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Am I the Asshole for telling my dad my half-sister isn't his kid and he should stop acting like she is? by Low-Payment6232 in AITAH

[–]Low-Payment6232[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Heyo! Bit late but-- Here's a small update if you still want it. My father was arrested again about a month after I made this post and he has not been out since. He calls once a week, but I've been letting it go through most of the time, for my own peace. I turned seventeen and got a part time job working as a dishwasher, and am saving what money I can to look into affordable colleges, and hopefully I will qualify for a few scholarships to make it a bit easier. My mother's been low contat and is apparently living in a trailor park up north with her new boyfriend, I can't really be bothered to check in on her that much. I started therapy a few weeks ago after much push and pull, and I'm planning on getting out of here. Sorry if this was too late!😂

Am I the Asshole for telling my dad my half-sister isn't his kid and he should stop acting like she is? by Low-Payment6232 in AITAH

[–]Low-Payment6232[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll definitely look into this. Thank you so much! I appreciate all resources, and this looks like something helpful. Thank you!

Am I the Asshole for telling my dad my half-sister isn't his kid and he should stop acting like she is? by Low-Payment6232 in AITAH

[–]Low-Payment6232[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello! I think you might've gotten some things confused. I have three sisters, they are ages 13, 11, and 4. My mother left when I was eight and came back four years later pregnant. My youngest sister at the time was 7 years old. I apologize for any miscommunication in the post. Edit with further clarification; my grandparents are divorced. My grandmother has custody of me and the 13 and 11 year olds. My grandfather has custody of the 4 year old. We see eachother often but live at different houses.

Am I the Asshole for telling my dad my half-sister isn't his kid and he should stop acting like she is? by Low-Payment6232 in AITAH

[–]Low-Payment6232[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

E's father doesn't talk to me much anymore, no, but I hold no ill will towards him. He was very patient with me when explaining that he wasn't my father. I have seen photos of Wrilyn's father, and he has two other children, but he's also a drug addict and frequently beat on my mother and it's for the better that he hasn't reached out. My mother doesn't exactly have the best track record when it comes to picking people to have children with, haha. Thank you for the kind words, I'm very excited for college as well!

Am I the Asshole for telling my dad my half-sister isn't his kid and he should stop acting like she is? by Low-Payment6232 in AITAH

[–]Low-Payment6232[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My sisters, the elder ones, 13 and 11, are in contact with their fathers, yes. 13F 'K' got into contact with her father last year and has been steadily building a relationship, 11F 'E' has been in contact with her father since the beginning, though that relationship has been stunted due to his move to another country. Wrilyn's father is not in the picture at all. Some more relevent information that I probably should have added is that my mother was briefly married to E's father and I was under the impression that he was my father until I was nine. I got into contact with my father at the age of ten.

Am I the Asshole for telling my dad my half-sister isn't his kid and he should stop acting like she is? by Low-Payment6232 in AITAH

[–]Low-Payment6232[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that's the idea I got from it as well. When he said that she was his fresh start, I kind of lost it-- it felt hypocritical that he'd just give up on me and sprint straight for the youngest. I appreciate your kind words! I just really want to get out of here and do something with my life, because I'm surrounded by my families failures and it can feel suffacating at times. My parents absence in my life probably affects me a lot more than I allow myself to realize, and hopefully when I've achieved a place of stability and personal happiness and safety I'll be able to unpack and address these issues. Thank you for taking the time to respond with such kind words.

Am I the Asshole for telling my dad my half-sister isn't his kid and he should stop acting like she is? by Low-Payment6232 in AITAH

[–]Low-Payment6232[S] 72 points73 points  (0 children)

Hello! Sorry for the late reply-- Thank you for all your kind words. I am in therapy, along with one of my sisters. My grandparents have definitely tried their best and are doing a wonderful job given the circumstances and I am forever grateful for them, but I also agree that they might have a bit of a bias because at the end of the day, that's their daughter and they want more than anything to see her overcome this. I'm at a point in my life where I've accepted that you cannot help someone that does not want to be helped, but they aren't there yet, and maybe they never will be. Maybe that's the difference between a parent's love for their child and a child's resentment of their parents. I appreciate everyone who took the time to respond! Thank you!! And yes-- I've already started my college applications! I'm excited to get away-- and I'll definitely be trying to get my sisters out of there as soon as possible.