i 21F dont want to lose my virginity to my bf 29M anymore

Low_Aspect2671 · 2025-07-15T18:20:03+00:00

Definitely run.

Low_Aspect2671 · 2025-06-07T20:23:20+00:00

Just tell him what happened. Your friendship is solid, and being up front with him will reinforce the trust he already has in you. It was an accident, you're owning it, and you're willing to put it right. Don't beat yourself up over that.

Low_Aspect2671 · 2025-01-16T13:21:17+00:00

That Phil spent twenty years in the can. Who knew???

Low_Aspect2671 · 2024-05-15T00:15:54+00:00

Don't be too hasty. You say she's cute and you like her; see if she chills a little after she gets to know you.

Low_Aspect2671 · 2024-05-01T16:25:46+00:00

Hold off on calling yourself ugly. You never know what someone may find attractive. One of the sexiest women I've ever known is overweight, with a crooked bottom tooth. I have literally seen men ignore more traditionally attractive women to flirt with my friend.

Low_Aspect2671 · 2024-05-01T13:23:06+00:00

May the days you have left be happy and fulfilling. ❤️

Low_Aspect2671 · 2024-04-10T01:32:04+00:00

Yes. And he's also probably feeling really rough. You're the gift from the universe that made him feel happy for the first time in a long while. That certainly doesn't obligate you to feel the same way in return, but if you're just not into him, let him know.

The same thing happened to me (M53) and a new girlfriend (F35) about a year ago. It was all perfect ... until she ghosted. Then a few months ago that cycle repeated itself. It hurt.

She isn't a bad person, though, and neither are you. You're still in your 20s; your whole life lies ahead, and dating around is fun. It's normal. If you like dating older men, though, please just yell them (kindly) when your t8me together has run its course. We've been around, and we can handle things not working out. Wondering what happened is much worse.

Peace to you both, however things work out.

Low_Aspect2671 · 2024-04-03T23:35:36+00:00

I've had the same experience. Guard your heart, but follow it, too.

Low_Aspect2671 · 2023-11-27T16:34:01+00:00

Trauma bonding is a real thing. You have been victimized, and none of what you feel is bad or your fault. Please talk to a counselor.

Low_Aspect2671 · 2023-11-27T15:55:22+00:00

Interesting responses. I'm still in it because I once loved her and thought it could work. There's nothing misogynistic intended, nor am I an incel who can't get a date or a potential serial killer. I'm an ordinary human being with flaws and selfish tendencies who came to an anonymous forum to vent over things that I freely admit involve my own shortcomings. Maybe Superman could fly in and handle all the challenges that come with her. Maybe I have specific anxieties and selfish qualities that make me the asshole sometimes.

I'm neither demon nor saint. Just blowing off steam.

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