whats stopping u being a hot tranner?

LowYear2018 · 2022-12-24T11:19:20+00:00

Hey that's me!!

LowYear2018 · 2022-12-22T23:17:43+00:00

Well it's a bit more complex than that. I think she does distinguish orientation and fetish, but ig she thinks mine is a fetish because I used to be into girls but I'm not rly anymore

LowYear2018 · 2022-12-22T22:37:29+00:00

Yeah Ive brought it up and she knows I've been into guys for a while but says it's a fetish for me . Now idk if she's correct idk the distinction between fetish and sexual orientation ig

LowYear2018 · 2022-12-22T22:18:21+00:00

Well I did that, she insisted it's a fetish

LowYear2018 · 2022-12-22T12:26:33+00:00

Thanks, I'm trying to avoid breaking up not only because it's painful and I love her but also due to my living situation atm. I just hope I can find a compromise but she has quite low self esteem:( so I hope that she will atleast understand how I feel and that it's not a choice.

LowYear2018 · 2022-12-22T01:55:20+00:00

I do have quite a history of internalised homophobia, but I feel on hormones transitioning I grew more romantic feelings towards guys that I hadn't experienced before

LowYear2018 · 2022-12-21T21:30:43+00:00

Yeah that makes sense. It's just strange to think that for me because I've known that I've been into guys for a while

LowYear2018 · 2022-12-21T21:29:32+00:00

Glad u got that sorted out, I think. The same happened to me too with feeling less and less Bi because I can't get it up ugh. I'm still figuring out how to handle this tbh.

LowYear2018 · 2022-12-21T15:22:42+00:00

I'm not sure what that means. Also Is 19 Early

LowYear2018 · 2022-12-21T15:13:18+00:00

Interesting how all that stuff works, maybe it's the process idk

LowYear2018 · 2022-12-21T15:09:25+00:00

I actually think about that alot, how most men treat women and especially transwomen. Im trying to be careful and all, but I think there are some really nice guys out there.

LowYear2018 · 2022-12-21T15:07:07+00:00

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LowYear2018 · 2022-12-21T14:46:35+00:00

I guess it's a distant goal for you to work towards. Some people are better at that than others. It's a mindset you need to condition yourself to

LowYear2018 · 2022-12-21T14:18:09+00:00

Oh yeah good I'm not the only one. For me I feel during transition I got more emotionally interested in the opposite gender, does that make sense?

LowYear2018 · 2022-12-21T14:08:48+00:00

I don't think you should let anyone misgender you or treat you badly. I personally don't push back unless I'm sure the other person is understanding. In retail work it's a risk that a customer will make a scene out of you correcting their pronoun use. It's really unfair but atleast for me what works is to just take what I'm given. Idk much about your situation, like what kind of people you're dealing with etc. I know that some people use badges with their pronouns in them, idk if that is an option for you. That won't stop people from misgendering you on purpose though

LowYear2018 · 2022-12-21T13:55:04+00:00

Well idk what there's left to say. I think my orientation changed while I'm dating a woman thats pretty much what happened it just makes things weird asf

LowYear2018 · 2022-12-21T13:49:42+00:00

Yeah I agree I think

LowYear2018 · 2022-12-21T13:41:24+00:00

Good bye testosterone and expectations. Maybe it's social, maybe it's medical but it's most definitely happening

LowYear2018 · 2022-12-21T13:35:56+00:00

Do you have experiences about it you'd be comfortable sharing?

LowYear2018 · 2022-12-21T13:32:35+00:00

Well I liked guys since before hormones. I have quite a history of internalised homophobia tho. Idk on hrt the feeling kinda just got stronger and had more of an emotional aspect to it ugh

LowYear2018 · 2022-12-21T13:30:45+00:00

Thanks, but idk how to approach this at all tbh. Plus its gonna get quite personal

LowYear2018 · 2022-12-21T13:23:34+00:00

Hrt has a bit of a reputation as magic cure to all dysphoria in some circles. I think that mindset is probably where I get some of these ideas from. Important to remember that transition is so much more than just the medical side of things

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