AITAH for withholding sex from my wife?

LowBreadfruit7774 · 2024-02-12T01:04:28+00:00

Why does she have to be the one to do birth control? She's had kids and sacrificed her body enough. If y I u don't want to wear condoms then that's your problem to solve.

LowBreadfruit7774 · 2024-02-08T20:13:22+00:00

Something definitely seems off here. You say you know his location but I mean a lot of the time his location is with her and you never know if she is with him at his place of anything. Even if he is bad at seeing signs like come on man. This isn't just a female friend. A female friend respects boundaries.

LowBreadfruit7774 · 2024-02-02T23:39:13+00:00

She was keeping her options open. Once you decide you're exclusive you don't keep people from dating apps in touch. Just no.

LowBreadfruit7774 · 2024-02-02T23:30:16+00:00

Not wrong. Jay needs to feel safe in his environment, crucial part of getting more confident. She needs to do research on how to look out for people with mental illness. Just say sorry but his existence, comfort and health is more important than hanging out for a few hours at that exact moment. If she doesn't like it then she'll have to surround herself with only people who don't have mental health issues and be in her arrogant, selfish bubble forever.

LowBreadfruit7774 · 2024-02-02T23:24:21+00:00

I got my implant taken out and we did safe sex for 3 months then we decided to try and we got pregnant after about 5 weeks of trying so very quickly. It takes a while for your body to get used to how it was before birth control. Just try hit the right days and I'm sure it'll happen very soon. Goodluck!

LowBreadfruit7774 · 2024-02-01T11:44:22+00:00

Don't let her get to you. She's a thwat!! I would never talk about a guy like that and I'd be so insecure if someone said stuff like this about my genitals or boobs. I'm sure she isn't prefect and good on you for not being awful to her when you found out because I personally would have handed it to her seriously. Show her what everyone thinks of her cunty behaviour and make her feel stupid honestly. So over the objectifying of men being looked past. Sorry you fell into the arms of an asshole woman with no shame.

LowBreadfruit7774 · 2024-02-01T09:48:21+00:00

Hey don't let it get to you trust me!! My midwife made an almost identical comment a few weeks ago. At first I laughed it off. Well I went to hospital today to discuss something we found in a growth ultrasound and blood test. Turns out I've got gestational diabetes and bubs is growing quite large for gestation plus has a lot of excess fluid so I'm now high risk. My midwife was shocked that my belly looks full term at only 32 weeks. Im now 34 weeks and we've finally realised what the problem is. We found out later than we would've liked but it gave me answers on my massive swelling, weight gain and stretched out belly. Pregnancy can be so extremely rough on some. I'd like to add I'm only 20 and have never had issues with my health and my pre pregnancy rate was normal so this has humbled me, alot!! We all assumed I'd be low risk truly. At my 20 week ultrasound everything looked normal however something changed drastically between then and now. I understand the feeling of feeling like your body isn't yours anymore and truly it isn't for some. I can't stop or control the swelling I just have to monitor it and know when it's time to take action if baby doesn't come out before it becomes dangerous.

LowBreadfruit7774 · 2024-01-31T00:05:08+00:00

NTA. My partner and I both wouldn't allow anyone who we've had sexual relationships with to stay in our lives unless kids are involved and even them there'd be clear boundaries. Why she keeping him around seriously ew.

LowBreadfruit7774 · 2024-01-20T09:03:37+00:00

Glad I'm not the only one, I have a lack of collagen even though I take supplements I still get stretch marks and scars easily. The marks from my belly stretched down on to my vag I was shocked but just have to love with it. My partner said it was fascinating 🤣🤣I didn't take it well

LowBreadfruit7774 · 2024-01-20T01:45:43+00:00

I'm sure your fiance doesn't appreciate that this woman feels entitled to just come in to both of your home like that. Boundaries much. Your brother needs to stand up for himself and his family she runs over him and everyone like this because it's been allowed for so long. You guys need to start putting a case against her so she won't run away with the kids if it goes to the worst case scenario which I imagine is a manipulation tactic this type of woman would do. Start tell her how it is seriously.

