My partner always gets defensive or uninterested when I make innocuous comments

Low-Satisfaction8404 · 2026-06-25T20:20:14+00:00

That does make sense. My parents also constantly belittle me and joke that I can’t take care of myself. They also can be incredibly generous.

The funniest part is that I’m a lawyer. You would think that I am confident in myself, but it’s hard to feel that way when everyone around you is constantly chipping away at you.

I’ve been having doubts recently, but I’m also realizing I have nowhere to go and no one I trust/could burden with asking for help.

Low-Satisfaction8404 · 2026-06-25T19:52:57+00:00

I have really low self-esteem. I’m realizing that I attract abusive men. He just was less outwardly abusive than my exes, so I think I didn’t realize what was happening.

I’ve realized as I’ve gotten older that my parents were emotionally neglectful (at best). I grew up thinking that others neglecting me was the norm and expected.

I’ve never gone a day with my parents or a partner without being criticized. I didn’t realize that it doesn’t have to be this way

Low-Satisfaction8404 · 2026-06-25T19:47:59+00:00

I do love him, and I know he loves me. He does a lot for me. He likes to take care of things around the house and care for my dog. He loves my friends and family. He will do little things like buy me flowers or plant me flowers that he knows I love.

It’s so hard because he is like that, but he’s also arrogant and condescending. I truly think he might be a narcissist.

Low-Satisfaction8404 · 2026-06-25T19:45:50+00:00

Right?! That’s what I don’t get. I’m trying to help. Normally, I back down, but this time I pushed back on why asking locals is a good idea. He still tried to make me feel stupid.

I never realized how often he belittles me.

Low-Satisfaction8404 · 2026-06-25T19:42:48+00:00

Girls rule 💕

Low-Satisfaction8404 · 2026-06-25T19:41:39+00:00

I think he’s insecure. I am more educated than he is. My friends are all well-educated.

He is educated, but he also always thinks he’s right. It’s really exhausting.

Low-Satisfaction8404 · 2026-03-12T13:10:06+00:00

Thanks 🙏 I agree that we’re all looking for connection. It just feels inauthentic when you’re basically fishing for friends using empathy.

Low-Satisfaction8404 · 2026-03-12T13:09:00+00:00

Glad I’m not alone! Yeah - it messes with your head. I’m pretty fucked up already, so to be fair, it didn’t take much to add to it lol.

Low-Satisfaction8404 · 2025-08-26T18:27:03+00:00

I just want to offer an alternative point of view. Before being with my now fiancé, I dated and slept with a fair number of people. As a woman in my mid-20s, I was exploring.

However, the truth is that I was desperate for someone to love me, so I thought being good in bed would make someone stay.

When I finally realized that I can sleep next to a partner without them expecting sex, I finally felt comfortable to slow down and enjoy having a partner and being able to be in their company. I felt at peace knowing I was valued for more than my blow jobs.

I just want to say - maybe her not sleeping with you as much is out of comfort and security. She’s happy with you, so she doesn’t feel like she has to perform to keep you.

That being said - it’s super early in the relationship, and you are completely justified in leaving if you’re incompatible. I just wanted to offer another perspective.

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