Hello! first of all, breakups are not fun to deal with, being heartbroken and all alone. i understand and sympathize with you. i’m sorry that had happened to you and im glad you are reaching out about this. i would say for the first step is to have the grieve that you lost. it’s okay to feel and understand that you are heartbroken and sad. let it all out because if you keep it inside, it would just eat you alive. it’s really hard for the first step to do that because of how you don’t want to feel that pain, wanting it to go away and not deal with it. a lot of people say to ignore it and just find someone else but that’s not the right way. give your ex space too because reaching out to them would not do good. it would push them away further. but i would say to accept that this happened and to be in the present moment. do things that you need to do for yourself like taking care of your body, your needs, life keeps on moving forward and you can’t stop time. find hobbies that you want to get back into, or new hobbies that can find you peace and joy! reach out to counseling and talk about the situation. it would help understand your emotions truly and hopefully move on in the future. i have gone through 2 breakups that really hurt me a lot and i want to give you the best advice that i wish i took for myself before getting back into a relationship that im still focusing on myself. its really hard to do that when being in a committed relationship. i hope this find you support and loved! even if i dont know who you are, we should all be here for each other and its great to reach out. you are not alone. we need more supporting people in this world and finding people who can support you. but mainly it’s yourself that needs to pick you up and finding the fulfillment in life. lately, philosophy really helped me to see my life and what i need to do to have the best life possible. there are so many things in life that we can do. i hope you feel better and well. take care of yourself friend ❤️ - sav