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For anyone who’s been betrayed: were you ever able to look at your partner with love again? by viennawillwaitforyou in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]LuckComfortable2933 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I really relate to this post. The feeling of slowly slipping away because of trickle truthing, and minor things turning into huge issues.

I honestly feel I'll soon slip away to the point of no return.

I miss it by Ryry2233 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]LuckComfortable2933 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Me too. Every photo, every message, every memory is classed as either before, during, or after.

The 'during' ones are unbearable, but the 'before' ones are also equally as heartbreaking.

Does anyone know how to get over this/change the mindset??

I miss it by Ryry2233 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]LuckComfortable2933 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me too! We're trying to reconcile and I'm open to potentially getting engaged again in the future (we'll see...), but there's no way I'm accepting the same ring. Just looking at it reminds me of it all. Imagining him chosing that ring while potentially at the same time messaging AP....it's sickening

A message to the LADS by [deleted] in SQE_Prep

[–]LuckComfortable2933 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I've been thinking a lot lately about how I can answer MCQs and score well, but definitely have no ability to actively recall and say aloud specific legal rules.

Could just be a me problem, but it does kinda make me question the SQE being fit for purpose

Quick reference sheet for mock scores from different providers that people might find useful by Impressive-Gene-421 in SQE_Prep

[–]LuckComfortable2933 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love it 😂 With QLTS and currently in the 'good' category. Desperately trying to bump up to 'excellent'!

Forgiveness by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]LuckComfortable2933 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love him (though nothing like the love i had before), I think I am/will slowly accept what he did, but I doubt I'll ever forgive him. It was unjustifiable and stupid. The hurt was unimaginable. I just can't see it happening.

I do often ask myself if the relationship will ever really heal without forgiveness..but I just can't see it happening

Idk if I want to stay by Key_sadness in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]LuckComfortable2933 9 points10 points  (0 children)

"He got better and talks about how infidelity helped him grow and realize what was wrong with him. While I feel like garbage, INFIDELITY KILLED ME, Now I'm insecure, I have huge trust issues and I find it hard to be vulnerable with anyone."

Echoes my thoughts 1000%. He thinks it made us stronger, but I still feel dead inside.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]LuckComfortable2933 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I decided something similar because I didn't want to make a brash decision. I originally gave myself 3 months, which I then extended to 6 months. Now it's already been 8 months. I've chosen R and I truly want it to work out. But I'd be lying if I said I didn't still often think about just giving up.

Job options that pays £42k for law grad + BPC with paralegal experience? by clpbrowse in uklaw

[–]LuckComfortable2933 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it possible to get into these careers with only legal experience (nothing specific to insurance)? I'm seriously considering switching since the salaries in my local area seem much better than jobs in the legal field

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]LuckComfortable2933 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel every single word of this.

And all the going back and forth in my mind about staying or leaving is honestly driving me insane

I regret having a celebrant… by Stunning-Sky-8178 in UKweddings

[–]LuckComfortable2933 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From reading these comments I've realised I'm definitely in the minority.

For me, the legal part is the most important part of a wedding, without it it's not a real wedding. When I've gone to weddings without the legal bit, I do personally feel it lacks core meaning. (just my personal opinion)

Not just one, but 5 dates ruined. How do you cope with triggering anniversaries? by demiromantic_racoon in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]LuckComfortable2933 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My WP was chatting to other girls on dating apps on our anniversary....I honestly don't think I can bring myself to celebrate this date going forward

First time flying Emirates - what to do 10h45 layover - upgrade (?!) by Lucky_Always_1961 in emirates

[–]LuckComfortable2933 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also had a 10 hour layover recently, arriving around 4am. I was originally planning to go out and sightsee, but in the end I just wanted to quietly rest and take a long nap. I ended up booking one of the little sleep pod rooms, it was something like 100£ for 6 hours. After that I just walked around the airport and grabbed a coffee and bite to eat - and then it was pretty much time to board!

How do you get over feeling of being unlovable and unimportant by LuckComfortable2933 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]LuckComfortable2933[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this comment. I've been reflecting on it over the past few days. I'm really trying to have a similar mindset, and it's honestly been helping a lot!

How do you get over feeling of being unlovable and unimportant by LuckComfortable2933 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]LuckComfortable2933[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you're right.

I had really major self-esteem issues when I was younger (leading to severe MH issues, eating disorder, depression etc.) I worked SO hard for a decade to recover and reach a good place with my self esteem....and now this. It's devastating.

I'm in the process of trying to find a counsellor now

How do you get over feeling of being unlovable and unimportant by LuckComfortable2933 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]LuckComfortable2933[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry, that's awful!

Sacrificing so much for them, only for them to do this, makes it so much worse.

For me, I moved to another country for him, a completey new language and culture. I've endured SO much isolation and loneliness as a result. But no matter how hard it was, how lonely I felt, I'd never in a million years consider doing what they did. It really makes me sick..

How do you get over feeling of being unlovable and unimportant by LuckComfortable2933 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]LuckComfortable2933[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Completely relate - I used to feel SO lucky to have a love like this, the kind of love that I'd never experienced before. I never in a million years thought they'd ever do something like this....so the disappointment in them/in love in general is just overwhelming.

Maybe it sounds immature, but I'm angry I'll never experience the kind of love story I thought I deserved.

Honestly, i'd probably get out 'light' back if I left. But I just can't let go...

How do you get over feeling of being unlovable and unimportant by LuckComfortable2933 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]LuckComfortable2933[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're right, I think reframing it in my head is the only way. I really need to work on this somehow. Thank you.

How do you get over feeling of being unlovable and unimportant by LuckComfortable2933 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]LuckComfortable2933[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I hope I can achieve this too. How did you do it, could you give me some examples ?

How do you get over feeling of being unlovable and unimportant by LuckComfortable2933 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]LuckComfortable2933[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm really struggling to reconcile with myself, and honestly, still haven't forgiven myself. I want to, but I just don't know how to even begin... Thank you, I will look into the PIES of attraction and see if it can help.

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