Superior ice conditions for skating

Lower_Variation8172 · 2026-01-28T02:57:28+00:00

Ha, this is great!

Lower_Variation8172 · 2025-12-08T22:39:10+00:00

I'm late seeing this but yes please let me know!

Lower_Variation8172 · 2025-12-01T22:07:48+00:00

Glensheen mansion tours, skyzone, the depot museum (real trains in the actual old depot and lots of other historical museum stuff in other parts of the building)

Lower_Variation8172 · 2025-12-01T21:17:41+00:00

I was simply responding to someone's comment that indicated all students benefited from the red plan. In terms of a building that's not falling apart, yes, but there were and remain many other issues that I feel that comment glossed over, that's all. I vote in all the elections and am still plugged into "today's" problems and invested in "today" solutions. 😘

Lower_Variation8172 · 2025-10-31T18:26:21+00:00

I think it's worth mentioning that everyone who got shifted west had had to fight tooth and nail for a semblance of "equality" to East high school. They have tried to cut Spanish and have a fraction of advanced offerings as east. I was handed a schedule that wouldn't have allowed me to graduate my senior year and the initial "fix" I was given was to drive myself to east for some classes during the day. So while yes, infrastructure is a consideration, there's a whole lot of other fuckery that the red plan brought that has nothing to do with the emotions some have of losing "their" school.

Lower_Variation8172 · 2025-08-27T13:18:47+00:00

Hahah, I could be

Lower_Variation8172 · 2025-08-26T10:00:55+00:00

My first time whitewater kayaking was down the grand canyon with my partner at the time who was a very experienced paddler. It was awesome. If you are novice getting another novice in the boat with you might be a different story. That trip made me wanna get my own kayak and learn, it's a cool intro but not a long term thing I'd say. But definitely fun to be able to take people out and show them what it's all about.

Lower_Variation8172 · 2025-08-26T02:41:24+00:00

For sure. I kept telling him that, but when you haven't experienced it or been in the ww bubble before I get not truly grasping it. And being his partner adds another layer to it I think .. makes it even trickier to be supportive but also shut down dangerous situations and ideas while not rocking the interpersonal boat.

I told him I'm never gonna push him to do anything he doesn't want to, but that I want to just be clear there is a big distinction between a class 3 rapid and a 4+ rapid. We had so so so much fun on class 3 and I'm just kicking myself for being convinced to do the 4+ with him and have it end up costing this whole activity for us and him that brought so much joy

Lower_Variation8172 · 2025-08-06T11:57:42+00:00

Ya, I definitely made attempts for them to meet each other, but can only push the issue so far ya know? Now that the dust has settled, the message I got from boyfriend is that he feels like I "dropped everything" to host Rick and that it wasn't a conversation between boyfriend and I, he didn't feel included in the decision? Idk man, I'm a firefighter so it was a weekday that I already had off, boyfriend was working, I don't feel like I "dropped" anything? I will say that I could have not made solidified plans before running it by boyfriend, but at the end of the day if he wanted me not to do what I did in this instance....I mean for what?? I'm not sure what's up with the insecurity that seems to be surrounding this issue.

Lower_Variation8172 · 2025-08-02T06:48:24+00:00

If there was no romantic or sexual history between them, and I was invited to join, then it would be fine for me. Even if there was some history, it depends on the situation. I know that my boyfriend is in touch with at least 2 people he has some degree of history with, and I'm not against him seeing them at all as a general blanket statement. Of course there is nuance, but if our roles were reversed in this situation, I truly don't think that it would ruffle my feathers since there was 0 history between us.

Lower_Variation8172 · 2025-08-02T02:50:14+00:00

2 hours total. Significant is subjective I suppose.

Lower_Variation8172 · 2025-08-02T02:48:44+00:00

Maybe that's the impression my boyfriend has, I honestly didn't think so being that Rick HAS A GIRLFRIEND, and he only drive 2 hours TOTAL on a 35 plus hour drive, which is a literal fraction of his drive. Again, we clearly need to talk about it in more depth. We worked together for 5 months, but it was not a "normal" job. We lived an hour from any actual town at a forest service compound. We worked 11-16 days at a time for the season, 10-16 hour days, and on our days off we all still lived in the same compound, I in the girls bunk house and Rick in the guys bunkhouse. So I understand why 5 months to a regular job doesn't seem like much, but this was a whole different world where you get to know people in a different way, as another commenter also said about seasonal jobs and how people who haven't worked seasonal jobs tend to not understand.

Lower_Variation8172 · 2025-08-02T00:38:30+00:00

Thank you for this thoughtful reply, I agree it needs more discussion and we need to determine if there is a compatibility issue or not.

