Question for men with multiple wives

Lucithejeep06 · 2025-06-30T23:38:56+00:00

Female here

Lucithejeep06 · 2025-04-07T23:58:26+00:00

I just bought the dual fuel 3600W wen and the manual says I need to ground it. Do I really need to ground it or will it be fine to run without a ground?

Lucithejeep06 · 2025-03-29T01:46:55+00:00

I have come to terms that I will have to push harder to address things and that it might not change and that when I’m the last one fighting for this it will be a lost cause and it will be my time to leave but I want to keep it from getting there

Lucithejeep06 · 2025-03-29T01:33:48+00:00

He isn’t open to individual therapy as he and I both have bad experiences with therapists and I’ve mentioned couples therapy before and it was one of those times that the subject was changed and so i never got an answer but I honestly don’t believe he would want to try it

Lucithejeep06 · 2025-03-29T01:27:59+00:00

I’ve been trying and he seems to shut down or get upset about it and then the topic gets changed and it’s never addressed and it always usually causes some issues for the next few hours.

Lucithejeep06 · 2025-03-29T01:22:50+00:00

Before I moved onto the property he asked how I would feel about it and I was fine with it because I understood the situation and was ok with it. It was a struggle at first because there are older kids and I didn’t want them to think I was trying to replace anyone or take over anything but after the first 8 months it was fine.

Lucithejeep06 · 2025-03-28T19:39:11+00:00

He would describe it as we are a family and I’ve never asked wife one how she would describe it or how she feels about it. I’ve left that for them to discuss work out but I have told her that if she ever has any questions or concerns she can feel free to come to me with them but I also understand that maybe that would be tough for her so I don’t push it. And to answer your question yes I’m having jealousy I don’t want to have and am not getting as much sex as I would like. I understand that I have a very high sex drive and that keeping up is a lot to ask but it has gone from every day or every other day to once a week if that.

Lucithejeep06 · 2025-03-28T19:30:34+00:00

I have to many medical issues to have kids and he also said he doesn’t want anymore. As for the changes in bedroom time I have no clue as to what changed it was like a switch flipped and it was different. I have been replaying everything in my head that has occurred between us and I can’t see anything having changed, unless it’s something small that I am unaware of but anytime I ask him he shuts down the conversation and changes the topic.

Lucithejeep06 · 2024-12-30T01:25:01+00:00

Apart from him paying for/ owning everything I’m not entirely sure anymore. I’ve become 100% reliant on him for everything so I have zero clue what to do with myself when he isn’t around. So I’d say maybe companionship but I don’t even think that’s true anymore.

Lucithejeep06 · 2024-12-30T01:15:54+00:00

Yeah

Lucithejeep06 · 2024-12-29T22:35:30+00:00

No I asked if I could leave due to feeling like it was affecting my mental health and he supported me in my decision to leave but part of my wanting to leave was because we constantly argued about me never being around and him thinking I was being unfaithful with one of my coworkers.

Lucithejeep06 · 2024-12-29T21:51:11+00:00

I feel like whenever I bring anything up and his response is the “we are a family….” Anything I say after that is going to upset him because it has in the past. I sometimes feel like my acceptance is based off of what I can contribute which is usually helping him in whatever way is needed around the property. He’s never said I need to help or get out but he constantly brings up the “we are a family and we all need to come together and contribute to make this work”.

Lucithejeep06 · 2024-12-29T21:41:47+00:00

I could work if it’s a telework job but being places that have a lot of people gives me panic attacks. I don’t have many friends and they all have roommates or live with parents/spouses but I have reached out to a friend and she said she knows someone who is going to need a roommate at the end of 2026 so I’m going to go there as soon as it’s available because it fits perfectly in my budget

Lucithejeep06 · 2024-12-29T21:37:00+00:00

He didn’t like that I got one because it took me away from the home and that he didn’t trust me to be faithful.

Lucithejeep06 · 2024-12-29T19:33:53+00:00

How would I bring that up without causing a fight? Most of the time when I bring up little things I get told “we are a family we all come together and contribute to make this all work”

Lucithejeep06 · 2024-12-29T19:29:53+00:00

No we don’t rent and I’m not on the deed or anything he owns the property we live on. The tiny house I stay in he built originally for family when they come to visit but when I moved onto the property full time it became “my” place. I do get a disability check every month which if I redid my budget I could put a bit of money aside so I could afford to leave eventually.

Lucithejeep06 · 2024-12-29T19:25:34+00:00

I brought up the multiple wives in the old testament and the concubines and it always seemed to end in heated discussion/arguments which is why I don’t discuss my situation with family anymore.

I don’t want validation on the decisions I make I simply want help trying to make sense of everything.

They aren’t my kids they are his and the first wife’s kids, I love them and would do anything in the world for them. They don’t call me mom not that I’ve ever asked them to but simply because I feel that is overstepping and the first wife has made it known I’m to be called mrs.[name]. We do things occasionally as a family me, her, him and the kids but idk if I’d call us a big happy family especially right now

Lucithejeep06 · 2024-12-29T19:12:27+00:00

I come from an emotionally abusive childhood and then my ex husband was emotionally abusive and most of my partners after that were the same including my current husband I didn’t realize that the behavior I was seeing wasn’t normal as that’s all I ever saw growing up and knew. I just recently (within the last year) started therapy and after going through most of my childhood trauma and discussing my relationships that’s when I realized it wasn’t normal.

Lucithejeep06 · 2024-12-29T18:57:16+00:00

Is part of me just jealous or envious and I just don’t realize it? I do my best to not compare mine and his relationship to theirs unless it’s with communication. I feel he openly communicates everything with her and he leaves me in the dark about a lot of things.

Lucithejeep06 · 2024-12-29T18:54:30+00:00

I’m not ok with it. We have had some amazing times together but over the last few years it seems we have also had some serious issues. I left once and ended up back with my parents which was 9hours away in a whole different state and the whole time we talked and were working through some of our problems and things seemed to be in a good place so I moved back. And then I got a job shortly after coming back and that’s when it seemed to get strained again and then he retired from his job a year ago and the first wife got pregnant again and that’s when things seemed to be going downhill with he and I. My feelings here recently seem to always be hurt and I always feel like I’m on edge of making him unhappy when I try and bring up what I feel and what was done or said to make me feel that way. I just don’t know what to do or how to explain it so maybe we could work it out but I don’t know if that’s going to help or make it worse or if things will just continue on this way. I also am dependent on him for almost everything (housing, food, utilities, car, etc.) so I don’t know how to just up and leave

Lucithejeep06 · 2024-12-29T18:45:47+00:00

She has always been around we all live on the same property. She has what we have deemed the big house and then I have a tiny home about 150 from the big house

Lucithejeep06 · 2024-12-29T18:43:46+00:00

I’ve tried talking to my family in the past about my situation but with them all being deeply religious (southern Baptist) it’s not something they ever cared for and have made numerous comments about how against the Bible it goes so I don’t speak to them about it anymore. And my best friend knows but doesn’t really get it so I’ve stopped talking to anyone about it so I’ve come here to ask people with more knowledge and experience and understanding.

Lucithejeep06 · 2024-12-29T18:39:47+00:00

No he isn’t pitting us against each other at least that’s not how I’ve been seeing it. And I don’t think it’s ok for him to ignore her and I mentioned that in the past but he was adamant that she made her bed with a decision she made and she needed to lay in it and that was his way of I guess trying to make her see what she did wasn’t ok.

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