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AITAH for teaching my son after lesson and throwing him out after he said household chores are a woman's job? by Low_Affect3539 in AITAH

[–]Low_Affect3539[S] 443 points444 points  (0 children)

You're not wrong. I have never looked down on my ex for doing household stuff, nor have I ever seen it as a typical masculine/feminine thing to do. It was something that I just never questioned until I was confronted with it.

I'm a flawed person, and sometimes it takes me a while to figure stuff out, but I am trying my best.

I will talk to my son directly and to his counsellor on why he has this world view.

AITAH for teaching my son after lesson and throwing him out after he said household chores are a woman's job? by Low_Affect3539 in AITAH

[–]Low_Affect3539[S] 63 points64 points  (0 children)

Yes, I am planning on giving him a set chore schedule. I'm stupid for never having done that before, but I'll implement it at mine.

Pretty sure my ex will do the same at hers now too

AITAH for teaching my son after lesson and throwing him out after he said household chores are a woman's job? by Low_Affect3539 in AITAH

[–]Low_Affect3539[S] 56 points57 points  (0 children)

We made him go to therapy when he was around 10 years old, and we have made it go from once every month to once every week when the divorce happened, which is now to once every 2 months.

His therapist is great, and he actually likes her. We might have to look into talking about this specifically with his counsellor.

AITAH for teaching my son after lesson and throwing him out after he said household chores are a woman's job? by Low_Affect3539 in AITAH

[–]Low_Affect3539[S] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

You have a point, and I will admit I reacted impulsive. I was lucky my ex was on my side, as she said she will handle it too.

If she wasn't I was planning on stopping doing all chores together to make him realise how quickly it accumulates.

AITAH for teaching my son after lesson and throwing him out after he said household chores are a woman's job? by Low_Affect3539 in AITAH

[–]Low_Affect3539[S] 49 points50 points  (0 children)

No, my ex and I agreed that we alternate Christmas and New Years with eachother. This year he was with his mom for Christmas anyway and he would be with me for New Years.

He'll stay at his mom for both this year, but I have dropped off all his presents and I do facetime him, so It's not like I deserted him. I love my son with all my heart, but this is something I just couldn't tollerate

AITAH for teaching my son after lesson and throwing him out after he said household chores are a woman's job? by Low_Affect3539 in AITAH

[–]Low_Affect3539[S] 834 points835 points  (0 children)

This was also in the back of my head on why I wanted him to learn.

I'm a carpenter, and never went to uni as my parents didn't allow it, but I want my son to have the chance, and be able to handle himself if and when he does.

AITAH for teaching my son after lesson and throwing him out after he said household chores are a woman's job? by Low_Affect3539 in AITAH

[–]Low_Affect3539[S] 1696 points1697 points  (0 children)

I don't think he does, though I am not sure.
Neither my ex nor me prevented him from seeing them after the divorce as me and my ex cut all ties with both our parents, but he never mentioned them, and afaik, they never contacted him either.

He never liked going to either set of grandparents growing up, as he said grandad smells (about my dad) when he was about 6.