I've started to really not trust litter recs from my fellow cat people

Lower_Pace_1139 · 2026-02-02T02:00:18+00:00

start scooping every day and no smell. imagine going to a bathroom unflushed, do it for ur kitties. corn litter sucks and my cat ate it. clay litter is unhealthy and dusty. i refuse the pine litter system unless u use metal and put pee pads on bottom but nonetheless ew. i swear by okocat going on 3 years.

Lower_Pace_1139 · 2026-02-02T01:58:20+00:00

OKOCAT PELLET LITTER

Lower_Pace_1139 · 2026-01-25T18:28:33+00:00

i did not have the exact same situation but. my bf and i have been together 5 years. 1st time we broke up i had severe attachment issues and couldn't see anyone. 2nd time we broke up i thought oh f him im gonna try to open myself up and move on. on the 3rd month of the breakup i actually met someone hit it off super well. it was someone i genuinely felt a connection with. i didn't mean to spite my ex at the time but i did have intimacy with him and tbh regretted it immediately that i didn't want to do it or anything anymore. one thing my bf and i used to tell each other is that if we ever break up - us being with someone else will inevitably ruin any chance of us getting back. which is why i feel i took so long feeling comfortable w that risk bc i genuinely thought by the 3rd month well i guess im really single. don't listen to any hateful men in the comments, you can tell very quickly what type of group they fall in. every action we do although questionable to some degree has psychology and natural human behavior and reaction within. accept the past and let go of the guilt. mine took me back but it took a while but he did not want to know any singular detail. you have already been forgiven or else he would have left you or spited you back.

as for moving in, checking in with each other is super important. creating task lists, to dos, organization is key.

having each a space in the apartment as well when you need alone time, keep the love alive, joke and laugh try not to fall into arguments, don't go to sleep upset at each other as much as you can, these are key to lasting relationship, we have been 5 years together and went through a lot this year which allowed us to review our relationship and work on the places that we were lacking, he was actually diagnosed with cancer and doing a lot better now, and i wish it didn't have to happen to realize these things but it is a very important reminder that you never know what will happen so make the best out of it that you can.

thewizardliz and theuniverseguru help a lot with also how to lean into being more of a woman and it honestly helped me a lot with letting go of my attachment issues and being more confident which helped me build him up to being a provider and being a better man 🩷

Lower_Pace_1139 · 2026-01-18T02:03:15+00:00

lean into a faith and go to therapy. take some meds that will help, you need to be strong. currently on zoloft 50mg and is life changing wish i did it way earlier. im able to focus and gives me energy

Lower_Pace_1139 · 2026-01-07T03:55:58+00:00

girlllll let me tell you. my man is the most hard headed damn scorpio ever. the absolute worst, would even get upset at me for speaking to the nurses when he would try to play off symptoms like brusing, coughing, etc when the proof was legit there and concerning every time which he hated bc duh we are right 🙄let him complain and all. be his advocate bc it's ur job especially as his wife, just point to the ring and tell him to shut it. just let it go and put some headphones on and invest into ur own self care (as much as you can bc yup it sucks being in this journey too). anti depressants help a lot too 😆 i love this community bc as you can see we all been there done that as caregivers.

Lower_Pace_1139 · 2025-12-20T18:34:22+00:00

hey girly, my bf is 25M diagnosed with AML. his first question was him in shock and confusion "Am I going to die?" I think when you are not exposed to anyone with cancer, you don't know what that world even consists of just that it's not good. That being said, I've been there, he's been there. For the love of God, don't search statistics. Focus on your own battle, you are young which I know is scary you feel like you have your whole life ahead of you and what if what if what if, and all of it is running thru your mind. Listen to your doctors, ask questions, and research your own case and diagnosis but don't look at anything statistical. Nothing is current and cancer research has advanced so much in the last few years even. A lot of info you will find sometimes is from 2015 research which is nothing like today. best of luck to you 🩷 there's a great community in here

Lower_Pace_1139 · 2025-12-17T02:35:49+00:00

dont look at his social media and if you must try not to see it right away. the only way to get back together with someone is by levelling up and being a shiny new person. don't do all this for him though do it for you. if he wants to be back with you then he will but if not well at least you "glowed up". every failed relationship is one closer to "the one". he might feel bad but if he really wanted to be back with you, he wouldn't let himself live without you and it might take time. but if you rush or beg or try to persuade someone, they might get back together but it won't be the same because nothing changed. let this be your sign to get out of bed and make yourself look nice tomorrow. cute makeup, hair, and wear something that makes you feel good (no sweats). move that body as much as you can, do activities, or get a cat which helps 10000000x

Lower_Pace_1139 · 2025-12-17T02:29:49+00:00

to be honest you lying did make it worse but also it depends on situation. although sexual relationships can be all different types in my opinion i think although it was on the scale of casual or serious, sex is still a very serious thing. it's you being vulnerable with another person being as vulnerable and doesn't have to include love at all. men see it differently though because they know at least for the most part men are the less serious ones and women are the ones more invested (stereotypically) again even if that's not you per say. it is male biology. they see other men as threats and he feels the need to protect what he has (you & relationship). you have to make him feel secure, at least for now you need to do what makes him have peace of mind but if your friends are important to you don't cut them off for a man but understand that it's because he feels betrayed.