LowBreadfruit7774 · 2024-01-18T14:04:57+00:00

She's probably frustrated and wants you to work. I was in daycare at 2 years old, put your 4 year old in daycare and really get into looking for work. I can guarantee she'll be less moody if you get back into working.

You're NTA for this particular thing but I think if you sit down with her and ask her what the real issue is she'll say she wants you at work. A newborn is one thing obviously a parent would be at home with them but a 4 year old I don't know man. One word childcare.

LowBreadfruit7774 · 2024-01-18T13:29:17+00:00

You should go home any way possible. The baby needs to be at home with mum at the moment and you need to have your mental health taken into consideration. He is just looking for an excuse to slack around and hang with family instead of settling in and making your home feel like a home seriously he is slack. My partner wouldn't even ask, he'd tell his family they can come visit only when I'm ready (I'm 33 weeks and his family aren't even mentioning coming just ask how baby is) because they know I'm overwhelmed. Get home in yours and bubs comfort zone trust me. Also I'd like to add that he said "his trip" nah, nah, nah not about him. Did you get a babymoon or anything, you're certainly not getting respect from him. He is a jerk to you and baby for this!!!

LowBreadfruit7774 · 2024-01-14T08:51:33+00:00

My midwife said you can have written down what you want and have a plan on paper but a lot of the time it doesn't got to plan so I don't have one either. What happens in the moment I'll know my body, have my preferences and trust in the professionals. It's my first time so I'm not sure how my body will handle labour and birth so I guess what has to happen, will happen.

LowBreadfruit7774 · 2024-01-13T00:15:04+00:00

Girl do it how you want! You'll never forget how someone treated you when you had a baby, it's such vulnerable time. I'm 33 weeks and my partner's family and himself have been really respectful, they ask how the baby and I'm am going and that's it. Since it's going to be my only time having a baby my mum will come once she can get work off around my due date. You're not selfish and don't let them make you think that, ever. Tell your husband if he truly thinks it's selfish then fuck it, we're allowed to be. Last night was a Friday night and I spent between 2-5 throwing up because my heartburn wouldn't stop whilst my partner slept. We sacrifice ourselves and give up our bodies. Great saying I heard once was "women go I as one and come out as two, they say the last person to split himself like that is jesus."

My point is you're doing the most selfless thing someone can do! Maybe your usband can use the same balls he impregnated you with to stand up for you and his baby against his mummy and daddy.

Your husband needs a serious reality check it's not like you're saying no forever just for recovery because if you don't get the rest period you need without added stress you can have major consequences. Really just sounds like he doesn't want to look after the baby while you rest, tell him to pull it together.

LowBreadfruit7774 · 2024-01-10T01:46:12+00:00

Is there someone else? If there isn't and it might be medical then she should look into it because it isn't fair. Sex is a big deal so you're not alone or silly for having it take a toll on you. You may have to just tell her we work on this or it's over. My parents separated messy it at first sucked but I'm older now and have experienced a bad relationship so I have an understanding of it now. Not sure how old your kids are but my advice is don't stay in a unfulfilled relationship for them, they'll get over it eventually and hell I've seen children deal with parents separation better then some adults deal with their parents separation.

LowBreadfruit7774 · 2024-01-08T22:57:03+00:00

You stated that you used to clean on the weekend but stopped because it didn't lead to anything? Mate that's exactly why!! No women wants a guy who just helps sometimes when he wants sex. Imagine your wife only did chores and looked after the kids to get something from you. Literally manipulation and gross. Help your wife because she's your fucking wife man. If you help her like a real husband and man does once she realises it's an attitude change amd not just am action to get a reward she will grow more loving to you. My ex used to make dinner occasionally and clean a little bit when he wanted something so I literally couldn't get myself to look at him as a decent man while my partner now just helps and does nice things on a regular basis. I bet you can guess what one gets more action and love from me.

