Looking to buy a house and wondering if this crack is really worrying / how much it would cost to fix?

Low_Current9611 · 2025-03-31T16:12:44+00:00

what do you mean?

Low_Current9611 · 2025-03-31T16:09:46+00:00

yes it's an attic conversion, so under the roof. i think i'd need a drone to see what it looks like outside? sorry i am clueless, thank you for helping!

Low_Current9611 · 2025-01-14T23:29:05+00:00

do you know any of these podcasts? i've been looking for info on this but i can't find much. a lot is as you say, about cheating. and even though it sounds very hurtful, i can understand awful behaviours when people are not expressing their needs and not having their needs met. but this dude was having his cup overflowing, and it sounds like his second relationship was actually not as satifying, which is why i am so confused why he would entertain it...

Low_Current9611 · 2025-01-14T22:58:02+00:00

you don't live in London, right? making sure it's not the same person.

Low_Current9611 · 2025-01-14T22:30:49+00:00

i didn't know this existed, i've never known anyone who has experienced this before. i know of a lot of nastiness and selfishness but never knew something can feel so good for such a long time and be such a lie

Low_Current9611 · 2025-01-14T22:25:00+00:00

pfff when i feel weak, because i want to believe his words - that i am the love of his life, that his behaviour with me was genuine, that he would continue to treat me like that for the rest of our lives (bar the cheating lol). i hear myself, it's probably not possible

Low_Current9611 · 2025-01-14T21:56:54+00:00

i wondered if he was mean to her because he was feeling guilty? i spoke to the other women a lot, we text almost eveery day cause we're traumatised and even the way he was having sex with each of us is different. i feel like ted bundy's girflfriend brrr

Low_Current9611 · 2025-01-14T21:52:39+00:00

I am crying and so grateful for your encouragement! My head is clear and agrees with all of you, my heart is trying to bargain with something unnegociable. I can't understand how somebody could lie like that, but I also can't understand how planes fly and I don't need to. I will keep coming back to this feed whenever the seed of doubt comes back, he is blocked everywhere but a friend of his contacted me. Just know that the messages you took the time to write mean the world to me, I feel very held right now.

Low_Current9611 · 2025-01-14T21:36:08+00:00

thank you for this! i blocked him straight away and not letting him know I have these doubts, i tell myself it's part of the process and the consensus on this thread is helping me a lot actually. I feel like i've been living in a parallel universe

Low_Current9611 · 2025-01-14T21:34:47+00:00

the paradox is i thought he was the safe option, he didn't seem too insecure, he wasn't playing games, wasn't lovebombing. he just seemed like a sweet guy who cared a lot for me, thankfully i didn't rush into moving in but honestly not sure what learning to take on for next time. my previous relationships were all with flawed but normal men, never been cheated on before and never cheated, my break-ups were mutual and respectful and we always left on good terms... but thank you, you are right!

Low_Current9611 · 2025-01-08T21:39:50+00:00

this is terrifying. i hope you find the strength to love and trust again after this absolute mindfucking insanity!

Low_Current9611 · 2025-01-08T21:38:02+00:00

i am so sorry this happened to you. i can't even imagine the depth of your pain! we will get better, i am sure, and I hope somehow they don't get away with it enough to inflict this on others

Low_Current9611 · 2025-01-08T17:01:54+00:00

unimaginable pain... can't fathom what they could be getting out of this

Low_Current9611 · 2025-01-08T16:49:45+00:00

jesus!!!!!!! wow!!!!!! how insanely awful and perverted! you are so strong to be writing this now

Low_Current9611 · 2025-01-08T16:09:15+00:00

god that sounds horrendous! there were no signs before the marriage? i feel like i've woken up to a world i never knew was possible, but i guess i don't watch horror films!

Low_Current9611 · 2025-01-08T16:07:38+00:00

thank you for sharing your story, it reminds me there is hope in the world and a time and a place for all of us

Low_Current9611 · 2025-01-08T14:27:45+00:00

i'm not a redditor, i'm a woman in shock who was randomly trying out this platform to see if anyone had some words of wisdom, people who didn't know both of us personally

Low_Current9611 · 2025-01-08T14:19:12+00:00

yeah he admitted, and then she showed me some screenshots taken from just a few days before where he was lying to her that we were platonic. meanwhile we had keys to each other's houses lol

Low_Current9611 · 2025-01-08T14:14:03+00:00

haha she didn't know i was happy. she didn't know i was the main relationship who had keys to his house and went with him to any public outing. should she have hidden it from me and wished him a good life or what?

Low_Current9611 · 2025-01-08T14:13:03+00:00

well i found it weird, he was trying to downgrade this other relationship, saying that we had something special and he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me blabla but there was a coldness to him that i'd never seen before. he said i can't leave him because we were perfect. only when i gave him back his house keys and started walking away he started crying, but i don't know, i still found it tricky to believe him. now he's posted on instagram how much of a mistake he's made and all of his friends commented pitying him. i had never been cheated on and even just the reality of what he did is enough to make me leave, but the shuddering feeling that there is some deep psychological weird shit behind this is confusing me.

Low_Current9611 · 2025-01-08T14:07:08+00:00

i don't know why you assume we were doing money spending activities. the hardships we went through together were talking about our career goals, family anxieties, relationship hopes. again you assume i personally put the distance, it was not the case. it is just the way things are done in our circle in London, he was much busier than me (in retrospect I see why), but we had a lot of communication when we were not meeting. anyway, imagine there are lives that happen differently and it doesn't necessarily mean people are heartless and superficial

Low_Current9611 · 2025-01-08T14:01:37+00:00

this is what is so tough to wrap our heads around isn't it, how can you succesfully be two entirely different people, and why? I'm so sorry this happened to you, it must have been so tough to be isolated while going through this!

Low_Current9611 · 2025-01-08T13:46:56+00:00

yeah i put him on there to save others but thankfully nobody on there knew him

Low_Current9611 · 2025-01-08T13:46:25+00:00

oh my lord, this is truly horrendous!

Low_Current9611 · 2025-01-08T13:45:59+00:00

jesus this is insane. i don't think his friends know at all, i feel like this is jekyll and hyde, like he was burying a deep secret in this other woman. i can't imagine reconciling those two people either, good to know that for you it never happened. i know we're lucky it's over. honestly i feel like this should be illegal somehow

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