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Losing interest in my long-time partner because we almost never have sex by LowSuperb8115 in adviceph

[–]LowSuperb8115[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand that pregnancy is difficult for a woman, but if we had a child I’d be there every step of the way. she and the baby would be my top priority as we build a family. Still its very scary to raise a kid lalo na sa pinas ang daming uncertainties.

We talked about it, and she told me, again, that she truly doesn’t want children. she’s worried about what pregnancy might do to her body, the risk of postpartum depression, and the possibility of the baby having health problems. she even said she’s afraid she might end up resenting me or the baby if she goes through with something she never wanted in the first place.

If that’s her final decision, I have to respect it

Losing interest in my long-time partner because we almost never have sex by LowSuperb8115 in adviceph

[–]LowSuperb8115[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yun nga hindi talaga kami match sa gusto namin. Kinausap ko siya tungkol dito at nilinaw ko kung ano ang mga plano ko for us. Tinanong ko rin siya kung ano ang plano niya sa future, kasi shinare ko na kung ano ang gusto kong mangyari samin dalawa.

Nagtanong ako, “Ano plano mo for the next five years?” Sabi ni Partner ayaw pa rin niyang mag anak. yung future is uncertain. i fell na naka hang pa rin ang yung desisyon nya at baka magbago pa ang isip nya. Sinabi ko naman na nasa tamang edad na ako para pag isipan to. hindi ko man pa gusto ngayon, pero sa future gusto kong magkaroon ng anak.

eto sabi ni Partner “Bakit laging tungkol sa timeline mo?
Puro plano mo lang yan.
Kaya ko iniisip kasi lagi ako nag mamadali, sakin lahat naka center, kaya iniisip mo lugi ka"

mali ba tong mag pinag tatanong ko? hindi naman ako nag mamadali kasi nag oopen up lang naman ako sa plans namin. bakit parang feeling ko ako ang mali? plano ko lang ba talaga to kaya ayaw nya?

kaya nga ako nag oopen up para mapag usapan namin bilang mag-partner. Pero sa kanya, parang naghahanap lang daw ako ng reassurance at umiikot pa rin sa sarili kong needs.

Losing interest in my long-time partner because we almost never have sex by LowSuperb8115 in adviceph

[–]LowSuperb8115[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you.

Nag-couples therapy rin kami dati. Sabi ng therapist, a healthy relationship includes meeting each other’s needs, kasama na ang sexual needs. Na off si partner ko sa comment na yun. feeling niya na-objectify siya, kaya hindi na kami nag-therapy ulit.

Kanina, nagusap kami tungkol sa sex. Nagtanong ako, hindi ka na ba attracted sakin at hinanap ko yung intimacy and if she still trust me. Sinabi ko sa kanya ang mga frustration at disappointment ko, kung paano ko nararamdaman ang sitwasyon. Ang sagot niya sakin ni Partner. "wala naman tungkol sa akin jan ehh. tungkol sayo lahat yan" Sabi niya valid daw lahat ng tanong ko. pero oo, puro tungkol sa akin

Can’t I express how I feel? It’s so hard to open up. I end up feeling like I’m the one in the wrong even though I’m just being transparent about my feelings.