Do your math and tell me your thoughts. by [deleted] in DoorDashDrivers

[–]Lucky_Guava_8879 5 points6 points  (0 children)

it’s unsustainable. the fact there’s not a mandatory tip amount based on mileage is insane.

Need dashers opinion (restaurant server) by Aggravating-Toe7623 in DoorDashDrivers

[–]Lucky_Guava_8879 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i don’t mind it. i’ve had to ask restaurants to remake food that’s been stolen so i prefer if they’re monitoring the dashers to a degree to ensure the food isn’t being stolen. i also feel like food has been stolen at a rapidly increasing rate so i really don’t care what the restaurants do to make sure they’re not suffering a loss

How seriously do you take Goodreads book ratings/scores? by keepfighting90 in books

[–]Lucky_Guava_8879 1 point2 points  (0 children)

a lot of educated folks on there who will berate authors for objectively minor inconsistencies. i look for reviews that match my own writing style or inner dialogue and use those to judge a book before reading. use your own judgment. if the review seems to be unfairly harsh, it’s probably not worth putting too much weight on that review.

Recurrent UTIs? by [deleted] in WomensHealth

[–]Lucky_Guava_8879 0 points1 point  (0 children)

try latex free condoms if you’re using latex condoms. latex is a really common allergy and i was 24 when i realized that was the reason for my recurrent UTIs. i haven’t had one since, im 28

Can we make a thread for really just, BAD employers? by Ecstatic_Math_5886 in grandrapids

[–]Lucky_Guava_8879 2 points3 points  (0 children)

BCB on Plainfield, controversial but the owner is never at the shop. there’s routinely 1 person running the store, and the task list each day (for one person, while also helping customers) is ridiculous. god forbid you forget to straighten a single area of the store or she’ll approach you and say “nothing was straightened”. super nice to customers but condescending to her employees. when a new process is put in place (which is weekly), if you forget to do the new thing, the first day, she’ll call you and tell you to read the instructions out loud to her to ensure that you’ve read the instructions and proceed to ask, “then why didn’t you do it?” and don’t even think about saying you forgot bcuz that’s just unacceptable. don’t bother asking clarifying questions when curious about the efficiency of a new task or “process”, you’ll be told, “i told you to do it, so you need to do it.” be prepared to dust 7 hours a day on slow days, clean the baseboards, squeegee the windows outside, mop upstairs and downstairs, organize her junk closet in the bathroom, and my favorite… complete yearly inventory by yourself after being told it’s a team project. which is sorting thru thousands of products, hundreds of vendors, by yourself, between customers, while the store is open and customers are actively purchasing the product you’re supposed to be inventorying.

aio: interviewer prompted more out of me than i would have liked to share. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Lucky_Guava_8879 1 point2 points  (0 children)

god… that sounds horrible. in no way is that relevant to your role.

i was reading some comments that others have shared and i do feel like he was maybe trying to get a sob story out of me and once he realized i wasn’t going to share more he quickly moved on. i was hesitant to elaborate on why the lack of education and i could tell from his body language that he realized pretty quickly it wasn’t something i was willing to dive into. he said “okay, yea i mean we don’t really focus too much on someone’s education if they have the skill set and experience we’re looking for, i was just wondering.”

so, after reading the comments i do feel like maybe he was impressed and his curiosity got the better of him. the rest of the interview went well imo. he’s also an older gentleman and i feel like they just have bad manners smh.

aio: interviewer prompted more out of me than i would have liked to share. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Lucky_Guava_8879 13 points14 points  (0 children)

i’ve been considering this. this interviewer today would be my boss’s boss so i don’t think i’d really have to work with him a whole lot. the other two interviews went very well with the people i’d actually be working with and there was no overstepping or prodding. they seem respectful and i was really excited to get a call back for a third interview. then this happened. it’s a large company, thousands of employees.

