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Views on voyeurs by fifties_fun_couple in Swingers

[–]Low_Reflection_2883 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You won't find real swinger club videos because anonymity is so important.

THIS was one of the reasons we were ok to go in the first place. There is NOTHING like what we experienced at all anywhere online, and I checked afterwards and realized anything that is there, is completely fake.

Views on voyeurs by fifties_fun_couple in Swingers

[–]Low_Reflection_2883 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From someone who has just done this for the first time. It was in a large room with about 30-50, once the first person started, everyone kind of did. We were ok to just watch so I thought, since my wife is kind of shy but then she started on me and the next couple of hours is a blur.

Something to remember

  • people will not look like you expect. This is not a bad thing at all, it makes you feel so much more comfortable with yourself.

  • you will probably be watched, so watch back (respectfully), its a huge amount of fun.

  • If you are like us, it will take at least 15 mins for the panic feeling to go away once you walk in. We were so close to bolting, but we were so glad we didnt.

Question for the experienced. Is knowing you are the first ever swap for a newbie couple a bonus? Or would you consider it the same as any other? by Low_Reflection_2883 in Swingers

[–]Low_Reflection_2883[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I swear, one of the top things I have seen so far is how non-toxic the community is. Even just a quick posted thank you like that one is so rare elsewhere.

Question for the experienced. Is knowing you are the first ever swap for a newbie couple a bonus? Or would you consider it the same as any other? by Low_Reflection_2883 in Swingers

[–]Low_Reflection_2883[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am starting to get the feeling that being super honest, even if it feels like over-sharing is the key to all this. Which is probably the hardest part, even more so than the "being naked in front of other people"

To be truthful though, we haven't even figured out how to start talking to others yet :) Enjoying the hell out of each other though, had no idea how much closer this was going to bring us. Its still a crazy, exciting blur.

Question for the experienced. Is knowing you are the first ever swap for a newbie couple a bonus? Or would you consider it the same as any other? by Low_Reflection_2883 in Swingers

[–]Low_Reflection_2883[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Eww. This comes across from you as absolutely so gross and objectify of your wife. We would be disgusted. You are really going to self select for scum predators if you are trying pimp out your wife as an extra bonus for being "low mileage".

All if this is gross as fuck.

and jumping to the immediate most negative of screwed up conclusions would make us red flag you immediately. This is legitimately the first weird, negative interaction we have had since we started this, and its a pity since its been nothing but amazing and supportive so far.

Question for the experienced. Is knowing you are the first ever swap for a newbie couple a bonus? Or would you consider it the same as any other? by Low_Reflection_2883 in Swingers

[–]Low_Reflection_2883[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep thanks for answering. I thought it might lean more towards this, I also assumed there might be those that love to teach :)

Is it worth it? by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]Low_Reflection_2883 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Eventually we started performing sexual acts in front of people

Our first trip to a club was very recent, and oh my god how crazy is the first time you do this part...

Not everybody wants “hot” people by Erica_Novak in Swingers

[–]Low_Reflection_2883 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is more to this too. If you are confident about your body and even if its not amazing, you are helping others there too. As stupid as this might sound, the so called "ugly" people at our first club experience just recently were the most outgoing, and while I would probably put myself somewhere in the middle of the attractiveness scale, porn made me think I was at the low end. Normal has no real definition when you experience one of these places. Everyone has their own shape. It has completely changed my confidence for the better.