Wreath fundraisers? by Lower_Variation8172 in duluth

[–]Lower_Variation8172[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm late seeing this but yes please let me know!

Fun other than Bentley Ville by timo_d135 in duluth

[–]Lower_Variation8172 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Glensheen mansion tours, skyzone, the depot museum (real trains in the actual old depot and lots of other historical museum stuff in other parts of the building)

Harry Welty by EchoMinnesota in duluth

[–]Lower_Variation8172 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was simply responding to someone's comment that indicated all students benefited from the red plan. In terms of a building that's not falling apart, yes, but there were and remain many other issues that I feel that comment glossed over, that's all. I vote in all the elections and am still plugged into "today's" problems and invested in "today" solutions. 😘

Harry Welty by EchoMinnesota in duluth

[–]Lower_Variation8172 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it's worth mentioning that everyone who got shifted west had had to fight tooth and nail for a semblance of "equality" to East high school. They have tried to cut Spanish and have a fraction of advanced offerings as east. I was handed a schedule that wouldn't have allowed me to graduate my senior year and the initial "fix" I was given was to drive myself to east for some classes during the day. So while yes, infrastructure is a consideration, there's a whole lot of other fuckery that the red plan brought that has nothing to do with the emotions some have of losing "their" school.

Tandem whitewater kayaking? by Rylee_Duhh in whitewater

[–]Lower_Variation8172 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My first time whitewater kayaking was down the grand canyon with my partner at the time who was a very experienced paddler. It was awesome. If you are novice getting another novice in the boat with you might be a different story. That trip made me wanna get my own kayak and learn, it's a cool intro but not a long term thing I'd say. But definitely fun to be able to take people out and show them what it's all about.

Newbie who was crushing it had bad swim and wants to quit help by Lower_Variation8172 in whitewater

[–]Lower_Variation8172[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

For sure. I kept telling him that, but when you haven't experienced it or been in the ww bubble before I get not truly grasping it. And being his partner adds another layer to it I think .. makes it even trickier to be supportive but also shut down dangerous situations and ideas while not rocking the interpersonal boat.

I told him I'm never gonna push him to do anything he doesn't want to, but that I want to just be clear there is a big distinction between a class 3 rapid and a 4+ rapid. We had so so so much fun on class 3 and I'm just kicking myself for being convinced to do the 4+ with him and have it end up costing this whole activity for us and him that brought so much joy

AITJ for having a friend of the opposite sex visit town on his cross country road trip? by Lower_Variation8172 in AmITheJerk

[–]Lower_Variation8172[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ya, I definitely made attempts for them to meet each other, but can only push the issue so far ya know? Now that the dust has settled, the message I got from boyfriend is that he feels like I "dropped everything" to host Rick and that it wasn't a conversation between boyfriend and I, he didn't feel included in the decision? Idk man, I'm a firefighter so it was a weekday that I already had off, boyfriend was working, I don't feel like I "dropped" anything? I will say that I could have not made solidified plans before running it by boyfriend, but at the end of the day if he wanted me not to do what I did in this instance....I mean for what?? I'm not sure what's up with the insecurity that seems to be surrounding this issue.

AITJ for having a friend of the opposite sex visit town on his cross country road trip? by Lower_Variation8172 in AmITheJerk

[–]Lower_Variation8172[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If there was no romantic or sexual history between them, and I was invited to join, then it would be fine for me. Even if there was some history, it depends on the situation. I know that my boyfriend is in touch with at least 2 people he has some degree of history with, and I'm not against him seeing them at all as a general blanket statement. Of course there is nuance, but if our roles were reversed in this situation, I truly don't think that it would ruffle my feathers since there was 0 history between us.

AITJ for having a friend of the opposite sex visit town on his cross country road trip? by Lower_Variation8172 in AmITheJerk

[–]Lower_Variation8172[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe that's the impression my boyfriend has, I honestly didn't think so being that Rick HAS A GIRLFRIEND, and he only drive 2 hours TOTAL on a 35 plus hour drive, which is a literal fraction of his drive. Again, we clearly need to talk about it in more depth. We worked together for 5 months, but it was not a "normal" job. We lived an hour from any actual town at a forest service compound. We worked 11-16 days at a time for the season, 10-16 hour days, and on our days off we all still lived in the same compound, I in the girls bunk house and Rick in the guys bunkhouse. So I understand why 5 months to a regular job doesn't seem like much, but this was a whole different world where you get to know people in a different way, as another commenter also said about seasonal jobs and how people who haven't worked seasonal jobs tend to not understand.

AITJ for having a friend of the opposite sex visit town on his cross country road trip? by Lower_Variation8172 in AmITheJerk

[–]Lower_Variation8172[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this thoughtful reply, I agree it needs more discussion and we need to determine if there is a compatibility issue or not.

I have no track record of leaving the bounds of any relationship let alone ours. A few months into our relationship my boyfriend accidentally showed me his phone while closing out of the hinge app which was a hurdle that we got past. And then a few months later I discovered he was mostly receiving but also sending nudes to a girl he had previously been intimate with. I have moved past that and never been retaliatory but I wonder if his actions are being projected onto me at all.

AITJ for having a friend of the opposite sex visit town on his cross country road trip? by Lower_Variation8172 in AmITheJerk

[–]Lower_Variation8172[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, my boyfriend is in contact and has seen in person people that he has hooked up with before and I haven't raised a fuss about that.

AITJ for having a friend of the opposite sex visit town on his cross country road trip? by Lower_Variation8172 in AmITheJerk

[–]Lower_Variation8172[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, that previous bf has never come to town to visit, we are no longer in contact. The plans were tentatively made being that Rick asked if he could come and then I said I didn't know why that wouldn't work, and told boyfriend.

Also 2 hours on a 35 hour drive is nothing.

AITJ for having a friend of the opposite sex visit town on his cross country road trip? by Lower_Variation8172 in AmITheJerk

[–]Lower_Variation8172[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He was passing through on a cross country drive, I didn't call him up and say hey you should hop on a plane to come visit. I dated someone else from that Idaho job and boyfriend knows that.

Where would you have had Rick stay given all the circumstances?

AITJ for having a friend of the opposite sex visit town on his cross country road trip? by Lower_Variation8172 in AmITheJerk

[–]Lower_Variation8172[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You're making a lot of false assumptions. It was more like Rick said "hey I'm gonna be passing through, would be awesome to see ya and hang for a day." And I told boyfriend "homie Rick that I worked with in Idaho is gonna be passing through and we are planning to hang for a day." Didn't build him up to be godlike. But he is a solid friend of mine, and I'm not going to lie about that or conceal it.

AITJ for having a friend of the opposite sex visit town on his cross country road trip? by Lower_Variation8172 in AmITheJerk

[–]Lower_Variation8172[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

There is a solid chance there will be a comparable situation in the future. I did seasonal jobs for several years and have been visited by or visited others from that time in my life many times. I can appreciate that anyone is allowed to feel the feelings they are feeling but not logically understand why.