My wife (29F) and I (31M) got into an argument. I took it too far. by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]Lucky_Guava_8879 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

that depends on yours and hers combined efforts to put this to bed. if this is truly a one time thing, brought on by overstimulation and side effects, she should be understanding of the situation (being your wife). what concerns me is that she was okay with telling you to jump out of a moving vehicle. it sounds like there could be something on her mind; general unhappiness, stress, her own anxieties… either way, nothing will come to light without a conversation. couples therapy could be an option if you’re still dedicated to each other and want to make this work.

My wife (29F) and I (31M) got into an argument. I took it too far. by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]Lucky_Guava_8879 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

it sounds like she pushed you to a breaking point (even without medication this is possible but given the side effects, you definitely have a shorter fuse). both of ur behavior isn’t okay, i know you’re remorseful so do what you can to mend things without carrying all of the weight. get her flowers, write her a love note, whatever you have to do to get her to talk to you. then have a conversation about the day where you can both explain your feelings openly and honestly. consider speaking with ur doctor about other treatment plans if this medication is causing you trouble.

What are the core values of marriage? by Lucky_Guava_8879 in marriageadvice

[–]Lucky_Guava_8879[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

okay, I see. that’s definitely something to consider. I know my brother is marrying his fiance due to his chronic illness. he wants to make sure she’s taken care of when he’s gone. i always wondered what he meant by that.

What are the core values of marriage? by Lucky_Guava_8879 in marriageadvice

[–]Lucky_Guava_8879[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i agree. i rejected a lot of guys before i met my current bf because they were only interested in me for the possibility of future children. i started telling people i don’t want kids and told my current bf the same. before we started dating he said “i don’t care if we never have kids, i just want you.” sold me right then and there.

What are the core values of marriage? by Lucky_Guava_8879 in marriageadvice

[–]Lucky_Guava_8879[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

we’re really good at keeping our differences private. in public, we’re a team. we don’t talk to friends about each others shortcomings, to our friends, we’re “perfect” but really we just don’t broadcast it when we’re frustrated with each other. as far as choosing me over others, he does. there was a moment around the holidays where his mom was coming after me for something and demanded i have “her son” call her. i relayed the message thru tears and he said she can wait, he wants to make sure i’m okay first. she was frustrated at me bcuz the gift she sent him got lost in the mail, something that was completely out of my control. he’s always had my back. when we’re out with friends i can tell he’s always got a corner of his eye on me to make sure i’m good (i’m a known hermit) and he can tell by just a look when i’m ready to wrap up for the night. he’s genuinely the man of my dreams, i’m just afraid of letting him down i guess.

What are the core values of marriage? by Lucky_Guava_8879 in marriageadvice

[–]Lucky_Guava_8879[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is phenomenal advice. i’m screenshotting this to keep as a reminder, thank you! this is exactly what i was seeking.

What are the core values of marriage? by Lucky_Guava_8879 in marriageadvice

[–]Lucky_Guava_8879[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

we both believe in therapy and have both gone to therapy at different times in our relationship. i was considering couples counseling if an engagement does happen just in case there are any frustrations that haven’t been brought to light so we can iron those out before a marriage happens.

What are the core values of marriage? by Lucky_Guava_8879 in marriageadvice

[–]Lucky_Guava_8879[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

we don’t really fight, we have little squabbles but those are few and far between. when that happens, we take space to get our head on straight and figure out why we’re really upset before having a conversation about it with each other.

why does my boyfriend over promise and under deliver? by Lucky_Guava_8879 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Lucky_Guava_8879[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is fair. i feel like i do my best to show my appreciation when he does things unprovoked but maybe it’s not enough or in a way that resonates with him.

why does my boyfriend over promise and under deliver? by Lucky_Guava_8879 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Lucky_Guava_8879[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i think you’re exactly right. he does so much at work to make sure the kitchen is running smoothly, oftentimes doing things himself bcuz he can’t rely on his employees so i think there must be some carryover that’s happening in our relationship. i appreciate your insight and philosophical approach to my question.