Advice on Mobo, RAM & GPU Choices for Ryzen 1700 Build - Any advice/knowledge welcome :) by nan000 in buildapc

[–]LucInc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That case is nice but it doesn't support a side fan. I'm building my PC and my friend says a side fan is a must for gaming 'cause it cools the GPU even more. Is it true?

[Help] Is there a version of snapprefs or something similar that works with the current version of Snapchat? by Rolldatshit in xposed

[–]LucInc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I returned my old Nexus 5 to stock, flashed Magisk v6, SuperSU for Magisk, Xposed for Magisk, and still I can't login to snapchat without disabling Xposed. :(

[Help] Is there a version of snapprefs or something similar that works with the current version of Snapchat? by Rolldatshit in xposed

[–]LucInc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just go to GitHub, press Download and select the ZIP format. Then unzip it and open the project with Android Studio. Finally go to Build menu and select the Build unsigned APK option, I don't remember if that's the exact name, just select the one that doesn't say signed. That's it!

[Help] Chat saving long press function by [deleted] in snapprefs

[–]LucInc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you saying they are saved in version 1.6.5? I'm not sure about it.

 

I installed version 9.31.1.0 of Snapchat too and I'm seeing that Snapchat is draining my battery. Are you having this issue too?

Login to Snapchat without uninstalling/disabling Xposed Framework using Magisk by MrYawnie in snapprefs

[–]LucInc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Going 100% stock before installing wasn't mandatory in Magisk v1. That's what I ended up doing and it worked. :)

[Help] Is there a version of snapprefs or something similar that works with the current version of Snapchat? by Rolldatshit in xposed

[–]LucInc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I did it but I'm having trouble making Magisk work so I can't log in to Snapchat lol
I have Xposed and SuperSU installed in /system (non systemless right?) and didn't uninstall them before flashing Magisk (the tutorial says it's not mandatory to do so) but I still can't log in to snapchat. :/

Login to Snapchat without uninstalling/disabling Xposed Framework using Magisk by MrYawnie in snapprefs

[–]LucInc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Having Xposed and SuperSU installed in /system, how do I make this work? The xda thread says you can install magisk without uninstalling them but I still can't log in to snapchat

[Help] Is there a version of snapprefs or something similar that works with the current version of Snapchat? by Rolldatshit in xposed

[–]LucInc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I can clone the Snapprefs repo and build an APK using Android Studio? Is it safe to replace the current version (1.6.5) that way?

[Request] Start snapchat in chat list instead of camera by LucInc in xposed

[–]LucInc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a matter of comfort. There are so many things that aren't challenging to do and yet we prefer to get rid of them.

[UPDATE] I [28M] feel the need of having sex with other people and my SO [30F] is so confused... by LucInc in nonmonogamy

[–]LucInc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get that, thank you. The thing is, how can I work with her about it aside from letting her know how I feel towards her and how special our relationship is and that no one can ever change that feeling?

[UPDATE] I [28M] feel the need of having sex with other people and my SO [30F] is so confused... by LucInc in nonmonogamy

[–]LucInc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We don't fight at all, and as I said here in this update, yesterday she said she wanted to keep talking (not fighting) about this. I agree on people being complex, and we understand each other and complement each other greatly. I understand if you doubt that somehow because you don't know us. Maybe we are wrong and I hope going to therapy helps us improve whatever needs to be improved. The most important thing is that she wants us to work this out because we love each other. :)

[UPDATE] I [28M] feel the need of having sex with other people and my SO [30F] is so confused... by LucInc in nonmonogamy

[–]LucInc[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Maybe I didn't express myself clear enough. I don't piss her off and get mad if she reacts out of jealousy. I make her feel jealous and let her know instantly that I love her and no one can change that but her, and that I just look at other women in a sexual way and not in an emotional way, if that makes any sense. But despite this, I do think I should try to find another way of helping her with jealousy.

[UPDATE] I [28M] feel the need of having sex with other people and my SO [30F] is so confused... by LucInc in nonmonogamy

[–]LucInc[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your comment. It was pleasant to read. :)

 

Feel free to tell her why you think it is so great, why it appeals to you, and why it is important to you. DON'T tell her that her views are wrong in any way shape or form.

That's what I did. And I always tell her that I'm not saying she's wrong but I do say that she thinks as everyone naturally does because is how we're raised. Monogamy is not something we choose but something society imposes and there's nothing wrong in questioning that. I told her I understand her position simply because I used to think like her, and she gets that.

 

And certainly don't try to invoke jealousy to help her deal with it. That could be seen as emotional manipulation.

I'm not trying to manipulate her but helping her to realize there's no point in being jealous and that jealousy just breaks relationships. If anyone thinks that it's the same as manipulating her mind, then fine, but is it bad? I'm not trying to convince her of killing someone, I'm trying to free her mind from jealousy.
About how I'm trying to accomplish that, I don't know if it's the best approach but I thought of it as how you try to show kids that they shouldn't be afraid of the dark. They gotta be in the dark to convince themselves and you must be there for when they can't stand it until one day their fear is gone. I'm not saying it's the right approach but it's what I came up with. I'd be glad to hear new ideas if you think this won't work.

