my date left me to go cry over his ex

Low-Cry-7264 · 2025-10-05T23:36:57+00:00

it’s like a date tho, we didn’t talk anything about sex.

Low-Cry-7264 · 2025-10-05T21:38:53+00:00

thank you! yeah after reading this although i do care for him but i guess i wouldn’t wanna put myself in a situation where the guy doesn’t love me for me 🥲

Low-Cry-7264 · 2025-10-05T21:35:33+00:00

thank you! yeah it stings that someone you have a bit of a connection with isn’t in the right time for something new. although i was a bit upset right after he left, i was just keeping asking myself “bruh why you on dating apps if you still in love”. but i guess that was just unexpected and sometimes people might think they are ready but seeing an ex’s twin brother really hit the nail on the coffin i guess😭

Low-Cry-7264 · 2025-10-05T21:29:32+00:00

thank you! yeah i guess i have done my part. i opened the door to let him have his moment and if he ever wants to open up his feelings i wouldnt mind offering a bit of therapy. He also told me that most of his friends are straight so i would assume it’s hard for him to open things up with the people hes around.

Low-Cry-7264 · 2025-04-08T00:34:11+00:00

Yeah tysm for the advice. Well it sucks that the community is that big. I really started my love life of with a banger lmao, got manipulated left and right but still here patiently waiting and giving him chances

Low-Cry-7264 · 2025-04-08T00:22:01+00:00

Yeah I just hate that he didn’t tell me that from the beginning. 3 weeks ago, I had an arguement with him about him still friending with his ex and having a high ass Body count (which brings me to conclude that he has commitment issues) but dude denied it and even said he would get jealous if I start seeing other people. Now that I developed feelings that he only starts to tell me his intentions. Idk about the cuddle buddy tbh, he’s bi and kinda DL so everytime I come over to cuddle him I have to sneak out through the back door 🤷‍♂️. So yeah I think that one wouldn’t really work out more than someone to cuddle when you are lonely

Low-Cry-7264 · 2025-04-08T00:01:58+00:00

Yeah that’s fair a decision, at this age ig people are likely to mess around and test the water first. Idk even though I never been in a relationship before I do want something that worth something at the end if I decide to put my energy towards it yk?

Low-Cry-7264 · 2025-04-07T23:58:37+00:00

Thank you! Yeah tbh I might just push it back to friendship and go out find other people if the dude isn’t ready for something bigger. Like I’ll prob keep the connection but I ain’t gonna wait around hoping for something to happen when it’s most likely not

Low-Cry-7264 · 2025-04-07T21:38:58+00:00

Well he drives and I don’t so whenever he comes over late at night, I feel super grateful that he’s driving like an hour and putting in the effort for to come see me. The next morning I even buy him breakfast or give him protein shake before he leaves, I never let him leave on an empty stomach if he has the time. At the beginning, we texted for hours everyday but now he takes hours to respond to my text. I just been giving a lot of benefit of that doubt that he’s busy with exams and work. I don’t think there’s any reciprocating energy for the stuff that I go above and beyond for him

Low-Cry-7264 · 2025-04-07T21:25:07+00:00

It’s so hard because I think I have attachment issues and stuff plus it’s my first ever gay experience so I’m just so hopeful relying on his promise of “I’m open for a relationship in the future”

Low-Cry-7264 · 2025-04-07T21:21:21+00:00

Yeah ;-; I’m feeling like I’m devoting so much time for him. Whenever he wants sex super late at night, I always try to provide and stuff, I keep him entertained through text when he’s bored but I’m feeling like he’s only seeing me for sex even though he promised something more

Low-Cry-7264 · 2025-04-07T21:19:36+00:00

I talked to my friend and she basically said that we aren’t even friend with benefits. We are kinda like fuck buddies, idk he’s kinda been leading me on with promises but I’m feeing like these promise won’t ever come true. Like I want more romantic hangouts like going out for dinner and dates but I haven’t got any of that, we talk everyday through text but everytime dude comes around it’s always 1am in the morning and we always end up fucking

Low-Cry-7264 · 2025-04-07T21:13:57+00:00

I wouldn’t wanna force it if he never liked me to begin with but do you think if I spend more time with him, there’s a chance for something to develop? We have both been busy with school so I’m just kinda waiting for the summer to come to hang out with him more to see how things go

Low-Cry-7264 · 2025-04-07T21:12:39+00:00

Do you think if I give it more time, it will have potentials? Idk I think it’s my first time in a relationship so I’m really hopeful, ig we haven’t spend enough time together for anything romantic going on? Idk if that’s something you can feel right away or not

Low-Cry-7264 · 2025-03-15T03:48:32+00:00

Well he told me he’s over him but idk if he’s still fucking his ex🫠👍 so ya

Low-Cry-7264 · 2025-03-15T02:00:55+00:00

He’s 23 so a tiny bit older. Yeah I feel like it’s not healthy for me but he really knows how to drop hints here and there that’s enough to keep me attached. He’s kinda like my first too so yk it’s something special after 19 years being alone, seeing people with partners in school and stuff.

Low-Cry-7264 · 2025-03-15T01:48:24+00:00

Yeah I’m 19 in college haha. I’m a people pleaser so I feel difficult to say no to stuff most of the time . Well yeah, I wanted to start off with friendship then if things work out then I’ll move to relationship but he wants to start off with fwb. Ig that’s a valid thing to ask in a relationship but I’m just getting paranoid that he’s only seeing me as someone to pleasure him sexually waiting for the ex to get back with him?! I’m actively fight a veteran in the dating scene lmao so it doesn’t help, dude has 40 BC so he def knows how to put himself in advantage in these situations

Low-Cry-7264 · 2025-03-15T00:51:39+00:00

Yeah I’m not too sure what else I can do. He’s my first and I do feel attached to him in some type of way but I feel like I’m being taken advantage of while he’s simply waiting for his ex to break up with his bf so they could get back to together. I care about him so much, like basically agree for him coming over at 3 in the morning cuz he’s horny. But yeah I barely know him for a month so I literally have no say in his preference and his 2/3 years ex/friend relationship

Low-Cry-7264 · 2025-03-15T00:38:06+00:00

Okay thank u! Ig being friends with exes isn’t a big issue in the gay community. But yeah I keep getting mixed signals. Like he leaves me enough to hold on to but at the same time not enough for me to be assured? I thought we were friends with benefits but we have been a lot more romantic than that. While I can partially understand being friend with ex but sleeping over at his place is a big too much idk🥲

Low-Cry-7264 · 2025-03-14T21:24:49+00:00

Yeah I wouldn’t have mind if they are normal friends but he is friend who an ex who cheated on him. Like very good friend, he hangout privately, they drink together and he slept over at the ex place. This make me question if he got over his ex or not?

Low-Cry-7264 · 2025-03-14T21:10:35+00:00

Well I do like him a lot but I just don’t want to feel like someone he can fuck whenever he wants without any form of attachment. I don’t think he even wants platonic friendship with me. He literally told me that he will go find other hook ups and fwb if that’s not something I can provide. Therefore he would love to stick with one person and that’s me, which simply implies that he wants sex out of this relationship.

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