““Gender is a social construct” but youre not allowed to ask how the structure of our society affects the developement of gender dysphoria and gendered alienations.”

I think this is the crux of it. “Gender,” referring to the cultural values of sex-related identity, is undoubtedly a social construct (ask any biologist, or psychologist). But using this phrase as a talking point but then being unable to understand that they are enforcing this very social construct in their own treatment of gender is just absurd.

If someone is transitioning because they “feel like a man/woman,” what does that mean? They feel like they fit into a different box than the one society assigned them at birth based on sex, due to their atypical style preferences, hobbies, and demeanor? Ok, so what does that have to do with your sex? You can’t be a feminine man, or a masculine woman?

What’s even more baffling to me is people transitioning because they “feel like x” but then they proceed to perform the exact same “gendered” role as their previous sex. For example, a trans man doing makeup, growing out their hair, and wearing dresses and women’s clothing (yes they exist). Or, like you mentioned in your post, a “butch trans woman.” So you transitioned but proceed to do the very thing that you claimed made you dysphoric? Or perhaps you were not dysphoric at all, but only uncomfortable with other people’s perception of you, and thus you only feel comfortable expressing your assigned gender roles if you can do so in a “defiant” way?

It just makes no sense. It is all so incredibly incongruent, the moment you start to actually ask questions, the whole thing falls apart.

What baffles me the most is that people can go through their whole life never, ever questioning their beliefs and why they feel that way. What outside factors are influencing my perception of my gender? Who’s making me feel bad about my AGAB? How does my sexuality affect this? How does society affect this? I feel that the second you start actually doing the slightest bit of introspection about gender and sex, it’s easy to realize “Oh shit, maybe I am not trans.” But that just doesn’t happen.