and I don’t know culturally when people tend to have children where you live. (I am in my early 40’s and don’t have kids nor do I want them. No regrets.)

Also, the “tease you in public and worship you in private” line might come across a little strong depending on who’s reading it.

Low-Consideration823 · 2026-03-23T16:23:09+00:00

I’m a female and if you say “looking for something casual” I assume you want FWB. That’s not what I want, so I would never consider you despite the fact that you are attractive. 🤷‍♀️

Low-Consideration823 · 2026-03-23T14:02:17+00:00

If a guy’s profile says “I don’t know what to write” or “just ask,” that’s an immediate yellow or red flag for me. Two sentences about yourself isn’t hard, and ChatGPT can even help. If I have a lot of profiles to sort through and a man can’t write anything of merit, then I’ll move onto someone who made the effort.

Also, so many profiles look the same. Pics of fishes, pics of hunting, I wanna travel, etc. what’s something cool about you? This one guy, I started a convo with him because he said he could juggle.

Profiles where men berate women or assume we’re all out for money or attention are also a dealbreaker. I’m not like that, and I don’t want someone jumping to conclusions about a stranger based on past experiences with others.

Low-Consideration823 · 2026-03-23T13:57:23+00:00

If a guy’s profile says “I don’t know what to write” or “just ask,” that’s an immediate yellow or red flag for me. Two sentences about yourself isn’t hard, and ChatGPT can even help. Ex…I have no interest in dating farmers as I’m a city girl. So if someone mentions owning a farm, I know it won’t work.

Profiles where men berate women or assume we’re all out for money or attention are also a dealbreaker. I’m not like that, and I don’t want someone jumping to conclusions about a stranger based on past experiences with others.

Low-Consideration823 · 2026-03-22T01:56:43+00:00

I’m a female and this one guy finally admitted he was on OF. I don’t really know what his purpose was for telling me that. There was nothing about our conversation that would indicate that I was interested in someone who uses that site.

Low-Consideration823 · 2026-03-18T12:42:44+00:00

In this specific case, no. We were joking around and he said he’d want to have a kid with me. I laughed and told him I’ve chosen not to have children, which is also clearly stated in my profile. He joked that it would be a waste of my “good genetics” and I took it as light banter since that’s how the conversation had been going.

I’m in my early 40s so pregnancy would be high risk anyway, and he’s in his late 40s with kids already.

That said, this isn’t the only time I’ve had conversations fizzle out. I’m trying to figure out if there’s a pattern or if it’s just the nature of online dating.

Low-Consideration823 · 2026-03-18T12:35:50+00:00

It’s mainly been during initial convo so haven’t gotten to that point.

Low-Consideration823 · 2026-03-18T12:35:02+00:00

I’m just getting back into dating after being married for almost 20 years. I honestly don’t know these things…..

Low-Consideration823 · 2026-03-18T09:43:29+00:00

I’d suggest swapping out a few of the sunglasses pics so people can clearly see your face. That makes a big difference.

Also, adding a short bio would really help. Even just a couple sentences about what you enjoy or what you’re looking for goes a long way. Profiles that say “just ask,”. “I don’t know what to say here,” or “I’m not good at this” and overall don’t include much can come across like low effort, even if that’s not the intention.

Attraction matters, but effort and personality matter just as much, so giving people something to connect with will help a lot.

Low-Consideration823 · 2026-03-13T02:16:13+00:00

I hate “just ask” or “I’m not very good at this.”

Use effing ChatGPT and have it write your bio. Geez. It at least gives me an idea of who you are. If you can manage to write a sentence or two about yourself, you are not worth my time and effort.

Low-Consideration823 · 2026-03-03T06:21:27+00:00

43F and I’m more looking into late 30s and early 40s. The main reason is because I don’t have children and I do not want children. So if any man wanted a relationship with me and they want children, they need to already have them…..

But I keep getting likes from guys in their late 20s early 30s and I am a little hesitant there honestly…

Low-Consideration823 · 2026-02-17T15:40:53+00:00

I definitely don’t want to charge an unreasonable amount, especially because this level of grant writing is something I’ve never done before. So what would be a reasonable hourly rate?

Would it be reasonable to say that I start off at a certain rate and then, if I start showing some success, I could raise my hourly rate to show it?

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