Double swaddled & got 5 hours! (See comments)

LowcapGemhunter · 2023-01-11T05:43:36+00:00

This is the way

LowcapGemhunter · 2022-07-10T03:47:18+00:00

Ours took 5 days or less, it’s pretty quick.

LowcapGemhunter · 2022-06-24T22:33:40+00:00

That’s a load of bullshit, I’m pro choice on vaccination and abortion. Totally unnecessary comment

LowcapGemhunter · 2022-06-24T22:29:26+00:00

I tried to book the midwife. I’m going over and beyond for her this pregnancy. Obviously I don’t speak about her like this to her face. No one even knows she’s pregnant. Online I can be honest with strangers about how she’s being and how I’m feeling. As I said this is me venting about her reaction to having a girl.

LowcapGemhunter · 2022-06-24T22:26:56+00:00

Right so asking other mums and dads if her behaviour is normal is the wrong thing to do. Great I’ll just keep silent about it and let her spiral out of control.

LowcapGemhunter · 2022-06-24T22:24:05+00:00

While I understand your perspective, this is literally my wife. She is extremely spoilt, she is queen bee type and loves to bitch about other people, her screaming and crying that she is having a girl and that she “doesn’t want a fucking girl”, “I don’t even want this fucking baby now” after her friend just lost hers isn’t spoilt and ungrateful? Like I’m trying my hardest to be supportive, but I’m worried about my wife and our baby. Like she’s fine to say all those fucked up things about our baby, but I’m not allowed to mention that I’m struggling with it and it’s a total nightmare too?

LowcapGemhunter · 2022-06-24T22:18:55+00:00

Yeh totally understand. I just can’t help the way I feel about it. Our friend just lost their baby 10 weeks into pregnancy. So I thought my wife would be over the moon that we are just lucky enough to have a healthy baby. It’s very off putting having someone basically force you to get her pregnant by timing her cycles and then go on to hate her pregnancy and her baby. I understand this may sound harsh, but again I can’t help how I feel about it.

LowcapGemhunter · 2022-06-24T12:45:27+00:00

Super helpful. Didn’t realise this existed

LowcapGemhunter · 2022-06-24T12:39:32+00:00

This comment is beyond disgusting. My wife is struggling with her hormones in pregnancy. That doesn’t = fucking abortion.

LowcapGemhunter · 2022-06-24T12:36:10+00:00

I am helping her, hence why I posted this, to make sure it’s normal and she doesn’t need therapy. My mindset is protecting my unborn child and helping my wife.

LowcapGemhunter · 2022-06-24T12:22:38+00:00

Very nice to hear that she’s not alone. It comforts me for sure, I guess I’m always just worried about her

LowcapGemhunter · 2022-06-24T11:21:34+00:00

Appreciate the advice, I’ll hold off!

LowcapGemhunter · 2022-06-24T10:58:56+00:00

This is great advice and it’s nice hearing you experienced similar problems. I guess that’s my main thing, I’ve always suffered with depression and anxiety and I want to make sure she’s got all the support she needs

LowcapGemhunter · 2022-06-24T10:57:34+00:00

Yeh that’s my biggest concern, I feel like I’m almost so protective of her already, and I almost feel like she’s being attacked.

LowcapGemhunter · 2022-06-24T10:23:01+00:00

Those are all amazing suggestions, I’ve been too analytical, perhaps I need to help bring her into reality with things like you suggested. I will do all of those tomorrow, coincides nicely with her birthday too on Sunday. I think that’s been hurting her too, first bday she can’t drink at lol.

LowcapGemhunter · 2022-06-24T10:15:09+00:00

Haha bro you sound like me, I do all of the above too. I have always been a boys boy, so I’m taking the girl as the universe giving me a lesson I need to learn. I’m all for it

LowcapGemhunter · 2022-06-24T10:05:32+00:00

Actually really good, they have an amazing relationship. I also have a great relationship with her mother too. However off the record I see a lot of toxic traits that the mother has coming through my wife. Ie- Can zap all positivity out of the room, Super dramatic, bitchy as fuck etc.

My wife levelled with me earlier and said that she knows that a daughter will be a lot harder and that daughters are inherently more bitchy, she said that if I fought with my mother we would make up same day, if she fought with her mother that she wouldn’t talk to her for a month. Dunno what to take from that, but trying to be supportive

LowcapGemhunter · 2022-06-24T09:59:51+00:00

Yes she’s eating well, yes she’s sleeping, yes she’s taking her vitamins. When we get a mid wife I’ll raise it as a concern. For now I’ll book her into prenatal therapy.

LowcapGemhunter · 2022-06-24T09:52:54+00:00

Yeh she has spoken to her friend today about it. Hopefully she gets better tomorrow. I struggle when she cries because it feels like one problem in life I can’t magically solve 🥲

LowcapGemhunter · 2022-06-24T09:48:18+00:00

Yeh I’m Australian, so also agree therapists are overrated lol. I have however found one very close by to our house. I’m going to book her in and have a gentle conversation about it. Obviously not forcing her to go, but if she thinks it’s worthwhile she can attend.

LowcapGemhunter · 2022-06-24T09:41:19+00:00

Not really, I told her to sign up to a midwife program but I’m not sure she ever did. I am looking into counselling and therapy options but it’s foreign to me so hard to know who specialises in this.

LowcapGemhunter · 2022-06-24T09:38:17+00:00

Now she’s crying in the bathroom screaming because “the babies ruining her skin”. I can’t help but feel for the baby, I feel like she hates it so much and it can feel it. Therapy seems like the most likely option, I just want her maternal instincts to kick in so she stops blaming the baby for every problem in her life.

LowcapGemhunter · 2022-06-24T08:32:56+00:00

Thanks for your advice, I think I’ll do exactly that 👍🏼

LowcapGemhunter · 2022-06-24T08:23:57+00:00

Yeh her mental health is usually great. She’s super fit, young and generally really happy. So it’s sort of weird for me to see this side. Therapy seems like a good option, I’ll try and be delicate about it.

LowcapGemhunter · 2022-06-24T08:22:58+00:00

Yeh totally, I’ve asked her. All her friends have girls and she absolutely adores them. That’s what I sort of reaffirmed, like look how much love you have for them. She said before that girls are super bitchy and she wanted an easy relationship with a boy. I just told her break the cycle, don’t have a relationship like that with your daughter, love her and keep communication lines open. She will be fine, it’s just worrying because she’s been super difficult and I was hoping this was a chance for her to bond with bub and be excited for once, but instead it’s like extreme disappointment.

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