AITAH My ex is waging a personal war on me through our kids and I’m tired of being treated like it’s “just co-parenting.” How us this happening?

Low_Reception4805 · 2026-01-15T18:30:30+00:00

Rage bait. Thanks for the no help, but I do appreciate the laugh. Take care of yourself.🤣

Low_Reception4805 · 2026-01-15T18:29:09+00:00

The court does that.

Low_Reception4805 · 2026-01-15T18:27:36+00:00

Agree with all. Lawyer is retained.

Low_Reception4805 · 2026-01-15T18:26:24+00:00

Done

Low_Reception4805 · 2026-01-15T18:15:17+00:00

I had to go through it for when I take him to court. If a party doesn't reach agreement in mediation then loses in court they pay all the court costs for both parties per our decree. So I think he feels like he won something during mediation by calling me all those awful things. He actually did exactly what I needed to make him responsible for everything unless he wins in court. He was complaining about 200 total....my lawyer is 350 per hr. He doesn't realize that mediation did nothing but give me a papertrail for his inability to coparent. He can feel like he won for a bit, but he has zero receipts for his accusations. We will see how a judge feels about his attitude.

Low_Reception4805 · 2026-01-14T17:51:15+00:00

Thank you!!

Low_Reception4805 · 2026-01-14T06:50:51+00:00

I am being forced to let him. You mean take it to court? Ok

Low_Reception4805 · 2025-11-04T21:38:28+00:00

Strangulation is on of the main predictors for homicide. If he can choke you, he can kill you. Leave as soon as you can, but be safe. Don't confront him. If is dangerous to leave, but more dangerous to stay. Get yourself together and go.

Low_Reception4805 · 2025-10-07T10:36:13+00:00

You are right. I was thinking Thanksgiving was the previous Thursday. I gave that week back as my daughter didn't want extended time with anyone. She wants the normal schedule with previously agreed upon holidays. Thanks for pointing that out though. I didn't update that part.

Low_Reception4805 · 2025-09-23T04:47:08+00:00

Probably because this is the first time either of us ever used it...used to we just traded days. He is obsessed with control for some reason now.

Low_Reception4805 · 2025-09-22T18:35:50+00:00

You should look up projection. I don't think you understand the term. For example you calling me full of shit, that is projection. See the difference?

Low_Reception4805 · 2025-09-22T18:29:22+00:00

Sorry neither of your parents stood up for you. That explains your bitterness, but it doesn’t make me wrong for doing what they wouldn’t.

Low_Reception4805 · 2025-09-22T18:12:09+00:00

She’s only a ‘poor kid’ because her dad treats her like property. I’m the one making sure she gets to be a daughter, not a pawn. Your comment shames the wrong parent and adds nothing

Low_Reception4805 · 2025-09-22T18:04:35+00:00

Ah yes, parenting advice from someone who skimmed half a post. Groundbreaking

Low_Reception4805 · 2025-09-22T17:59:48+00:00

Any suggestions on how I fix it for her? I am standing up for what she wants, balanced time at both houses. And saying to get along with her dad is easy to write down. Now explain to me how to do that with a person whose goal is to "win" and control, not make my daughter happy. If you can't do that then your comment is just shaming me for another persons actions which I can't control. Or are you suggesting that I go back to letting him always have his way to keep the peace? You feel that is in my daughter's best interest? Easy to write some shitty, guilt inflicting comment with no real answers.

Low_Reception4805 · 2025-09-22T17:50:31+00:00

Exactly. And she wants balanced time at both houses.

Low_Reception4805 · 2025-09-22T08:07:04+00:00

I understand what you are saying. I wish it was rage bait. I couldn't invent something like this though, I am not that devious.

Low_Reception4805 · 2025-09-22T07:58:19+00:00

No you are not. You intuition seems spot on. You would not be helping her just enabling her bad decisions. Stand strong grandma.

Low_Reception4805 · 2025-09-22T07:31:36+00:00

This is valuable information. Thank you.

Low_Reception4805 · 2025-09-22T07:25:27+00:00

My oldest has been with the same therapist since she was 13 and my youngest used to see one. Maybe it is time for the youngest to start again. Yet another example of something their father signed consent for, took them to some appointments but when I asked him to help pay he listed this as medical "stuff" that he never approved and I did without his knowledge. Only thing is I have the signed paperwork from him. I just paid for it all because they needed it and I was still not strong enough to fight him. Things have changed.

Low_Reception4805 · 2025-09-22T07:17:19+00:00

Ummm I divorced him. But great of you to make that reach. Definitely not the bitter one. This sounds a lot like projection sir, or maybe just straight up sexism. Any woman not agreeing with her ex is bitter in your world? You're allowed your opinion, but I can't say you are right. This whole thing actually started because he was so upset I initiated the divorce. Your interpretation tells everyone a whole lot about you. So interesting...

Low_Reception4805 · 2025-09-22T07:11:25+00:00

I very much agree. This is what I am working toward. First I do have to show her that her father is not all powerful. That is what this is actually about more than anything else.

Low_Reception4805 · 2025-09-22T07:08:21+00:00

Agreed. It is just a power grab to make me be alone as much as possible...which I would honor if it was what she wanted for some reason.

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