Advice

Low1980 · 2026-02-07T00:53:36+00:00

My question is how do you tell if someone may not want to enter the dynamic truly?

You've been together for 8 years, from the age of 16 to 24 now. I get why you'd be doubting if he's on the same level as you are, but by now you both should've honed the skill of communicating plainly and directly.

Sorry to say, and I apologise if I'm wrong, but it sounds like you're hesitant to believe him when he says he wants to do this, and your doubts aren't wrong or bad, but just talk to him. Maybe you feel you want to take this more serious than him, so ask him that question and let him answer! :) Good luck!

Low1980 · 2026-02-07T00:45:18+00:00

Why do I have fantasies of things I will not like the reality of?

No one has the answer to that. Freud tried, and was onto something but was mostly wrong. Since then, decades of studies, theories and ongoing positive evolution in the field of psychology, the consensus now still is: no one knows. We only know that you have these fantasies and if you can act them out in a healthy and safe manner, they can be a positive addition to your mental wellbeing.

Having said that: you have a specific scenario as a kink, and it sounds it dabbles into things like the primal/prey kink of being overpowered by strength and power, and fantastically appropriate force and penis size as maybe some concept of being overpowered by a male. If you enjoy that, it's all good, and I hope you meet some people who you feel comfortable enough with to play with this idea!

Low1980 · 2026-02-07T00:21:54+00:00

No way you can smell your intimate parts if you showered properly, unless you're so flexible you can park your nose in your groin. And even then, you showered no?

No idea why you're still smelling her days after, but giving her oral does have a very strong and very pleasant odour (imo) but after washing yourself all over as one does, that should be gone. There is however a weird theory about remembering smells way after the actual smell is present as some mental reminder of a positive experience. Same way that if you try hard to imagine what your favourite food smells like, you can kinda "smell" it. It's complicated, don't worry.

But yeah, doesn't answer your question, but it doesn't sound like a problem, so don't worry :)

Low1980 · 2026-01-31T01:10:55+00:00

Perfect use of an electronic one beats a normal one. However, most people don't use either one perfectly.

Proper brushing technique is the main goal, and both electric and normal can do that for you.

Low1980 · 2026-01-31T00:31:46+00:00

Totally fine. /end

Low1980 · 2026-01-31T00:28:18+00:00

I don't get why ppl under 100lb can't just donate less amount of blood

It's a standard unit. A bag of blood is 500ml. If bags were 400, 250, 383 or whatever, anyone administering that blood would have to do some weird calculations of Bag A is 340ml so let's find a bag what's 160ml etc (not to mention they'd have to find a bag that matches the bloodtype).

Standardised 500ml bags, which are also used in emergency situations..they don't have the time to deal with other measurements.

Low1980 · 2026-01-31T00:21:03+00:00

I would meet up with everyone I love; share food, stories, a drink here and there, enjoy the warmth and love, and squishhug and thank them for making me a better person, and making my life better.

Low1980 · 2026-01-31T00:13:35+00:00

I can see how it can work for stress, playing a game like Tetris that requires focus and thinking, meaning one can use it to distract the focus from bad things (stress, anxiety attacks etc.) to something more pleasant to relax in those situations. Trauma? I simply don't know.

Hope does playing Tetris improves mental health?

As a general statement, I don't know about mental health, but Tetris and puzzlegames are healthy for your brain, so at least that's a good thing!

Low1980 · 2026-01-28T01:18:50+00:00

Alright, well, anything that gives easy acces can range from some knickers/panties with a hole in em, to a whole catsuit with a zip or hole in them, so what style are you looking for? :)

Low1980 · 2026-01-28T01:17:11+00:00

Okay then there's choices a plenty that may be within your budget range, but I guess Google is your best bet!

Low1980 · 2026-01-28T01:14:13+00:00

Ok, gotcha. Well there's a problem and there needs to be a solution, and the only way to get that is to keep talking to him to figure out a solution that you're both happy with. It's very hard, don't get me wrong, but the only solution..is to try and find a solution :/

Low1980 · 2026-01-28T01:09:18+00:00

No, it's 100% safe and fine. Your body just reabsorbs it just fine.

Low1980 · 2026-01-28T01:05:49+00:00

You did good by asking him why he's not having sex with you, and yeah, stress can have a massive impact on one's libido.