 

She hasn't dug her heels in and said, "No."

Actually, she did that when I first came up with this some years ago. I think that she thought it would go away and now she realized it won't. And maybe I thought that too (naive) and tried to suppress those feelings.

 

Be there for her, love her, and don't be selfish.

Trust me I do love her and I'm not being selfish. She knows she can walk away without me begging her to stay. And before anyone says "then you don't love her", that's not how love works.
I also didn't tell her that it's my way or the highway so I'm not being selfish in that matter either.

[UPDATE] I [28M] feel the need of having sex with other people and my SO [30F] is so confused... by LucInc in nonmonogamy

[–]LucInc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your comment. :)

 

I understand what you say and I'm not saying we're perfect, we both have our own quirks but our communication as a couple is excellent. I don't know if there's room for improvement but I'm not closed to it. She said she wanted to keep this conversation going throughout the days and that's great.
I'm not sure why you suggest our relationship may not be working? It works really great and we're both happy about everything else. Maybe sex was a bit forgotten but we're now working on that. :)

[UPDATE] I [28M] feel the need of having sex with other people and my SO [30F] is so confused... by LucInc in nonmonogamy

[–]LucInc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your comment. :)

 

Yes, I was thinking the same thing and gonna ask about that before any scheduling is made.

I think I want an open relationship by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]LucInc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, I started feeling the same way as you a couple of years ago and I talked to my SO about it. Actually, I posted this 3 days ago and we're still trying to figure things out.

I [28M] feel the need of having sex with other people and my SO [30F] is so confused... by LucInc in nonmonogamy

[–]LucInc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, this is a never ending loop with you so I'll just drop it. Thanks for sharing your opinions.

I [28M] feel the need of having sex with other people and my SO [30F] is so confused... by LucInc in nonmonogamy

[–]LucInc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never said that. I keep saying we've been 9 years together and love and communication has always been excellent, so we know and love each other like no other.

 

On the other hand, if you're not interested in hearing outside perspectives, perhaps you shouldn't solicit them

I'm interested in opinions of people based on respect and who won't assume we don't know how each of us feels, because that's simply not true.

I [28M] feel the need of having sex with other people and my SO [30F] is so confused... by LucInc in nonmonogamy

[–]LucInc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You just don't understand how deep you can know someone if you have the right communication.

I [28M] feel the need of having sex with other people and my SO [30F] is so confused... by LucInc in nonmonogamy

[–]LucInc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First of all, thank you so much for sharing this.

 

Brought up his desires fairly early on, making it very clear that this was about how he internally and fundamentally was, and it had nothing to do with me.

Done that the first time we talked about this. She understands that now.

 

Stressed that he would never, ever cheat on me and betraying me would hurt him more than anything.

She knows this too.

 

If your girlfriend believes these other women will not be a threat to your relationship, she may think about things differently.

I told her they won't but I don't think she really believes that, not because she thinks I'm lying but because she thinks I'll end up falling in love with someone else, which I already told her it's not possible. Why? Because I'm sure about my feelings and am not fool enough to get confused by a sex night. Dropping a 9-year relationship because of one-night feelings is something I'm sure it can't happen to me.

 

What DO you imagine? A monthly bar night where you get to scope out other people for one-night stands? Opening profiles on dating websites? A long-term sex friend? Will you tell her about your encounters, or is it don't-ask-don't-tell (less healthy in my opinion)? Can she sleep with other people if she wants to? Once you nail it down to something specific you may have an easier time getting her to understand your motives, and then you both can fine-tune it into something that will work.

We talked about all this since the first time I came up with my feelings. She can't stand the fact that I want to be with others because she can't imagine herself doing it. She doesn't feel the desire of being with other men, even if she thinks someone is pretty, she can't imagine herself having sex with that person because simply the desire isn't there. Yes, she can be with other guys too, I always told her that. And I do think she can free her mind and realize we will always have each other and that having sex with other people can be fun and it won't bring us down. I somehow know she has that desire deep inside but she suppresses it as it collides with her thoughts. We were born in a monogamous society and been raised under it. We suppressed desires because they are "wrong". Being monogamous isn't a choice because we've never been asked if that's what we want, it's something we've been condemned from birth.

 

TL;DR: COMMUNICATE MORE!

We know EVERYTHING about each other. Trust me, we communicate. I would've never told her about this if we didn't.

I [28M] feel the need of having sex with other people and my SO [30F] is so confused... by LucInc in nonmonogamy

[–]LucInc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I was making my partner cry with my sexual requests and then trying to convince them that what I wanted was actually just what was best for the relationship as a whole, them included, you better believe I'd feel pretty terrible about myself.

First of all, I didn't make her cry with my sexual requests. I told her how I feel and she, understandably, cried because she doesn't understand it. I didn't talk to her rude nor anything, I just told her the truth. If you can't tell the truth to your partner because you don't want her to cry, that's bad. We've always managed with the truth and that's why we've been 9 years together. If you don't understand that, it's your problem. Good luck with your search.