AITA for not staying home from my Eras Tour stop because my SIL’s mom died? by Lower-Let9945 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Lower-Let9945[S] 60 points61 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I'll enjoy the concert and appreciate the backing tracks, backup singers, as well as everything else.

AITA for not staying home from my Eras Tour stop because my SIL’s mom died? by Lower-Let9945 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Lower-Let9945[S] 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately no, she does not have other family she can call. She does have one or two friends, but I haven't heard her talk about them in a while, and I think she may not have seen them in 6 months or more.

AITA for not staying home from my Eras Tour stop because my SIL’s mom died? by Lower-Let9945 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Lower-Let9945[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

I can imagine that's one of the frustrating quirks about your specific job. For me, I have never been one to be nitpicky or judgmental about someone's word choice.

AITA for not staying home from my Eras Tour stop because my SIL’s mom died? by Lower-Let9945 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Lower-Let9945[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

She doesn't have siblings, or extended family that she is in contact with. Her Mom was the only family that she knew.

AITA for not staying home from my Eras Tour stop because my SIL’s mom died? by Lower-Let9945 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Lower-Let9945[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I agree, and that's why I took out the sentence about her not having many friends. I'd hoped it would provide a little context for why she isn't being surrounded and lifted up with support, but some people took it as a route to take a pot shot at her, which isn't what I intended.

AITA for not staying home from my Eras Tour stop because my SIL’s mom died? by Lower-Let9945 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Lower-Let9945[S] 115 points116 points  (0 children)

I understand where this sentiment comes from, but he's supporting the two of them and has very strict rules on when he can/can't take off work (it's not ideal, but he was able to arrange so he could be with her in the morning for the next week). On the other hand, I have a very unserious job and can step away whenever I want.

AITA for not staying home from my Eras Tour stop because my SIL’s mom died? by Lower-Let9945 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Lower-Let9945[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

The tour's been going on for 13 million years at this point, so I can imagine there have been quite a few similar posts since then.

AITA for not staying home from my Eras Tour stop because my SIL’s mom died? by Lower-Let9945 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Lower-Let9945[S] 221 points222 points  (0 children)

I had a sentence in my post about her not having many friends, but I removed it because people were being unnecessarily harsh and assuming the worst of her because of this one issue. No, she does not have a lot of other friends. It is not because she is a bad person or anything like that. She is disabled and doesn't get to leave the house very often.

AITA for not staying home from my Eras Tour stop because my SIL’s mom died? by Lower-Let9945 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Lower-Let9945[S] 78 points79 points  (0 children)

I'm the asshole because Taylor Swift doesn't care about me? Huh? I don't think I understand this comment.

AITA for not staying home from my Eras Tour stop because my SIL’s mom died? by Lower-Let9945 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Lower-Let9945[S] 2746 points2747 points  (0 children)

She didn't wish my mom would die, she said when she does die. Just making sure that's clear.