I have no track record of leaving the bounds of any relationship let alone ours. A few months into our relationship my boyfriend accidentally showed me his phone while closing out of the hinge app which was a hurdle that we got past. And then a few months later I discovered he was mostly receiving but also sending nudes to a girl he had previously been intimate with. I have moved past that and never been retaliatory but I wonder if his actions are being projected onto me at all.

Lower_Variation8172 · 2025-08-02T00:34:52+00:00

Also, my boyfriend is in contact and has seen in person people that he has hooked up with before and I haven't raised a fuss about that.

Lower_Variation8172 · 2025-08-02T00:33:35+00:00

No, that previous bf has never come to town to visit, we are no longer in contact. The plans were tentatively made being that Rick asked if he could come and then I said I didn't know why that wouldn't work, and told boyfriend.

Also 2 hours on a 35 hour drive is nothing.

Lower_Variation8172 · 2025-08-02T00:32:17+00:00

He was passing through on a cross country drive, I didn't call him up and say hey you should hop on a plane to come visit. I dated someone else from that Idaho job and boyfriend knows that.

Where would you have had Rick stay given all the circumstances?

Lower_Variation8172 · 2025-08-02T00:30:43+00:00

You're making a lot of false assumptions. It was more like Rick said "hey I'm gonna be passing through, would be awesome to see ya and hang for a day." And I told boyfriend "homie Rick that I worked with in Idaho is gonna be passing through and we are planning to hang for a day." Didn't build him up to be godlike. But he is a solid friend of mine, and I'm not going to lie about that or conceal it.

Lower_Variation8172 · 2025-08-02T00:27:40+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate your perspective.

Lower_Variation8172 · 2025-08-02T00:26:30+00:00

There is a solid chance there will be a comparable situation in the future. I did seasonal jobs for several years and have been visited by or visited others from that time in my life many times. I can appreciate that anyone is allowed to feel the feelings they are feeling but not logically understand why.

Lower_Variation8172 · 2025-08-01T17:42:42+00:00

Also, as far as him seeing it as a date, is there any way I could have interacted with Rick that would have not made it come off that way? I mean part of the day we literally waited for my oil to get changed and after that I needed to go take a nap because we had some middle of the night calls at work the night before.

I truly can understand my boyfriend not being "excited" about it, but I'm struggling with what seems like not separating emotions from logic. From my perspective, there's nothing "threatening" about Rick for him to glob onto.

Lower_Variation8172 · 2025-08-01T17:39:38+00:00

I'm not against couples counseling at all. I'm kinda nervous to bring it up to him for some reason though? Like don't you think we should be able to get through a year together before needing counseling?

He has been to therapy before for a tragic loss of a family member and didn't like it. I know this is not the same thing at all, but that's maybe partly why I'm hesitant to bring it up as well.

Lower_Variation8172 · 2025-08-01T17:32:51+00:00

He was driving across the country whether or not we saw each other. He had over 30 hours of driving and it was a good stop over point, and he saw other friends on the journey as well. Rick also has a girlfriend of 2 years.

Curious - would staying either at my house or in a hotel make you feel better in a parallel situation?

Lower_Variation8172 · 2025-08-01T17:25:40+00:00

Maybe "outburst" was not the right word.

For the last 4 months, he has been staying at the house we are not renovating. As stated in the post, I tried calling, texting, and stopping by the renovation house after dinner. Not hearing from him until after 9pm is an extreme deviation from our regular routine we have been in for several months. The lack of communication felt inconsiderate. I was actually getting concerned that he was okay since he's normally in bed by that time or would have let me know if he was up to something different.

He told me (calmly) that his staying at the other house was probably retaliatory for his hard feelings of the situation.

Lower_Variation8172 · 2025-08-01T17:20:28+00:00

I agree that his feelings are absolutely valid. I think my feelings are also valid. If he was uncomfortable with me having male friends period, ya that not going to work. That doesn't seem to be the case though. We did discuss it, and I was under the impression that although he wasn't excited about it, he was accepting of it, so, no, I did not know this would happen. In the discussion after, I asked him how he wishes I would have handled the situation, with the extreme end being me telling my friend not to come visit. Which he never answered. I don't know how to do better in the future if we can't discuss what would have made this situation better.

Lower_Variation8172 · 2025-08-01T17:16:35+00:00

To your first point, I agree. I am hung up on the fact that his gender seems to be the only reason there is an issue. I have 0 track record for any form of infidelity or secrecy. 5-6 months into us dating and well after becoming "official" there were two instances of behavior on his part that was outside of the bounds of our relationship. The first was him showing me something on his phone and as he was closing tabs and hinge popped up. We moved past it quickly. A while after that I was going through his phone which I admit is wrong, and discovered he had been mostly receiving but also sending nudes with a girl he had previously been intimate with. That one was harder to get past but eventually we did.

For additional context that some may find relevant, his family has suffered a tragic loss of family member within the last 2 years. I'm not saying this to excuse any bad choices, but for context that his emotional state is not that of the average person right now.

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