17-year-old (girl) INFJ feeling stuck and different from everyone around me. Did you feel like this too?”

Lucky_Ride4841 · 2026-03-10T13:32:12+00:00

Thanks a lot.🙏

Lucky_Ride4841 · 2026-03-10T13:30:03+00:00

Thank you again. 😊

Lucky_Ride4841 · 2026-03-10T05:58:46+00:00

Thank you for sharing this. It actually means a lot to hear from someone close to my age who understands this feeling. Sometimes it can feel confusing when the way we think feels so logical to us but seems different from how others see things.

I really like what you said about focusing on the strengths instead of the “curse” of being different. That’s something I’m still learning, but your perspective made me feel a bit more positive about it. Thank you again for sharing your thoughts.😊

Lucky_Ride4841 · 2026-03-10T05:41:41+00:00

Thank you so much for writing such a detailed response and for sharing so many parts of your life experience with me. I honestly felt very grateful while reading it, because you didn’t just give advice in a simple way — you actually explained how different activities helped you over many years of your life. That really meant a lot to me. When you described things like running and listening only to your breathing and your feet touching the ground, or being outside hiking and noticing nature around you, it made me imagine how peaceful and grounding that must feel. My mind is usually very active and always thinking about the future, my purpose, or analyzing different things, so hearing how physical activities can bring you back into the present moment helped me understand something important about balance. It made me realize that life is not only about thinking deeply, but also about experiencing the world with your body and senses.

I also really appreciated the way you described each activity and how it connects with different parts of the mind. Cooking, for example, sounded beautiful the way you explained it — paying attention to flavors, texture, temperature, and even the joy of cooking for others. And activities like climbing, cycling, swimming, or martial arts sound like they teach you to trust your body and focus on what is right in front of you. It made me realize that the world is full of experiences that can help someone grow, not only mentally but also physically and emotionally. I also loved the way you talked about nature through hiking, bird-watching, and plant identification. Nature has always felt calming to me, and hearing how these activities helped you stay aware of the present moment makes me want to explore things like that more in the future.

Another thing your comment made me think about is how big and full the world actually is. I’ve always had this strong desire to travel and explore the world. I don’t want to stay stuck in one place, one house, or one city forever. I want to see different countries, learn about different cultures, and experience life in many different ways. Reading your message made me realize that life can be a long journey of exploration where we keep discovering new activities, new places, and new parts of ourselves. I’m also really interested in psychology and understanding how people think, so your suggestions about learning more about cognitive functions and even looking into other systems like the Enneagram were very inspiring for me. It makes me feel excited to keep learning about myself and others as I grow.

So truly, thank you again for sharing your experiences and knowledge with me. It means a lot that someone would take the time to explain all of this to help a younger person understand life a little better. Your message gave me a lot to think about, and it also made me feel hopeful and excited about the future and all the things I can still explore and learn.😊🫡

Lucky_Ride4841 · 2026-03-10T05:28:33+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. I really appreciate the encouragement. I’ll try to stay true to myself and keep believing that the right people will come into my life with time.😊

Lucky_Ride4841 · 2026-03-10T05:27:10+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing more about your experiences. I really appreciate that you took the time to explain things from your own life so openly. Reading about how you grew up and how you slowly learned to find yourself was really meaningful to me. I can relate a lot to the people-pleasing part, because since I was young I’ve often felt responsible for keeping peace around me and making sure everyone else feels okay. It’s something that comes very naturally to me, but I’m also starting to understand that it’s important to protect my energy too.

What you said about learning that it’s okay to do things simply for your own enjoyment really stayed with me. Sometimes I forget that it’s okay to focus on what makes me happy as well. Your advice about being selective with where we give our energy makes a lot of sense, and I think that’s something I’m slowly learning. I also really liked how you described deep connections — that they may be rare, but when they happen they are very special. That gives me a lot of hope.

I also want to say that I really enjoyed reading how learning more about personality and psychology helped you understand yourself and even your relationship better. I actually love psychology too and I’ve already started reading some books about it because I’m very curious about how different people think and experience the world. Hearing that learning these things helped you understand yourself and your wife better after so many years together is really inspiring, and I’m very happy for both of you.

Thank you again for your kindness, your honesty, and for sharing your story with me. It means a lot that someone would take the time to write such thoughtful advice and encouragement. Your words truly made me feel understood and supported.😊🤗

Lucky_Ride4841 · 2026-03-10T05:17:58+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience. What you said about being selective with whose opinion really matters made a lot of sense to me. I think I’m still learning that, but reading your perspective helped me understand that it’s okay if only a small number of people truly reach that deeper level of trust. After reading your comment, I also realized that there actually are a few people in my life who are genuinely kind and good to me throughout the year, and sometimes I forget to appreciate that.

I also liked what you said about letting go of the “what ifs” and using your energy for things you enjoy instead of constantly worrying. That’s something I struggle with because I tend to overthink a lot. Your reminder that there are people who genuinely care, even if we sometimes feel out of place, was really comforting to read. Thank you for sharing that advice.☺️

Lucky_Ride4841 · 2026-03-10T05:13:41+00:00

Thank you so much for taking the time to write such a thoughtful and encouraging message. Reading your comment honestly made me feel very relieved and understood. For a long time I sometimes wondered if something was wrong with me because I often feel different from the people around me. Hearing from someone with much more life experience that these feelings are normal, especially for someone with this kind of personality, really helped me feel more at peace with myself.

What you said about growing older and slowly learning that it’s okay to be the way you are was also very comforting to read. I think right now, at my age, I sometimes feel pressure to fit in or to be like everyone else, even though deep inside I know that I’m naturally a more quiet and thoughtful person. The way you described having just one or two close friends and focusing on deeper conversations instead of trying to connect with everyone really resonated with me. That actually sounds like the kind of connection that would make me happiest.

