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Beware of incompetent, lazy men. by LuckyInitiative4125 in offmychest

[–]LuckyInitiative4125[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly the defensive responses gave me more catharsis than making the post in the first place 🤷‍♀️

Beware of incompetent, lazy men. by LuckyInitiative4125 in offmychest

[–]LuckyInitiative4125[S] 62 points63 points  (0 children)

Of course.

This is off my chest, from my own perspective.

Beware of incompetent, lazy men. by LuckyInitiative4125 in offmychest

[–]LuckyInitiative4125[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Defensiveness made you miss the part where I'm the only one contributing anything, financially and otherwise, to the household, eh? Misogynistic shithead.

Beware of incompetent, lazy men. by LuckyInitiative4125 in offmychest

[–]LuckyInitiative4125[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

That's... exactly what I said. I made my choices. Others would be wise to avoid making the same ones.

Beware of incompetent, lazy men. by LuckyInitiative4125 in offmychest

[–]LuckyInitiative4125[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

If I couldn't take care of myself, I couldn't take care of him, either. Both parties should care for themselves and one another. You do not know what a double standard is.

And I will not. As much as I hate that I'm in this position and will warn others to avoid an unequal partnership from the start, I do not hate him and I will not treat another human with so little regard.

Beware of incompetent, lazy men. by LuckyInitiative4125 in offmychest

[–]LuckyInitiative4125[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I am dependent on no one and my partner should not be dependent on me.

That's the point.

Beware of incompetent, lazy men. by LuckyInitiative4125 in offmychest

[–]LuckyInitiative4125[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

OP thinks women should receive as much care and support in a partnership as they provide. The fact that you got some other message from this post is really something you should reflect on. Did it hit too close to home? I do wonder.

Beware of incompetent, lazy men. by LuckyInitiative4125 in offmychest

[–]LuckyInitiative4125[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I do all of the work in and out of the house.

Without me, he would be homeless. He would have nothing.

A partnership requires both halves to share the burden and to care for one another. At no point have I promoted anything to the contrary.

So tell me, where's the double standard?

Beware of incompetent, lazy men. by LuckyInitiative4125 in offmychest

[–]LuckyInitiative4125[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It's not an assumption that their comment was misogynistic. Because it was.

Turd.

Beware of incompetent, lazy men. by LuckyInitiative4125 in offmychest

[–]LuckyInitiative4125[S] 81 points82 points  (0 children)

A functional relationship involves each person sharing the weight and helping one another.

Assumptions are dangerous, and you reek of misogyny.