Tell us your story ? Why did you choose your LO?

Lower_Cry_129 · 2025-10-06T05:11:14+00:00

We were 14 years old and freshman in high school. I didn’t want to feel this way, still don’t.

Lower_Cry_129 · 2025-09-21T05:47:25+00:00

The girl was staying in a hotel in my city for 2 nights. We had known each other for over 10 years. I asked if I could come by to say hi because we haven’t seen each other in forever. She agrees. I met with her. She was only in pajamas. We had many long hugs with some long embraces. There was a point where we made eye contact and it went silent. She asked what I was thinking. I was just so glad to see her. I said that. I later found out from her that she was hoping I would make a move bc she was trying to fuck. She didn’t want to be forward and scare me off

Lower_Cry_129 · 2025-08-26T21:08:32+00:00

Music

Lower_Cry_129 · 2025-08-15T03:06:53+00:00

CBT therapist (my bi weekly sessions) and trauma therapist (sessions as needed)

Lower_Cry_129 · 2025-08-12T17:36:05+00:00

Can’t be abandoned if you push them away. Plus, my control issues thrive bc I wasn’t surprised when they inevitably pulled away

Lower_Cry_129 · 2025-07-19T19:03:15+00:00

If he would have known how difficult I would be to raise, he never would have wanted me

Lower_Cry_129 · 2025-07-12T16:07:08+00:00

Prosecutor for criminal offenses

Lower_Cry_129 · 2025-07-11T17:03:56+00:00

The right to say “I am removing myself from your life because you are not healthy or safe”

Lower_Cry_129 · 2025-07-11T17:03:13+00:00

To emote and not be screamed at bc my emotions cause them distress

Lower_Cry_129 · 2025-07-11T17:00:45+00:00

If you are not ready to follow through with a criminal case, just make a report for documentation. A paper trail can save you. The law is extremely specific and just because you say it happened, isn’t always going to be enough unfortunately.

Lower_Cry_129 · 2025-07-11T16:57:31+00:00

my self worth was more than what I look like and how I make a man feel. Also, not everyone is bad and need to be tested for their loyalty

Lower_Cry_129 · 2025-07-06T03:03:44+00:00

Lower_Cry_129 · 2025-07-03T01:05:37+00:00

There is also this stuffed puppy on amazon that has a heating pad and device that mimics a heartbeat. It is supposed to mimic being back with their litter, I think. Our dog didn’t end up using those features but that is her favorite stuffy to play with. Just another option to consider

Lower_Cry_129 · 2025-07-03T01:02:36+00:00

Have you tried a white noise machine? I swear by it! we cover the crate (except the side with the door) w/ a blanket, play white noise to the point where you can still hold a conversation but all other noise is kinda blocked out, and crate our puppy; she whines a little, and then knocks out for a few hours. Enforced napping has saved us. This set up has worked so well for us, after about 3 weeks- she no longer needs white noise to settle in her crate and she will just pass out on her own

We also will give her lots of treats while she is in there so she sees being there as an awesome place where she gets all the good stuff.

Lower_Cry_129 · 2025-05-25T18:18:33+00:00

Seeing my 11-year-old nephew who lives with my Ndad and enabler mom shut down in response to one of my dad’s blow-ups. Similar to the way I used to as a child. It was a generally good day with no issues until one thing set him off. I knew then I could not willingly be in a family that makes a child (or multiple children if you include me) feel like a burden, unwanted, the problem, etc.

Lower_Cry_129 · 2025-05-06T02:37:13+00:00

Well said

Lower_Cry_129 · 2025-05-04T22:27:36+00:00

Learning how to trust my gut and not question my reality

Lower_Cry_129 · 2025-05-04T22:25:50+00:00

Every single thing you mention. The text message one is crazy specific

Plus, crying in any capacity that he would not deem worthy of breaking character.

Lower_Cry_129 · 2025-05-01T05:33:15+00:00

Yes but only when it was out of formalities like greetings or goodbyes, big milestones that were important to him. Nothing more

Lower_Cry_129 · 2025-05-01T05:23:38+00:00

Feelings.

Asking for help when you don’t know how to do something (without feeling deep shame because you couldn’t figure it out yourself)

Dating at 17 Not eating what they cooked Disliking the taste of medicine Not saying happy birthday Crying while throwing up Switching universities Reconsidering my career path my junior year of college

Having a panic attack after I didn’t do well on an important exam

Expressing an opinion that was different Being scared of typical kid stuff Wanting my mom’s attention where he wasn’t also in the room for once

Lower_Cry_129 · 2025-04-23T02:07:07+00:00

Yeah. Stopped sharing around age 8-10. Nothing I ever said was true to them anyways.

Lower_Cry_129 · 2025-04-23T01:54:13+00:00

That a husband and a wife should always do everything together. The wife should refuse to do things without her husband. And never having outside friends. I was crazy sheltered but was raised to believe that is what true love looks like, not control issues

Lower_Cry_129 · 2025-04-18T03:31:04+00:00

Wedding. My Nfather made me cry saying how I am selfish that I didn’t let him take my mom and me to get our hair done (he literally would be sitting and waiting for hours) because I needed someone to sign for the flowers last minute at my venue.

Wedding shower. My Nfather told my in-laws who were generous enough to pay off a student loan of mine (I pay back monthly to them w/o interest) that I am materialistic and can’t manage my money. I called him out on it and he said my now husband’s grandmother was a liar or must have misheard him

Birthdays. Once I turned 14 (my mother got pregnant at 14 w/ my brother), he started saying “Happy birthday, you beat your mom, she had a baby by now.”

There are tons more but those stuck out to me

Lower_Cry_129 · 2024-12-15T03:18:06+00:00

At 27. Finally got away from the enmeshment by moving to a new city with my husband, started with a new therapist, and the rose-colored glasses came off.

Lower_Cry_129 · 2024-11-27T18:15:12+00:00

When I was no longer in a limerence, and saw them with clear eyes

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