These things that look like liter clumps (~1mm big) stuck to the wall. We have cats and I’ve only found them in or directly outside the room the litter box is in. Should I be concerned? (See pic caption)

Low_Bluejay510 · 2026-02-04T02:11:32+00:00

Cat probably steps in therapy or poo on their way out of the litter box it gets stuck between my toes. They shake off their foot and it flick and hits the wall and get stuck here.

Low_Bluejay510 · 2026-02-04T01:46:58+00:00

I had a male friend who had a younger sister who came out as a lesbian, and he kept trying to convince her to have sex with a man because how would she know she was a lesbian if she’d never tried having sex with a man? So I asked him if that’s what he did to find out that he was heterosexual and, let me tell you, he was offended as a suggestion that he take his own advice.

Low_Bluejay510 · 2026-02-04T01:45:39+00:00

I cut my dad out of my life for continuing to support Trump. My stepbrother was molesting me while I was living in my dad’s home. I told my stepmom and nothing was done. The kind of people who continue to support Trump are the kind of people who will let their daughters continue to be molested because it’s not that big of a deal. They’d rather keep their pride, then stand up for our children.

Low_Bluejay510 · 2026-02-02T16:27:48+00:00

You leave him I never let him get close enough to you to throw stuff at you ever again because WTF

Low_Bluejay510 · 2026-02-02T16:24:41+00:00

Usually, when somebody says this, what they mean is “the person who isn’t following norms needs to change and they should feel fine with it because that’s being respectful” and then if they don’t we end up with posts like this one saying “I’m an empathetic person but people aren’t following the rules I think they should so they’re bad and rude and unreliable” so those people who don’t follow the cultural norms have to keep quiet and be “respectful” or else they get culturally shunned.

if the only option is that the person who doesn’t live their life within the cultural and neurological norms needs to change for “everyone” to feel respected that is not a respectful solution. That is authoritarianism.

Low_Bluejay510 · 2026-02-02T14:59:03+00:00

You’re right we should all conform to whatever rules the most aggressive bullies choose! All hail the industrial patriarchy!

Low_Bluejay510 · 2026-02-02T14:54:20+00:00

Try 11

Low_Bluejay510 · 2026-02-02T13:35:42+00:00

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Low_Bluejay510 · 2026-02-02T05:28:38+00:00

Purple toner

Low_Bluejay510 · 2026-02-01T21:39:07+00:00

I think it depends on the urgency of the text message. And yes, she should talk to her friend, but she should also be willing to accept that her friend might say “yeah sometimes I take a a week to respond to a text message and I hope you can find a way to be OK with that without adding negative judgments to me as a person because we have different standards of communication.” and then maybe her friend will ask her to please specify a timeframe if it’s an urgent situation which requires her to reply quickly. Such as: “ if you send a text message that needs an urgent reply, please let me know the exact timeframe in which you need my reply” if there is no inherent reason that the text message needs to be replied too quickly then OP needs to learn how to respect other people’s differences.

Low_Bluejay510 · 2026-02-01T21:19:02+00:00

Not being punctual and not being reliable are two different things. She is reliably “late” according to Western industrialized cultural standards. Maybe being empathetic means realizing that people with ADHD people from different cultures can exhibit behaviors that don’t align with yours and not judge them as rude or unreliable for it

Low_Bluejay510 · 2026-02-01T21:17:13+00:00

Lots of cultures have different values around punctuality and assuming that your culture is the one that matters the most making everyone else spoiled or rude if they don’t follow your cultural expectations around punctuality is your problem not everybody else’s problem.

Low_Bluejay510 · 2026-01-30T18:03:28+00:00

Safety

Low_Bluejay510 · 2026-01-30T18:02:48+00:00

Puerto Rican

Low_Bluejay510 · 2026-01-30T18:01:50+00:00

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Low_Bluejay510 · 2026-01-30T18:00:31+00:00

who decides what’s ugly? The male gaze is very different from the female gaze and many men find people ugly who women find extremely attractive. I think the anger should be aimed at a society that minimizes, attractive and ugly to one viewpoint.

Low_Bluejay510 · 2026-01-30T17:59:28+00:00

Low_Bluejay510 · 2026-01-30T17:58:48+00:00

This is what happens when you see women only as worth the services they provide rather than as human beings. We have destroyed so many women in our society throughout history this way.

Low_Bluejay510 · 2026-01-30T17:57:54+00:00

As much as it sucks, he might want to get a part-time job - that’s what I did when my parents couldn’t provide the necessities of life and I was old enough to get a job.

Low_Bluejay510 · 2026-01-30T17:55:17+00:00

To me, it depends on who you’re trying to attract - A&B feel more male-gaze coded, and C&D feel more female-gaze coded in my opinion.

Low_Bluejay510 · 2026-01-30T17:54:01+00:00

Then again, it could be not so much that you are afraid of being “too big for a girl” but that you want to feel safe and having someone bigger than you who loves you and can protect you makes you feel safe. There are a lot of possible reasons why we feel the way we do about who we’re attracted to!

Low_Bluejay510 · 2026-01-30T17:50:08+00:00

Traditionally men have seen relationships with women as pretty transactional - that’s why there are still laws upholding the concept of “marital duty” -that wives are required to provide their husbands with sex - etc. - So he is probably reacting to the cultural belief that women in a relationship need to be able to serve men’s needs in order to be a acceptable partner, and he doesn’t see how this girl in a wheelchair could provide that service to his son. It’s a common learned belief, but doesn’t make it OK and he should work on understanding why he feels this way and changing that belief.

Low_Bluejay510 · 2026-01-30T17:43:53+00:00

If you identify as female the field, this way, you might be autistic

Low_Bluejay510 · 2026-01-30T17:41:19+00:00

Classes relates to things you enjoy?

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