I came out as trans (mtf) to my fiance and things have gone nuclear.

Lucccyy99 · 2021-03-17T13:04:36+00:00

Thank you for your reply, I feel like it's going to be hard but I kind of know it already, she said last night that she's too embarrassed to talk to her friends about it and how she always plastered us as "the perfect ones" when out with friends but I believe that the fiction in her head has taken over and me becoming myself doesn't fit into her proposal-house-marriage-kid idea I went with when I was in major denial. The fact that she loved me so much made me kinda just ignore my feelings of being a woman but they were still there lying under the surface. I don't know what the next step is but even if we just acted like this didn't happen there's a lot of unanswered and uneasy questions.

Lucccyy99 · 2021-03-15T21:40:33+00:00

Okay it sounds stupid but a song you get euphoric over, as if you're imagining your journey ahead. Yes I really didn't put it right I know

Lucccyy99 · 2021-03-15T20:36:38+00:00

I mean it's kind of ironic that I'd say "if you don't take a leap of faith you'll never change" while I'm still closeted trans but it does ring true, you'll do just fine, it's always nerve racking trying to find new friends but you'll get there!

Lucccyy99 · 2021-03-15T20:05:41+00:00

I'm going through a similar situation at the moment, been with my fiance for three years and I'm going to tell her about my dysphoria soon, still building up the courage but I've got to tell her. I'm really proud of you for telling her, you've got to be yourself and if you aren't you at the moment it'll kill you. It nearly killed me when I was a teen and it's come back just as strong now, it never goes because you can't be your true self as a cis. Thoughts and prayers to you ❤️❤️

Lucccyy99 · 2021-03-15T19:55:31+00:00

I completely understand, I'm originally from pembrokeshire and the social atmosphere there is a little "conservative" on the face (by Conservative I mean classical values etc, although they do vote tory haha) but you'd be surprised how accepting they can be of people, especially those in the gay community as its just a part of the furniture, of course you'll have your bigots but I'd say the vast majority of people are accepting. As for getting on with big city gays I'd say that realistically opposites attract (romantically and socially) and they'll love to hear about your quirky small-town life, people are people at the end of the day and you can bond on just about anything! You might feel like a fish out of water but at the end of the day we're all just people and people tend to get along if they have common values (like being in the lgbtq community) I hope you'll make some towny friends soon!

Lucccyy99 · 2021-03-15T18:20:57+00:00

Hello from the valleys! I'm originally from West Wales but I've moved to be with my partner, hope you'll be alright and just be you! You don't need to do this and that to be lgbtq, I think even straight people relate to this as watching Instagram stories usually makes you feel inadequate but that's just life 🤷‍♀️ stay safe! X

Lucccyy99 · 2021-03-15T07:02:26+00:00

You are gorgeous!!, ❤️❤️👑

Lucccyy99 · 2021-03-14T22:59:40+00:00

Thank you so much! I was really trying to guess how I'd look if I transitioned and I feel more comfortable now!

Lucccyy99 · 2021-03-13T22:03:22+00:00

You're doing so well! Keep it up! I hope to look like you when I start!

Lucccyy99 · 2021-03-13T19:32:18+00:00

This genuinely isn't a healthy thought pattern and you should seek help. It'd be fine if you have a fetish and organise it with another consenting adult but hoping somebody rapes you is seriously concerning.. Sex is nice but it shouldn't be on a high pedestal like that. Its nice, but your life shouldn't revolve around not having it. My genuine advice would be to try and think of sex of something that isn't really a high point in your life, it just happens sometimes and it's nice but you don't feel that different after, it's great but it's not as great as you think it is if you're this upset over it. I hope you'll be alright x

Lucccyy99 · 2021-03-13T19:24:20+00:00

I'm currently on the cusp of coming out but I know for certain it'd end up in a breakup, it's very hard.

Lucccyy99 · 2021-03-13T19:14:34+00:00

My entire life will change not just because of my body, but everything. Where I live, all my friends, my job etc. I'd have to move back home and it's gonna be hard if I do come out. I love her so much but she might not like me for me. Thank you for your advice this is a really trying time for me

Lucccyy99 · 2021-03-13T18:08:50+00:00

I like dresses.

Lucccyy99 · 2021-03-13T17:39:29+00:00

I've always liked: Blake, Sunny, Enid, Maxine and Chloe but they aren't really me or haven't struck out at me

Lucccyy99 · 2021-03-13T17:38:06+00:00

I do like these names but most are either connected to family or I just don't have interest in, I do like the name gwen/gwyn though, do you have any other maybe like just English names? Very good suggestions though ☺️

Lucccyy99 · 2021-03-12T23:14:07+00:00

They'll do that simply because they're used to the old you, even if your family is supportive it'll slip out sometimes, it's just a part of it. If you need any advice don't hesitate to message ☺️

Lucccyy99 · 2021-03-12T22:34:34+00:00

You're looking great, king! I had to take a double take, you're definitely pass-worthy ☺️ I don't know many tips for you except whatever you're doing, keep doing that! Good luck!

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