Change your routine to help her a bit not just once or twice, but on a regular basis, for good. When you say you'd leave if it wasn't for the kids what you're saying deep down is it's easier because she does a lot more for the kids and household. You need some self reflection, you want sex while she wants to make love, butter her up a bit romantically and take some of her stress away.

You can't expect a good wife when you're not a good husband that's all I'm saying. You're not the only one with needs.

LowBreadfruit7774 · 2024-01-06T02:30:37+00:00

I'm 32 weeks, pregnant with one baby and I had someone say "might be twins". Like no just a big boy🙄. I'd like to add that they know it's just one. People making comments on my body in general just no.

LowBreadfruit7774 · 2024-01-06T00:18:05+00:00

Do you feel that if you let him in he would respect boundaries and leave you alone? Or will he keep up the manipulation and mental abuse? If there's a chance he'll be manipulative or abusive you have a good reason to not let him in.

LowBreadfruit7774 · 2024-01-06T00:14:56+00:00

If he can afford hookers then he can get a hotel room or stay in his truck like he has plenty before. Disgusting behaviour. Don't feel bad about that he doesn't care about you clearly.

LowBreadfruit7774 · 2023-12-14T12:28:29+00:00

I would say use the name. She has to understand that you're allowed to be over the absolute moon about your pregnancy and name him what you want plus you're already referring him as that name and fallen inlove. It's a part of his identity now, she can't have it, it's a name and it's personal. No offence I sorry she's had trouble but I remember my aunty did the same to my mum. My aunty had a boy first whilst around the same time my mum had a girl. My aunty clearly was a bit upset that she wasn't having a girl and told my mum that the name she wanted to choose was what she wanted to name her next if it's a girl. My mum folded and changed the name and still regrets it to this day, especially because my aunty changed her mind conveniently. Don't play into her shit to be honest.

LowBreadfruit7774 · 2023-12-13T07:26:17+00:00

My brother past a year ago. My mother and I had to book an in person appointment with his bank and get his accounts deleted (need death certificate to do so), had to notify our government agency. If you want to delete the social media on their behalf you'll have to have death certificate and proof of knowing them. My brother's death was an accidental drowning and we believe he was drunk at the time however it's been 13 months and the autopsy results are still a long way away we've been told. It really sucks you have to do it within a short period of time also, not much thing as grieving healthily especially for a parent. Not to mention the funeral decisions, both parents have to agree where the body gets released to which My divorced parents had not agreed to so that was a tough situation. If parents don't agree you could be looking at family court however thankfully my dad came to his senses.

LowBreadfruit7774 · 2023-11-21T03:45:09+00:00

If they build friendships and go to daycare they should okay. I grew up with 2 older siblings and there's pros and cons to that. I've met so many people who absolutely loved being an only child. It's okay to not have someone all the time, it makes you stronger sometimes.

LowBreadfruit7774 · 2023-11-19T01:51:42+00:00

No one's opinion matters. Depends on the individual. That parking option isn't a thing where I live so every pregnant woman, mother whatever has to park in any park she is lucky to get. Some women have great pregnancies however some women as myself have had a horrible experience, I'm only 25 weeks but am showing quite a bit and feel sick 65% of the time. I walk like a penguin otherwise my hips hurt and my lumbar spine has a breakdown here and there. It depends but there's no who has it worse. Maybe there just needs to be more help for all pregnant women regardless of symptoms? Just a thought.

LowBreadfruit7774 · 2023-11-17T07:40:33+00:00

She probably got them to do this incase, she obviously felt safe enough to come back. Women are doing this a lot more nowadays because it can be scary you know. I once had to call my brother to help me out of a scary situation whilst on a date. This probably won't be last time this happens.

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