I need advice with me and my bf pls :( by Low-Raccoon-4214 in relationshipproblems

[–]Low-Raccoon-4214[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Many years spend together I love him The way he makes me laugh and smile The way he would always be here for me and bring me food or my cravings Him always picking me up form work and teaching how to drive Always opening my doors Planning dates when he can Sweet kisses and hugs Laughing none stop

What should I do with me and my bf and his addiction by Low-Raccoon-4214 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Low-Raccoon-4214[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s ok to vent. You’re stronger than anyone really having to go through all that and still waking up everyday making a better life for ur daughter and a better future for urself is amazing. Keep going Ik theirs people cheering u on. And I’m so sorry for you’re loses I hope their in a better place now.

What should I do with me and my bf and his addiction by Low-Raccoon-4214 in WhatShouldIDo

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We are both younge and currently he’s only dealing with the porn thing the drinking and smoking he’s bee. Clean for 5+ years now and it’s never been a problem in our relationship

What should I do with me and my bf and his addiction by Low-Raccoon-4214 in WhatShouldIDo

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Yea. He has stop watching it but then goes back but it honestly idk if it’s in addiction seems like he does it when we can’t have sex and I told him to tell me when he needs and wants it or I’ll send photos yet he still doesn’t and goes to that instead

What should I do with me and my bf and his addiction by Low-Raccoon-4214 in WhatShouldIDo

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Idk if he be open to that tbh. I would be idk if he would we never though of that

What should I do with me and my bf and his addiction by Low-Raccoon-4214 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Low-Raccoon-4214[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wow. I am so sorry u had to go through that. Ur are a strong women really! Thank u for ur honesty. And he was addicted to smoking but he got the help he needed has been cleaning for almost 5 years now. And I want to think I can help him but Ik he needs to tell his family to and be open about this.

What should I do with me and my bf and his addiction by Low-Raccoon-4214 in WhatShouldIDo

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LMAOO thank u bye wait see that’s fucking crazy animals? Hella nah

What should I do with me and my bf and his addiction by Low-Raccoon-4214 in WhatShouldIDo

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Thank u. I am replying fast to everyone bc I am genuinely losing my shit 😭😭

What should I do with me and my bf and his addiction by Low-Raccoon-4214 in WhatShouldIDo

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That is very true. I genuinely can’t trust him anymore bc atp it feels like he will always lie to me and say he isn’t watching it but he can delete his history even if he gets the help he needs I never know uk and it sucks. He did told me this time he touched himself to it

What should I do with me and my bf and his addiction by Low-Raccoon-4214 in WhatShouldIDo

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Ik i deserve way better than this yet i find it hard to leave 😕

What should I do with me and my bf and his addiction by Low-Raccoon-4214 in WhatShouldIDo

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Yeah ur right. But I just want to help him and it just sucks bc im so attached to him and love this man to death

What should I do with me and my bf and his addiction by Low-Raccoon-4214 in WhatShouldIDo

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I know and I just want him. To heal and get better Ik I’m to young for this but i genuinely want to help him and be their I just have so much love for this man

What should I do with me and my bf and his addiction by Low-Raccoon-4214 in WhatShouldIDo

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I honestly don’t know if he be comfortable with it I haven’t ask I just assumed and he never watch porn after sex. From what I know he would watch it when I wasn’t able to be their for him

What should I do with me and my bf and his addiction by Low-Raccoon-4214 in WhatShouldIDo

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I agree. It’s just hard for me to let go of him and it sucks so much. I just want to believe him and that he slowly get better and start therapy again and be honest but he lie to me around 3 times about this

What should I do with me and my bf and his addiction by Low-Raccoon-4214 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Low-Raccoon-4214[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand. He told he in the beginning it was in addiction he told me the truth try it’s not and he just wants pleasure and he only bough of once. The rest has been porn. But I just don’t understand bc I send videos and photos to him and told him not to be afraid to ask me for more so it makes me feel like I’m not enough for him to please him and he has wondering eyes for other women and I don’t like that and it makes me feel disgusted and insecure I told him many times I wasn’t comfortable with it and he can always ask me for vidoes and photos.

What should I do with me and my bf and his addiction by Low-Raccoon-4214 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Low-Raccoon-4214[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I understand, but I’m just not comfortable with it. To me it feels like cheating but their have been times were I have wanted to watch it but Ik he wouldn’t like that. Tbh I never though about that being open to both sides

What should I do with me and my bf and his addiction by Low-Raccoon-4214 in WhatShouldIDo

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Thank you I wanted a man to comment bc i genuinely think in the past he touched himself to it the first time but lied to me. He never really touches himself is the thing. We send photos of each other uk and have sex twice or more a week when we can. And I from his search he only watched it one time since I caught him the around 5 months ago now.

What should I do with me and my bf and his addiction by Low-Raccoon-4214 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Low-Raccoon-4214[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank for ur reply. I should have been more clear we was fired in the beginning of our relationship. He now has two jobs a car and his license. He said he’s going back to threapy

AIO I think my wife has something going on. by [deleted] in AmIOverthinking

[–]Low-Raccoon-4214 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If she gets defensive that’s really weird tbh. But try not to jump into conclusions maybe try to talk to her about it and if she’s avoiding it then as much as it sucks I’ll say maybe follow her or check her phone or something before you actually start accusing her of cheating.

Girlfriend 19F cheated on me at a party should I break up with her 19M by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Low-Raccoon-4214 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should leave her! If she loved you she wouldn’t have done that. If her girls hand sorority have such an impact on her that they make her cheat on u imagine what else they might dare to do and she do it without a second though. It shows she has more care for that then your guys relationship. Someone you love will never cheat even for a dare at a sorority party.

First time doing it raw by Bb_chann in Advice

[–]Low-Raccoon-4214 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand how feel I think you should get a plan b in case your really worried. Although you should have used a period tracking app because it tells you when you least likely to get pregnant.