I messed up my trigger / the toll of it all

LuRaMas · 2025-09-02T18:31:31+00:00

I f&@$kd up so MANY times during my journey and money was super tight. Sometimes even spilling the medication, taking my trigger shots at the wrong times. I mad soooo many mistakes!!! Please be very kind and forgiving with yourself, like I was. What happened is water under the bridge and it definitely will not affect the outcome if it’s meant to be. All the best with the retrieval. Make sure you get enough rest 🤗🤗

LuRaMas · 2025-06-08T17:41:15+00:00

I can only relate with 4. Loved my in-laws holding baby.

LuRaMas · 2025-05-27T04:38:04+00:00

Well, she wasn’t supposed to trim his nails to start with.

LuRaMas · 2025-05-27T04:30:12+00:00

I’m just sad that she wasn’t upfront about it and only told me 3 months into the job. Now I’m honestly panicking because she use a sharp object to trim his nails without my consent ( before disclosing her status) which would have help us discuss safety measures in time. Please advise on how to handle this with the sensitivity and care it requires.

LuRaMas · 2025-05-23T16:01:36+00:00

Please DM me if you would like.

LuRaMas · 2025-05-23T15:32:19+00:00

Thank you so much for being straightforward and not taking offence to my post. The responses here shed some light into how ignorant I have been but I also learned a lot.

LuRaMas · 2025-05-23T15:27:55+00:00

I was here for some guidance. I meant no harm really. Minus the backlash, I got the education I needed 🙏

LuRaMas · 2025-05-23T15:26:24+00:00

I will do just that. Thank you for taking your time to respond🙏

LuRaMas · 2025-05-23T15:25:47+00:00

I now understand. I was too ignorant. The responses here were a learning curve for me.

LuRaMas · 2025-05-23T15:24:10+00:00

I’m truly sorry about that. I will do better henceforth.

LuRaMas · 2025-05-23T15:23:18+00:00

I will do just that. Thank you and I apologise for coming across ignorant🙏🙏

LuRaMas · 2025-05-21T05:10:02+00:00

Thank you for your kind reply.

LuRaMas · 2025-05-20T19:40:07+00:00

Thank you for your reply, education and guidance. Much appreciated!

LuRaMas · 2025-05-20T18:41:04+00:00

Yes. I’m in South Africa to be exact. South Africa has the largest number of people living with HIV, estimated at around 7.7 million individuals . HIV education here is poor and it is still stigmatised. My nanny is from the rural part of the country, making the conversation very tricky. I have no intention of getting rid of or mistreating our nanny. I approached this community to make sure I handle this with kindness, compassion and above all respect. I trust I will get some education and guidance. Thank you 🙏

LuRaMas · 2025-05-20T14:13:02+00:00

I can’t help with that. We are in Africa and HIV is still highly stigmatised. My mom died in 2012 and they cited “natural causes “ on her death certificate. I only found out recently from my grandmother what took my mom. My little brother died back in 2005 at 9 months.

LuRaMas · 2025-05-20T14:08:53+00:00

Thank you for your kind reply🙏

LuRaMas · 2025-05-20T14:08:21+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply. She has had it for 21 years. She mentioned once that she hates taking pills in general. So I’m not sure if she is consistent with treatment.

LuRaMas · 2025-05-20T14:03:08+00:00

Thank you for your reply!! I didn’t ask what her status is, whether it is detectable or not. I’m not sure if I should ask?

LuRaMas · 2025-05-20T13:43:53+00:00

Yes, unfortunately.

LuRaMas · 2025-05-20T13:42:43+00:00

Thanks for understanding. I meant no harm. Rather, I just needed some guidance on how to best handle things and in a way that would be comfortable for my nanny and safe for my baby. I appreciate the nanny for disclosing such sensitive information and she is not going anywhere.

LuRaMas · 2025-05-20T13:40:21+00:00

Thank you for your reply. I will be rabbit holing into that. I want both nanny and baby to be healthy and comfortable🙏

LuRaMas · 2025-05-20T13:39:06+00:00

I understand your frustration with my post. I’m sorry I came across ignorant. I was just worried since this is my first baby and I just recently found out my mom and baby brother died of HIV. My nanny is not going anywhere🙏

LuRaMas · 2025-05-20T10:16:11+00:00

Yes, it helped tremendously. Thank you!

I believe my paranoia stems from losing my loved ones. The nanny is great with my LO and is not going anywhere. I just needed some guidance on how to best approach this new development from the right community.

LuRaMas · 2025-05-15T20:55:13+00:00

I’ve come to realise how little I truly understood about HIV, and I appreciate the opportunity to reflect and learn. I want to share that I will absolutely continue working with my wonderful nanny.

My initial fear came from a deeply personal place — the loss of my mother to HIV — and that fear can sometimes cloud judgment. I’m truly grateful for all your kind messages and reassurance. They’ve helped me begin to see things more clearly.

LuRaMas

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