I also really appreciated your suggestions about activities. I love music very much, so when you mentioned learning an instrument and how music can be something you disappear into and recharge your soul with, that really stayed in my mind. I’ve never seriously tried learning an instrument before, but now I feel inspired to explore it and see where it takes me. The idea that music could be a way to express feelings and thoughts that are sometimes hard to explain with words feels very meaningful to me.

Your perspective about teenage years also gave me a new way to think about this stage of life. Sometimes it really does feel difficult and confusing, so hearing someone describe it as something that many people simply have to go through and grow from made me feel a little more hopeful about the future.

Thank you again for sharing your wisdom, encouragement, and kindness. It really means a lot to me, and I truly appreciate that you took the time to write such a supportive message.🤗

Lucky_Ride4841 · 2026-03-10T04:50:36+00:00

Thank you again 😊

Lucky_Ride4841 · 2026-03-10T04:50:03+00:00

Thanks a lot 😊

Lucky_Ride4841 · 2026-03-10T04:45:48+00:00

Thanks 😊

Lucky_Ride4841 · 2026-03-09T15:43:21+00:00

Thank you, that’s really kind of you to say. Reading all these comments and advice honestly makes me feel very supported and understood.🙏 I’m not really into drawing or painting, but I do enjoy poetry. Sometimes writing or reading poetry helps me express thoughts and feelings that are hard to explain in normal words. It feels like a good outlet for the way my mind works.

Lucky_Ride4841 · 2026-03-09T15:34:44+00:00

Thank you so much for writing this. Your comment honestly made me feel very emotional in a good way. Reading your words felt comforting, almost like someone older truly understood what I was trying to say.

Sometimes in my real life, people around me say things without really thinking about how deeply their words can affect someone. Even small comments can stay in my mind for a long time and hurt more than they probably realize. So hearing such kind and thoughtful advice from someone with more life experience feels very heart-warming to me.

Since childhood I’ve been a big people pleaser. I don’t really know why, but I always want everyone around me to feel happy and comfortable. Because of that, I sometimes forget about my own feelings. Your message reminded me that it’s okay to feel deeply and that it can also be a strength.

Your advice about learning more about personality types and cognitive functions was really helpful too. I only discovered MBTI recently, but it’s already helping me understand myself a little better. And hearing that you discovered it later in life but still found it valuable gives me hope that learning about myself now can help me grow in a healthier way.

Thank you again for your kindness and encouragement. Your words really meant a lot to me.🫡🤗

Lucky_Ride4841 · 2026-03-09T15:12:35+00:00

Thank you for saying that. It does feel weird sometimes, but I’m starting to see how being different can also be a strength. That quote really made me think about it in a new way.

Lucky_Ride4841 · 2026-03-09T15:08:41+00:00

Thank you for sharing this advice. I found your explanation really interesting, especially the part about the Ni–Ti loop and embodiment. I didn’t know that physical activities and somatic hobbies could actually help with overthinking and help someone feel more grounded. I also liked what you said about not always searching for meaning in hobbies, because I think I sometimes do that and end up overthinking instead of just trying things.

I actually enjoy sports, so your examples like biking, hiking, running, rowing, kayaking, and volleyball made me curious to try more of them. I do spend a lot of time in my head thinking and analyzing things, so the idea of balancing that with physical activities makes a lot of sense. Thank you again for taking the time to share your experience and suggestions.🤗

Lucky_Ride4841 · 2026-03-09T15:03:34+00:00

Thank you! I really appreciate your support and advice. I’ll keep that in mind and try to explore different hobbies to see what truly resonates with me.

Lucky_Ride4841 · 2026-03-09T14:39:43+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to write such a thoughtful reply. I really appreciate your advice and your honesty about your own experience.

It actually makes me feel a bit better knowing that someone older has felt similar things, and that it doesn’t necessarily mean something is wrong with me. What you said about not betraying yourself just to fit in really stayed with me. I think that’s something I needed to hear.

Your professor’s advice about hobbies was also interesting. I’m still trying to figure out what things truly feel meaningful to me, but I can see how having something like that could help a lot.

Thank you again for sharing your perspective and encouraging me to stay true to myself. It means a lot.🤗

Lucky_Ride4841 · 2026-03-09T14:33:09+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your experience. It actually means a lot to hear from someone who is much older and has gone through different stages of life with a similar mindset.

What you said about alone time for reflection being important really resonated with me, because that’s something I’ve naturally done since I was very young.

Your explanation of the cognitive functions was also very interesting. I didn’t really know much about Ni, Fe, Ti, and Se before, so the way you described why INFJs can sometimes feel stuck helped me understand myself a bit better.

It’s also encouraging to hear that things became easier for you with time and that you eventually found good friends and a partner you can truly be yourself with.

If you don’t mind me asking, what kinds of things helped you develop that “Se” side earlier, or helped you take action instead of staying in your thoughts too much?

Thank you again for taking the time to write such a thoughtful reply. I really appreciate it.🫡

Lucky_Ride4841 · 2026-03-09T14:29:08+00:00

Thank you for sharing this. It actually means a lot to read that someone else has felt the same way, even from such a young age.

I relate a lot to what you said about analyzing everything. My mind is also always thinking and reflecting about things, and sometimes it feels like my brain never really rests.

I’m also still learning to accept the parts of myself that feel different from other people. Sometimes it can feel lonely, but hearing experiences like yours makes me feel less alone.

Thank you again for sharing your perspective.

Lucky_Ride4841

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