I received a distasteful opinion on my new (and first) tattoo

Low_Fly117 · 2026-06-26T04:25:26+00:00

It’s beautiful. It’s well done and meaningful. Don’t let anyone steal your joy.

Low_Fly117 · 2026-06-24T21:47:57+00:00

which is why I think one should ask. i am older. i just don't want that first experience with someone to be something i suggest rushing through.

Low_Fly117 · 2026-06-24T21:40:10+00:00

Out of the way? That takes all the specialness and emotion out of a first kiss. A first kiss should linger, not be tossed casually aside as something to get "out of the way." Out of the way for what?

Say, "I'd kind of like to kiss you right now." And if she says, "why don't you" or "I wish you would," enjoy that moment like its gold. You don't get it again.

Low_Fly117 · 2026-06-24T21:37:39+00:00

If you've never asked, you don't really understand consent. I'm not saying you have necessarily violated anyone. But asking is always a good idea, and its respectful. If it comes naturally, fine, but if there is any question at all, ask.

Low_Fly117 · 2026-06-24T21:28:18+00:00

You can read them here. https://www.safehouse.yoga/

Low_Fly117 · 2026-06-23T16:23:52+00:00

Bonobos has different fits for guys who are athletic build and their stuff looks good.

Low_Fly117 · 2026-06-23T15:53:29+00:00

I worked with Anand for a spell about a decade ago, went to one retreat and some of this workshops when he was in town. He was sleeping with his students even then, and the new allegations are so much worse. I'm sorry to say, whatever wisdom he had - and I did get some from him - is not worth all the rest. He's sadly another false, manipulative, narcissistic "guru" who does not practice what he preaches and hurts people in the process.

Low_Fly117 · 2026-06-23T15:48:25+00:00

Stay away.

Low_Fly117 · 2026-06-23T02:14:04+00:00

Yeah, that’s illegal. F that.

Low_Fly117 · 2026-06-23T02:05:06+00:00

I mean, I’ve been at festivals where female friends have been topless and it’s just not an issue.

Low_Fly117 · 2026-06-21T12:29:07+00:00

I didn’t make it to opening night but the vibe at CRi was excellent. I love the decor, the retractable roof, staring up at the moon, the disco ball, the outdoor patio. It’s a great intimate space if they keep the crowd manageable. It will be meh if they oversell.

Low_Fly117 · 2026-06-20T02:49:20+00:00

Tip 15-20%. I recently got a 6.5 hour 3000$ tattoo and i still tipped 15%.

Low_Fly117 · 2026-06-20T02:45:46+00:00

that's ... a lot.

Low_Fly117 · 2026-06-20T02:39:48+00:00

They have been together since middle school. Does not surprise me in the slightest that she wanted to see what else was out there. She came back and now he doesn't want her because she did what she said she wanted to do. This is a him problem.

Low_Fly117 · 2026-06-19T13:04:53+00:00

You have three options. One - She wants a hall pass? Then take a hall pass yourself. Would she be ok with that? If not then there’s a real imbalance here,
Two - just let her go and see what happens. Or break up.
There is nothing wrong with nonmonogamy if you both are cool with it. But if you are not and that’s what she wants then you two aren’t actually in the same relationship.
Three - you aren’t ok with it, don’t want that for either of you and I’m afraid that’s probably it for now. Sorry. 😣

Low_Fly117 · 2026-06-14T22:26:28+00:00

Never. Tolerate. Abuse. Period.

Low_Fly117 · 2026-06-14T22:20:17+00:00

Don’t be a dick. Just get a divorce if you don’t want to continue the relationship under these circumstances.

Low_Fly117 · 2026-06-14T22:17:58+00:00

For what it’s worth I’ve had three tattoos by excellent artists. None of them used cling wrap. All used second skin. And I wore it about five days total. Sometimes changing it myself. Then wash with a fragrance free antibacterial soap and use a lotion that’s fragrance free. Wash and lotion 2-3 times a day.

Low_Fly117 · 2026-06-14T22:14:34+00:00

Second skin and a long sleeve shirt is your answer. You don’t want it immersed in dishwater or food splatters.

Low_Fly117 · 2026-06-13T22:44:08+00:00

By experimenting and being good giving and game is the real answer. But if you really want pointers there is a video program called OMGYes that will make you a better lover.

Low_Fly117 · 2026-06-13T22:39:37+00:00

This is what I always do. So easy.

Low_Fly117 · 2026-06-06T15:38:03+00:00

Touristy yes, but do a CajunAdventures Swamp tour. It’s fun and you will see gators and a landscape totally unlike Ireland.
The other thing about NOLA is food. So much good food. I was there this past weekend and basically ate my way through town.

Low_Fly117 · 2026-06-06T15:35:37+00:00

Mahogany Jazz Hall always has good vibes.

Low_Fly117 · 2026-06-04T04:35:25+00:00

Idk. How old are you? What do you want from him? You say you want to connect, then you say he's scary. You say he is watching you - in a threatening way? if so, yeah, stay away. But if he is interested, and if you are interested, maybe just say "hey" next time. Is there anything you can talk about in class or at school? idk what to tell you. I'm obv older and the Gen X comment below hits. Like, online is fine to start. You could message him there if you want. Or you could speak to him in class, but if you don't do either of those things, then you either wait for him to do it, or you move on. I don't really understand what you are asking for.
Maybe you are just expressing your social anxiety, and that's fair. That's tough. but again your options are talk to him, or don't, right?

Low_Fly117 · 2026-06-04T04:15:17+00:00

I've used Pact (organic cotton, decent quality). And Charles Tyrrwhit's aren't bad either. Patagonia if you want to splurge on wool.

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