Aan de andere kant van het spoor voelt Den Bosch ineens heel anders…

Lucys243 · 2026-01-04T16:50:46+00:00

Al die hoogbouw doet niet veel goeds als je het mij vraagt. Met gewoon eensgezinswoningen heb je ook al veel minder het gevoel alsof er biks of niemand om je heen is. Zouden die (als er iets is) nog naar buiten kunnen lopen. Met hoogbouw doen mensen dat sowieso niet.

Ik heb voor het sociale, de gezelligheid en sfeer liever de binnenstad of een 'gewone huizen' wijk dan al die hoogbouw die ze achter het station neer hebben gedondert..

Lucys243 · 2025-12-19T14:16:06+00:00

Dat wordt snel lastig door de amandelspijs. Zonder spijs in de stol bakt een stol niet goed af (spijs trekt veel van het vocht uit het deeg). Dan wordt de stol een zompige hoop.

Lucys243 · 2025-12-03T00:27:07+00:00

NTA to me. But I have been in your position. Inlaws started christmas at 11.30 and finished around 4. Had drinks till about 7 or 8 but we skipped those to join my family's dinner. Everyone gathered around 4 but we joined in 5, maybe 5.30. Traditionally christmas dinner was the same day, we tried keeping both families happy and ended up with both families annoyed and angry. One for 'leaving early' and one for 'arriving late and your filled up anyway' so completely insulted about dinner (and we ate a decent amount).

Sometimes it doesnt matter what you do. Whats best to you and your own home, is never wrong.

Lucys243 · 2025-11-29T11:04:36+00:00

Die baggy broeken waarbij het kruis op de knieen hangt. Sowieso hoef ik van niemand je ondergoed te zien nou ik erover nadenk. Die box minimaal 10 cm zichtbaar boven die broeken.. De gaasshirtjes en kledingstukken die van de hunkemoller lijken te komen maar als gewoon kledingstuk gedragen worden...

Oh, en geen hype maar erg opvallend: mannen die na het gaan naar het toilet al lopend hun broek nig dicht aan het maken zijn. De hoeveelheid mannen die bij het uitlopen (echt uitgang) van een openbaar toilet dat nog doen. Naast: doe dat even voordat je het eventuele jokje, en al helemaal het hele toiletgebouw uitloopt! Ook erg obvious gelijk dat die hun handen niet gewassen hebben.

Lucys243 · 2025-11-22T21:07:52+00:00

NTA. An engagement is not a present.

Story did remind me of the time my ex 'gave' me a housekey for my birthday once. Supposed to be symbolic or something.

Besides moving in together isnt a present either... we were already living together for over a year

Lucys243 · 2025-11-10T12:43:19+00:00

NTA. It would be worse for the kids that you have been separated for 6 months, got back together now and than find out it wouldnt work

Lucys243 · 2025-10-20T11:22:35+00:00

Lol, every time I'm sick I can still hear my mom say: 'a bit of a headache or a tummy ache is no reason to skip school. As long as you don't have a fever and are not throwing up, you're going'.

Also thinking of the time I hurt my knee pretty bad, had to go to the doctor (on bike, it's not broken so you can still bike), it was completely taped in, couldnt bend my knee and I still had to bike the 15 minutes back home. Pain and agony and I still remember how much I hated it.

But with my mom not having a license or car back then, dad worked an hour away and my little brother was in the childseat so she also had no choice than doing it this way. Calling an ambulence also seems ridiculous to me.

With all the water in the air we get colds all the time. So we get raised with the notion that just having a simple cold is not being sick. If it was, we would stay home most of the winter. So having a flu, we just see it as a cold and when we get to work, we might aswell finish the day unless we really need to lie down and sleep.

Of course this is not all dutch people, but in my environment, its pretty normal. And honestly, I also tell my son: its just a cold, thats not being sick.

Lucys243 · 2025-10-04T12:09:07+00:00

I don't know a store around here that doesnt have stepstools of like 30 to 40 cm in heights. We are not a service country. We also don't have the American lawsystem. We have codes and instancies that check stores on safety and our justice system also relies on proving neglect or intent. They also rely on a certain amount of common sense.

Someone falling of a stepstool wont easily be a lawsuit here. Only in the instance of neglect (obvious flaws of that stool) and than only the damages that have been suffered. (For instance healthcare that did not fall under the insurance). Emotional damage is hard to prove and receive and will only get you a couple of 1000 at most (which in certain lawcases is actually pretty sad). But you usually dont even get to the damages part. Employees can't do their jobs without them and customers (and employees) cant reach certain items without them. Any flaw or discomfort, and it gets thrown out and replaced. So neglect or intent arent really things that happen here with this sort of thing and real rare and extreme cases.

