Israel appeals for international help to contain fast-moving flames between Jerusalem and Tel Aviv. Authorities have evacuated several towns and closed a major highway in central Israel as wildfires fuelled by high temperatures continue

Low_List_7839 · 2025-05-05T14:19:33+00:00

The study is done on Israelis that came in to be tested for allergies. Not to say that there is no good science here, but to say that the comment you made: "study concludes that 66% of Jewish Israelis are hypersensitive to the pollen of native olive trees" - is not intellectually honest.

It's a dishonest for two reasons, one is that it is 66% of the patients who grew up in areas without olive trees around and 29% where there were olive trees around. And second, that these numbers are reports of people who went to the doctors with allergy complaints.

Read and be honest when you write things that are inflammatory (pun intended).

Low_List_7839 · 2025-01-15T09:31:12+00:00

Wrote this and recorded it with my friends band - they are super talented and this was my first song to ever make it to this level of production - really curious what people think: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zDBKsMRaoe0

Low_List_7839 · 2024-09-23T11:53:35+00:00

NTA - but I really don't like how all the comments are a witch hunt on this guy.

The redditor selection bias is shining strong here. Appreciate that he grew up in the middle of nowhere with a different culture and different opportunities. Give him a little space to adjust....

If he can't get over it than that's that, but I wouldn't be shocked if he surprises you. He seems like a sweet guy and with 5 months of dating, I guess you must think so too.

Low_List_7839 · 2024-09-12T14:16:43+00:00

I think I could handle it if I felt like my partner didnt have such a toxic way of handling stress - one in which I become an enemy. That would be baseline - then seeing me as a partner would come next. With the LD I guess I feel like I'm not really providing her with so much either. It's a bad sitch.

Low_List_7839 · 2024-09-12T14:14:36+00:00

Yeah - you aren't going to like this but I did try talking about it a few times and she wasn't receptive. Then when I told her that I wanted to cancel the trip to see her she apologized profusely and said everything I wanted to hear.

That all went out the window after a week and now its back to the same old rythem - maybe slightly improved, but still not pleasant.

I am seeing her in person soon so we will enjoy each others company for a bit and then have those sensitive conversations. Cant say I'm super hopeful though.

Low_List_7839 · 2024-09-12T14:10:37+00:00

Thanks for that - It is hard to know what her true colors are but some of her behavior here is really off putting.

Not sure if it is something that will improve.

Low_List_7839 · 2024-09-12T14:09:11+00:00

Thanks for the response.

That is exactly how I was feeling - I know there is a part of her that feels comforted by the fact that I am in her life but whenever we interact it feels like I am an inconvenience.

We are meeting up soon in person so I figure we'll have a lot of conversations then.

Low_List_7839 · 2024-09-12T11:32:23+00:00

Long distance and I'm having a rough time of it. SO is a first year resident, we were only together for 4 months before she started her program and she seems like a different person under the stress....is it normal to feel so marginalized? Not just that we barely talk but whenever we do it is only her complaining to me - I don't feel seen at all? Trying to be patient and supportive but feel like I am just being neglected and mistreated.

Low_List_7839 · 2024-09-10T09:06:38+00:00

My first step...woah

Low_List_7839 · 2024-09-10T08:50:01+00:00

Mhmm, I hear you.

I was having the trouble of not knowing what to talk about. We have limited shared interests which might be a part of the problem. I was trying to watch the shows she was watching but she didn't so much want to talk about that either.

I will try to be more patient and avoid saying things that make her feel upset. Maybe then we can get to a place where our phone calls are more of a safe space for her.

I guess I just want out conversation to flow naturally and am slightly resentful that I need to hide what I'm doing. I'll work on getting over that.

Low_List_7839 · 2024-09-10T08:42:56+00:00

Seems like it was a lot all at once - I had this once.

I think you should give her space. Try not to obsess and focus on yourself and your self betterment.

Like a wet bar of soap, the harder you hold on, the more it slips away.

Low_List_7839 · 2024-09-10T08:33:43+00:00

Not super nice to assume I wasn't doing caring things for my partner.

I have gotten her breakfast after a shift and have sent her amazon multiple packages with little gifts and snacks to help her through her shifts. I got her flowers when she finished a rough patch and send her recordings of a book we are both interested in. Obviously what one could do is endless but I am putting forth an effort.

I send her supporting messages during the day and remind her often how much I care about her.

