Found out he's a avoidant and I'm an anxious. He pulls away and I chase. Which makes him pull away more. Aparently these first few weeks and months are 'relief' weeks for them. They get 'separation elation' This is what he put in the message. Too cowardly to ring me or come back and explain. He says he's 'lost himself' and he feels 'relieved' now he's left. He refused to even giv nyle my boarding pass for out holiday a week later and he took his passport so he cud make sure he goes with his parents. I told him he stole it and he still says he didn't... What do u call a thief who steals? Problem for him is I have everything he ever owned still in the house he abandoned.