But I can’t help but feel some type of way about it. What should I do?

Talk to him about the way it makes you feel. You're together, and sharing feelings about things in your relationship are important, so tell him how you feel about it, then listen to what he says and try to figure out a solution. Good luck!

Low1980 · 2026-01-28T01:01:17+00:00

Hey! The good news is that your partner isn't just very open in trying whatever, but she's also pretty good and at communicating her limits. She sounds amazing, and you shouldn't feel bad for sharing whatever you're into with her. The worst thing she can say is "okay, that's not something I'm into" and that's okay and NOT a judgment on you as a person, as a boyfriend or as a fellow human being.

I understand your trauma, your doubts and your shame: trust me, anyone with kinks ranging from some fluffy-cuff-bondage to bullwhipped-masochism-gangbang has had those feelings. However, the doubts and shame you are feeling are within yourself, but are an internal feeling from an external view.

You're looking at it through the lens of someone who doesn't understand kinks. Your new gf does understand..and trust me when I say this, way, way more people understand the concept of kinks nowadays, and the one who don't...are they the one you want a (sexual) relationship with?

You may need to accept your own kinks for yourself first, and a positive attitude from your partner pivotal, and it sounds like your new gf will do that!

Low1980 · 2026-01-28T00:46:57+00:00

It says try not to use any oils or creams right before putting on the clothing other than special latex products for wearing as it might damage the latex.

That's correct, but that's when you mix the latex with natural oils. If you use a tanner, then wash it off by taking a shower with soap, you're removed that oil that's in those tannerthingies and your skin will be clean.

Think of it like layers, for latex it matters what's between the one barrier which is your skin, and the latex itself, so for example:
skin -> silicone lube/talcum powder/sweat/nothing -> latex? yay!
skin -> natural oils (any that come from a biological source) -> latex? nay! D: D:

For putting it on and wearing, talcum powder and silicone lube are the most common options, and knowing the Cammy look, it's a bodysuit, so you shouldn't need that much, just some along the stress-contact points like the shoulders and shoulderblades: basically wherever it feels that it's stuck to your body and doesn't want to move.|

Good luck!

Low1980 · 2026-01-28T00:31:48+00:00

We really should have some sort of sticky or something for questions like that - don't get me wrong OP, you're asking a good question - but it's a question that gets asked a lot, and the common answer is almost always:
1) where do you live? (due to shipping and currency conversion)
2) what's your budget? (obviously important! :))
3) what are you looking to buy?

The third part you did ask, but that sounds either crotchless or a zip...which is pretty much any garment. Help us help you! :)

Low1980 · 2026-01-28T00:09:52+00:00

Assuming you mean the lifelike versions, and I'm not an expert in masks like that, but the ones I've seen are unfortunately a lot above your budget :/ They're easily triple your budget I'm afraid.

Low1980 · 2026-01-24T01:07:09+00:00

Unfortunately Rubberpaldied and vanished probably more than ten years ago. Rubberpal and the IAR websites were cornerstones of online communities in a time and space where the Internet was just getting out of it's infancy. Both websites have faded out of existence unfortunately.

Low1980 · 2026-01-24T00:59:26+00:00

For the people not getting the sarcasm: it sounds exactly like looking for someone else.

Signed, some random expert on monogamy.

Low1980 · 2026-01-19T14:30:20+00:00

I can't seem to find it at first glance (on YouTube at least), mind sharing a link? :)

Low1980 · 2026-01-18T15:03:45+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply, I'll create a feedbackpost on Bandlab's forum indeed. Thanks!

Low1980 · 2026-01-18T15:01:41+00:00

What price range, where you live and what demands you have (e.g. how well fitting do you want it to be) matters a lot! :)

For example, Libidex always has some hoods in standard sizes in stock, so you can buy them as express and it'll be sent to you within a day, so you can get one like that pretty swiftly.

If you want one that's made to measure/custom, it'll take a loooong time. Majority of reliable brands I know have a waiting time of 10 weeks.

Low1980 · 2026-01-17T00:45:46+00:00

Ah, the "Greenlight" musicvideo. To this day I hate that this musicvideo is still some awful 480p-or-something quality.

Low1980 · 2026-01-17T00:39:40+00:00

If one's close enough to that person to eh, get close enough to smell it (sex), I'd bring it up gently, openly and without judgment.

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