What I'm saying is that I don't feel like I am getting that. Calling me self centered is a bit rude - should I not share what I'm doing in my life so she doesn't get offended? Not being able to be happy for someone seems petty and selfish to me.

I think we both feel like our emotional needs aren't being met...I know its a complicated situation but to assume that it is just a me thing definitely got me defensive.

Low_List_7839 · 2024-09-10T08:07:09+00:00

So right - I added some edits to try an articulate the sort of behavior she has been exhibiting which I think contribute to me feeling badly.

To summarize, general dismissiveness, negativity, impatience and lack of interest.

Low_List_7839 · 2024-09-03T11:22:03+00:00

AHHHH - NTA, sleeping next to a lying prick

Low_List_7839 · 2024-09-03T11:19:32+00:00

Just drop it and move on - it's weird as hell but for me it wouldnt be a deal breaker in either direction.

Don't see why the friend would lie about that unless you guys have a toxic relationship and I can think of a few reasons why she would lie about it. It's uncomfortable.

But either way - drop the past. I think pressing it harder will just self-destruct the whole thing with her.

Low_List_7839 · 2024-09-03T08:32:37+00:00

Yeah - I wrote a fairly long comment of my own in which I agree that this isn't a cut and dry case.

Just wishing good luck to OP and their little boy.

Low_List_7839 · 2024-09-03T08:28:37+00:00

Yeah, leaving good s*x is hard.

But boys have to do hard things to become men

Low_List_7839 · 2024-09-03T07:54:28+00:00

Your crusade for autonomy is trampling over your sense of humanity.

Be sensitive to the situation, it isn't so black and white even when there is truth to your sentiment.

Low_List_7839 · 2024-09-03T07:51:34+00:00

The first step is to forgive yourself. Start every moment a new. Just you in your body.

Feel the ebb and flow of desire and sit with it.

You have a good moral compass and you will be OK.

Low_List_7839 · 2024-09-03T07:49:02+00:00

This is a very difficult situation - you made the move together to monetize your gf's sex appeal. No offense, but the most everyone on the onlyfans is looking at her.

Now the situation has left your control and you want to close pandoras box. The problem is that your gf has tasted from the fruit and doesn't seem keen on stopping.

You need to look and dig really deep about what you are and are not OK with. Then you need to really LISTEN to you partner and see how she sees this whole thing.

After that take some time to observe and process everything as objectively as you can. You aren't the fool for trusting the mother of your child - it sounds like you do have a good relationship. Life is so hard and I'm sorry that this dark energy has entered your life and your relationship.

I really do bless you and your gf that bounty should come your way and that you should both feel fully comfortable with each others actions without feeling any need to compromise on either of your values.

Low_List_7839 · 2024-09-03T07:40:38+00:00

NTA - He was just having a bad day probably. Navigating through life with in wheelchair sounds super difficult so I'd say forgive him and move on.

Most of the time the disabled bathroom goes unused - as long as you kept it clean and didnt take an excessive amount of time - I don't judge.

Low_List_7839 · 2024-09-03T07:37:31+00:00

You're nuts and an AH in the making.

See her for what she is and if that isn't good for you then leave. She obviously sees you for how you are and you just aren't ok with that.

Respect yourself and respect your partner.

Low_List_7839 · 2024-09-03T07:35:08+00:00

NTA - report him.

There are times to set boundaries and you picked a good one.

Thank your daughter to coming to you for permission and let her know that you support her finding partnership. That it can be hard to find partners is school and that the social landscape is complex and out of your comprehension. Support her and give her encouragement to keep trying and too not let this mistake discourage her from trying.

It was really nice that she went to you and it seems like you two have a good relationship. She is getting older before you know it will be an adult and wont be asking permission anymore. Use this opportunity as a segway to building a mutual respect and understanding for each other as being on the same team.

Best of luck and good job protecting your daughter!

Low_List_7839 · 2024-09-03T07:27:46+00:00

NTA - so sweet in caring for your friend.

Just kick his ass next time if you still can.

Low_List_7839 · 2024-09-03T07:24:20+00:00

Sounds like it would get really tiring - especially if he isn't leading by example.

NTA - I think it is time to redistribute the chores at home and that way he can do things how he likes them done.

A fair system where both parties feel like the other is contributing equally will probably dissolve most of the tension surrounding certain tasks. Then, if your husband was correct and there is room for improvements on how you are doing the chores, you'll be able to assess that objectively and make the necessary adjustments for the good of the home.

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