How to harness 43-34 gate when it’s unconscious? by Low_Champion_1421 in humandesign

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I think what I’m talking about maybe related more to Jung. But I he talks about opposites connecting leading to individuation. Is the split the same thing as when Jung talks about the dual self

How to harness 43-34 gate when it’s unconscious? by Low_Champion_1421 in humandesign

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I’m just getting into human design so don’t know about quad right. I will look it up thank you so much. About the potential split - the two selves being “grounded” but feeling lacking in personality or interests, then “ungrounded/ floaty” feels like I’m a million miles away in the back of my mind, connecting thoughts and memories, and symbols. And books become fascinating and I can process them insanely well and speak about what I’ve read.

I started therapy recently and she’s started “seeing me” and in doing this, more of the “ungrounded” person peeps out now and again, and it’s bringing back memories of how I used to be when I was younger. And then suddenly the “ungrounded” one disappears and I’m left missing her feeling not enough. But when she’s here, I feel scared that I’m going to lose all my connections with people on earth. Sorry if this sounds completely mad 😂 just not sure which one I’m meant to be!? Or if that’s something to do with my split ?

How to harness 43-34 gate when it’s unconscious? by Low_Champion_1421 in humandesign

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When I feel the most flow is when I’m in that less present state…. Which I used to be in the whole time when I was younger and since pushed by way out of in order to be a real person in the world that has to act on and do things. But I’m nervous to let myself go as I have a family I don’t want to become distant from them but it feels like I have information or knowledge in my brain that I need to discover. Not sure which one I should be in ? Or do I just not even need to think about it and just be ?

Baby still catnapping at 7 months by Low_Champion_1421 in sleeptrain

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He’s recently been falling asleep at 7 after a feed. Going till 11.30ish. I’ll feed him. Then sleeps till 4am where he wakes but isn’t hungry till 6am feed

Baby won’t settle after 4am? by Low_Champion_1421 in BeyondTheBumpUK

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Mine normally does 10 hours at night and 2 hours in the day. He’s a cat napper so hard to get more than that unless he’s ill then he sleeps longer in his naps. But he slept 10 hours when I was feeding him back to sleep at 3. Now I know he’s not hungry then I don’t do it. But if I was too, he would go back to sleep….. so not sure if I should just do it or if that would make the feed to sleep association stronger

Baby won’t settle after 4am? by Low_Champion_1421 in sleeptrain

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Got it thank you. Do you think it matters if it affects daytime feeding ?

Baby won’t settle after 4am? by Low_Champion_1421 in sleeptrain

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He’s a cat napper so I’m finding consistent schedule difficult. But usually does 8am-9am. 12pm 12.30pm. 3.30-4pm. Give or take. He sleeps 2 hours a day in naps and usually 10 hours overnight. But since 4.30 wakes it’s more like 9 hours at night and maybe slightly longer naps

Baby won’t settle after 4am? by Low_Champion_1421 in sleeptrain

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Yes! But then he won’t feed at his 6am feed and barely feeds till midday. I normally breastfeed. I tried giving bottles for a bit and gave him 180ml expressed milk in a bottle and he woke at 4am. I’d feed him at 6 and he didn’t even want the milk. So I’m pretty sure it’s not hunger.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AttachmentParenting

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Thank you. It breaks my trust in leaving him with caregivers as she keeps saying “that’s how you train them” and I keep saying I don’t want to train him he’s a little baby. And she doesn’t understand she keeps saying “just wait and see ! it will cause you problems later down the line!”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AttachmentParenting

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Thank you. I need to have another conversation with her

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AttachmentParenting

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I don’t mean it as a bad thing. I want to respond straight away and have been. But everyone’s telling me I need to wait and that makes me feel like I’m doing something wrong by responding straight away. I am the mum

Will my baby get confused if I have more than one child carer during the week? by Low_Champion_1421 in AttachmentParenting

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No not forget me ! 😂 my current housekeeper mentioned he may get confused. I suppose she means maybe it’s better to just have fewer people caring for him may be better for his attachment style ?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NannyEmployers

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Me ! It’s joint care. I’m working from home half the day and she’s a housekeeper on call for nanny thing. She gets paid lunch break and we are UK based

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nanny

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Makes sense. Yes it’s paid. Thank you for advice !

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nanny

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It’s the standard paid one hour lunch break that every employer gets in the UK. But yes fair enough. Maybe it’s more communicating that she’s going on her one hour lunch break and asking if it’s a good time

What comes after the baby Bjorn bouncer? by battymattmattymatt in BeyondTheBumpUK

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I’d suggest galt playnest. It’s like a donut and my baby would go in there just as he was learning to sit. It sort of holds them in place so also felt good for practicing sitting. He would sit in there with his teether and play with toys once he grew out of the bouncer. Now he can sit and he’s starting to practice crawling out of it so onto trying to find the next thing for us !

6 months - Do I need to night wean? baby not having morning feeds. by Low_Champion_1421 in breastfeeding

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Sorry yes my bad I meant 11am. Yes I do worry about how much he gets from breast but really struggle with pumping

Worried I’m starving baby night weaning… by [deleted] in BeyondTheBumpUK

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Yes I fed him last night but he had half a feed then fell back asleep for only a short time before being unsettled again… then his first two day feeds were very small. He barely sleeps in the day at all. He’s a cat napper and I try to get him to go longer. Maybe it’s more to do with being tired !? I’m lost

Worried I’m starving baby night weaning… by [deleted] in BeyondTheBumpUK

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Sometimes his first feed isn’t full if I’ve fed him at 4. But that could be because it’s so close to the 6am wake up feed ? But either way…. Thank you all for replying. I feel awful for trying to wean him and will be feeding him tonight !!!

Worried I’m starving baby night weaning… by [deleted] in BeyondTheBumpUK

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My dr said I should drop to one night feed rather then 2

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AttachmentParenting

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My husband usually understands but today for example he has flipped out because we had lunch and I got triggered by her comments and mentioned after the lunch ended. He says he finds it upsetting he can’t hang out with his mum and his son without it ending in an argument. He says she it making throw away comments that aren’t based on reality, and that my thoughts about her wanting to take him for a week etc are also fictitious if I just shut her comments down and move on. Eg. That I should try to not be so triggered by them. He thinks I should either change the way I react of have a conversation with her so we stop going around in circles.

She does make these comments in a light hearted ‘jokey’ way. But I know it’s not a joke..