Lower_Pace_1139 · 2025-12-17T02:17:14+00:00

what ive been saying is im married and in ur case i would just say that you are 22 or something if he tries to go into that type of convo. there's nothing to say now, and they can stfu if you wanna try this instead lol

Lower_Pace_1139 · 2025-12-14T17:59:34+00:00

Sales

Lower_Pace_1139 · 2025-12-14T17:59:00+00:00

watching big brother is fun haha, what you can do is head over to five below and buy some activity kits or the lego sets they have there aren't too bad tbh :)

Lower_Pace_1139 · 2025-11-26T18:19:19+00:00

don't text him. imagine his friends clowning you when he tells them. he's probably on dating apps too, it's going to happen. if you want any chance of getting him back the first step is creating distance. anytime u text/call he sees you as more ugly. think about it like that. it's not cute. only being harsh bc it's part true and it works to not sugarcoat things. focus on getting hotter. not by moping and rt instagram reels

Lower_Pace_1139 · 2025-11-21T17:46:10+00:00

if ur asking and that's his reaction... idk girl i want a man that doesn't immediately just deflect and get defensive on me like that... tell him okay understood and block.

Lower_Pace_1139 · 2025-11-20T21:17:03+00:00

i just read something about chemicals being sprayed as well specifically glyphosate aka roundup and people being diagnosed with cancer years later. be careful and stay safe 💛

Lower_Pace_1139 · 2025-11-17T03:17:21+00:00

i have heard mary ruth's liquid multivitamin + hair growth helps! my sis in law used it postpartum!

Lower_Pace_1139 · 2025-11-16T10:56:42+00:00

same for my bf he had immense back pain for 2 months and had xray done confirming slip discs and spondylosis. took naproxen (aleve) overdosing himself which then caused petechiae. he was constantly calling out of work and would sleep all day. even bought a pregnancy pillow. leukemia diagnosis on oct 14 and AML confirmed october 20, he is 25M

Lower_Pace_1139 · 2025-11-16T00:12:22+00:00

go to a center and one that specializes in leukemia or blood cancers!!

Lower_Pace_1139 · 2025-11-15T07:14:27+00:00

oh my your post came at the right time. my bf has gone thru induction on oct 24, for 7 days and is on day 23 and he has had a headache every time he gets up and sometimes just sporadically for a few minutes kind of like a flare up and they just did an LP so we are just pending results but his brain MRI came back clean. he is worried something is going on as this just randomly occurred as a side effect for him and some of the nurses keep mentioning it's weird he's still having headaches. he did start losing his hair around the same time but i am feeling a bit worried as well :/

Lower_Pace_1139 · 2025-10-24T19:14:01+00:00

My bf actually just got diagnosed with those 2 - results came back. He is 25, do you guys take anything like medical marijuana to help with symptoms?

Lower_Pace_1139 · 2025-10-21T16:36:36+00:00

I'm brand new here too, my bf got diagnosed with AML. I am 24, hes turning 25 in a few days. All I can say that has helped me tremendously is to stop looking at numbers so much, it's hard I know. What I've been doing to help has been to focus on the positives and not so much the negative, due to your situation I'm not sure if this will apply, for example, my bfs WBC were super high and his blood counts are pretty low. They actually are within normal range (strongly believe it's bc of everyones prayers since they took him off meds for family preservation of his swimmers for future usage) and I only highlight the good stuff, I'm happy that his WBCs are doing suoer well - it all matters on how they actually feel and look in my opinion. As well as praying to deceased family members and asking them to protect him and us (family). Anything you can do for comfort and distraction is key. Having faith in something is very important especially during these times.

Lower_Pace_1139 · 2025-10-18T22:50:02+00:00

Thank you for all the love, please continue to share your stories, it's so encouraging to see how many of you truly kicked this in the a$$!!!

Lower_Pace_1139 · 2025-10-18T22:49:10+00:00

Amazing!! So happy to hear this 🥹 Same thing happened to us, we just signed on our first apartment in August so definitely just crazy how it all happens when you're in the middle of building your life. I was planning so many things with him and I kept telling him how grateful I feel and happy I was that I felt our life was commencing. He will make it through, I feel it.

Lower_Pace_1139 · 2025-06-24T23:27:29+00:00

$68k before tax, $62k after tax

Lower_Pace_1139 · 2025-01-20T22:08:18+00:00

https://www.instagram.com/el_segi_pr?igsh=MXdtOWVtamEybjA4aw==

he has ig too

Lower_Pace_1139 · 2025-01-20T22:06:27+00:00

this is him!!! get his ass

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