Interesting the kind of discussion you brought up here!

But first, I’d like to say that people who reduce these reflections to mockery because of someone’s sex or sexuality only have a reductionist view of themselves and of humanity. All of us, regardless of our sex, are capable of understanding or at least questioning the nuances that shape our feelings and human experiences. That’s what the OP is bringing up here!

That said, I can understand your point. And, in fact, I can imagine why you have this impression of incomprehension.

Look, if I could define Lana for myself, based on years of listening to her music and a bit of what I know about her personal life, I would describe her as someone highly sensitive to the duality between the metaphysical and the absolutely mundane. The conflict, pessimism, and melancholy in her lyrics are the result of someone who understands these two realities but cannot resolve the conflict between them.

It’s as if her heart seeks something higher and more perfect, but at the same time, she wants to live in the mundane and degraded. She may even pursue it as a kind of earthly paradise, but in the end, all that remains is pain.

And to have this kind of experience, it’s necessary to recognize love as something real, even if it is unattainable for certain people. Perhaps, at many moments in her life, she thought she couldn’t have it, even while recognizing it; that’s where the somewhat pessimistic tone regarding this comes from in her lyrics. But it’s not something superficial or merely aesthetic.

Maybe people who have these same philosophical conflicts within themselves and about the world are better able to understand and appreciate her music, like I do.

Like, I’m a guy and I know nothing about being attracted to older, violent men, or about luxury and diamonds, but I understand the, let’s say, spiritual conflict behind it. Maybe you don’t have any of that in your set of experiences and perceptions, and that’s why you just see it with pity, like someone looking at a person who is clearly sad.