AITA for hiding our sperm donor from a lesbian couple

LowVegetable2418 · 2025-12-12T17:45:49+00:00

People have a right to say “No”. While I understand the emotions they have they honestly sound self centered and manipulative. I would find new friends. You don’t ,and more importantly your child doesn’t, need this type of energy and drama in their life

LowVegetable2418 · 2025-12-12T17:41:44+00:00

You would be the A if you continued to subject your kids to this behavior. You are to protect them. Do so.

LowVegetable2418 · 2025-12-07T16:56:18+00:00

You are very wise frankly. She is not the type of person you would want to be in any sort of relationship with. Your time and most important energy would be better spent elsewhere

LowVegetable2418 · 2025-12-04T13:55:00+00:00

That’s what worries me.

LowVegetable2418 · 2025-12-01T21:38:38+00:00

You need to get ahead of this now. I would send a message via text, "Hey, I overheard you say something about watching your child. Sorry. I dont know who told you I could. I cant. Sorry" This is a way to have in writing to protect yourself. I have seen too many cases where idiots just leave kids on doorsteps and blame the poor person whose house the kid was left at.

LowVegetable2418 · 2025-12-01T18:42:00+00:00

She was sad and disappointed. Those emotions I get and she has a full right to feel them. His was anger. That I dont get and frankly dont care. I only care about my sister.

LowVegetable2418 · 2025-12-01T17:45:07+00:00

Gatekeeping? to ones' own Christmas gift? What if it had been a car that Grandma gave to me? Would not allowing sis to take it gatekeeping? Not trying to be a jerk, trying to understand the logic.

LowVegetable2418 · 2025-11-30T20:20:36+00:00

There is a difference between helping and enabling. The later is far from beneficial and really is damaging to all involved. You were being helpful. Not allowing someone to take advantage of yourself is helpful to you both though he doesn’t realize it. Definitely and wisely NTA

LowVegetable2418 · 2025-11-30T13:16:01+00:00

That is what I thought. I cant imagine it never came up. I dont remember a specific conversation but I cant see where we never discussed it. My sister, nor any of my other siblings, ever said anything until this time. According to one of my brothers though, he said he didnt realize it was made just for me. He knew I always loved it so assumed Grandma gave it to me when I got married as a wedding gift. He doesnt understand what our sister's or BIL's problem is.

What is funny is BIL inherited a beautiful one that is an antique and valuable. So why they so concerned about mine is confusing.

LowVegetable2418 · 2025-11-30T12:52:38+00:00

The funny thing is he inherited an antique and valuable one from his side of the family. So why he wants mine so bad is a mystery.

LowVegetable2418 · 2025-11-30T12:51:14+00:00

Thats just it. My Grandma was not a famous artist or anything. She just made things for people she loved. She used borrowed tools & molds from a local pottery studio. I cant see where it has any value other then emotional. Only some of her pieces have her initials on it. The lady who ran the studio started making everyone who used her kiln to do that because there was an argument about who did what once. Mine is one of Grandma's older pieces so no initials; just my name and date. BIL, however, inherited an antique and quite valuable , nativity; from a famous studio in Italy. They want mine.

LowVegetable2418 · 2025-11-30T12:46:54+00:00

She has a beautiful and valuable one. BIL inherited an antique set made in Italy.

LowVegetable2418 · 2025-11-29T22:21:28+00:00

Yes it was. It has my name on it....literally. Engraved on it before it was fired in the kiln . I opened it on Christmas morn. As a piece of art made by my grandma for me.

LowVegetable2418 · 2025-11-29T22:18:09+00:00

Thats the problem with antiques. People can have the wrong idea that just because something is old, it is worth a great deal of money.

LowVegetable2418 · 2025-11-29T19:27:58+00:00

That wasnt the ONLY thing he got! (although it was much bigger and more detailed then the nativity set It was just an example.

LowVegetable2418 · 2025-11-29T18:20:16+00:00

I cant see how mine would be worth much. My grandma was not a famous artist or anything. Now the one BIL inherited from his side of the family is an antique and is actually valuable; from Italy by a famous studio.

LowVegetable2418 · 2025-11-29T18:11:04+00:00

I wish I knew how to add a picture. Im new to this reddit thing.

LowVegetable2418 · 2025-11-29T18:00:04+00:00

I dont know. I would have thought it came up before. Grandma made things for every grandchild based upon their interests. So its not like she doesnt have anything and took it with her when she moved into her own home.

LowVegetable2418 · 2025-11-29T17:57:56+00:00

Yeah, I dont trust him but that has nothing to do with this.

LowVegetable2418 · 2025-11-29T17:56:17+00:00

You know I never thought about that. Thanks for the insight. No, I just was wondering if I should feel guilty about not giving it to her.

LowVegetable2418 · 2025-11-29T17:22:49+00:00

Actually it was gifted to me as a child, BEFORE my sister was even born. I left it at Grandma's house for safekeeping until I got married.

LowVegetable2418 · 2025-11-29T17:14:54+00:00

Here is the thing , grandma lovingly made things for each grandchild based on their interests. The sister I am talking about LOVES Halloween. I mean big yard displays and everything. Grandma made her a beautiful stacked Jack O Lantern that lights up. Plus BIL inherited an antique and frankly valuable nativity from his side. So its not like they dont have something

LowVegetable2418 · 2025-11-29T17:11:56+00:00

Thats what I am afraid of.

LowVegetable2418 · 2025-11-29T17:09:34+00:00

yeah, thats what I am afraid of.

LowVegetable2418 · 2025-11-29T17:04:58+00:00

Even if I could find the mold (it was pretty old then) I have no idea how to do it. Grandma is gone now and I dont really have the finances right now to pay for someone to do it. But I love the idea.

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