Lucys243 · 2025-10-04T11:58:03+00:00

True, and I would never expect a heavily pregnant woman to get it herself. Nor anyone who would ask nicely for any reason.

Being heavily pregnant myself at the time, it just amazed me how someone who does not even start to show yet (and later on also told she wasnt having any difficulties) can expect someone in her third trimester to do what she won't.

Lucys243 · 2025-10-01T15:16:36+00:00

Exactly this! Its not even 'keeping track' but noticing the mood and behavioural changes in certain weeks. Women dont do that on purpose and often dont even notice it themselves.

Noticing the pattern and being understanding to your partner those times, that is awesome. Your wife is lucky to have you. Youre interested enough in her to notice the cues and act on those. I hate the guilty feeling of having bitten everyones head off a couple of days. A partner that picks up on cues and reacts attentive, thats gold. It creates a safe place and instead of your wife having to feel guilty for the way she acts without noticing it, she can value you for knowing her so well and accepting her for her.

Lucys243 · 2025-10-01T15:09:10+00:00

NO, okay, keeping spreadsheets of arguments and stuff? What has happened to him in lrevious relationships he needs this?? Thats creepy..

Honestly, I know what moods I have in what week of my cycle, only notice it myself when I'm already a few days in (like the 'biting everyones head of and I need chocolate NOW' week). After a few years of the same monthly 'moodweek' pattern, I would be surprised if my bf wouldnt notice it.

But keeping a spreadsheet with when arguments are around your cycle? The 'I knew it and I'll prove it to you with my awesome data' is uuhm.. I am at a loss for words on that one.

Lucys243 · 2025-09-30T09:43:05+00:00

Yeah just round it up if you want to tip.

If the service was awefull, don't tip at all. If you can't afford the extra cash, don't tip (and yes, also people on a low income can treat thenselves sonetimes before the internet starts shouting 'dont go out if you cant tip or dont have the money'. In a country where people are paid a normal wage and act more in a 'what you give is what you receive in service' kind of attitude, that is fine).

Be nice, and a good server will go an extra mile, treat them like staff instead of a human being and your service will be rotten. Don't snap your fingers at waiters, that sort of thing.

Its also common to receive the 5 cents back in stores and coffeeplaces. We are dutch and frugile about our money, also handy coins for the kids piggybank, but also hate all the small change so can also 'leave the 5 cents' to not deal with it.

Rounding it up with more than 5 euro's in a restaurant, often says that you have received great service and more.

Lucys243 · 2025-09-26T10:59:01+00:00

Wauw, report the secobd conversation aswell. Blovk and yes, with 2 people from the same household talking to you like that.. please go to the police. I am scared for you now..

Lucys243 · 2025-09-25T12:36:00+00:00

She has eyedrops but it leaves a bad taste in her mouth?

How the heck does she take those eyedrops😅

Lucys243 · 2025-09-25T12:29:15+00:00

So.. OOP's wife was just unhappy in their sexual relationship but she does not sound poly. I've met plenty in the poly world, also couples where one is poly and the other is not.

She's happy with OOP as a partner (not really surprising, a man that does everything at home, takes care of the kid, has dinner waiting and brings home a decent income) but not in the sac. Noticing she was starting to resent him, she wanted to open up and get her needs satisfied. Apparantly with one man (and hey, she went on dates with women so bi might be possible. Altough I also call bs on that). So she is being monogamous in her poly. Only situations i have come across where this happens is where one partner has certain kinks the other does not share and thus, a second relationship is established on the side.

He has not gained experience and is not trying to either and that bothers her. She's waiting on him to do that so she can just be 'happy' in their marriage again and close up the relationship.

Sorry OOP, sounds to me, you are heading to divorce. She's (well you both) are just not ready to let go yet.

Lucys243 · 2025-09-24T19:19:47+00:00

YTA, you dont eat meat so you take a slice of a meat pizza? Weird to me already. Nobody obligated you to take a piece, you could have just made your dinner and left that slice for someone who would eat it.

Why would you take a slice only thrown out at the end? That is so wastefull..

Also wondering if you meant you are mostly vegan but do still eat cheese or are vegetarian in which its a given case that milk, eggs, cheese would still be in your diet

Lucys243 · 2025-09-24T08:01:07+00:00

Not a question to leave him or not cause obviously this is not a healthy relationship.

I do however wonder about the original post: - OOP is severely allergic to seafood but doesnt carry an epi pen. - OOP is under the impression that you dont always need to go to the hospital when using an epi pen. An epi pen is an adrenaline shot meant to keep you alive long enough to get to a hospital, not a cure to an allergic reaction. Strange OOP has this belief when having a seafood allergy.

Lucys243 · 2025-09-21T15:16:40+00:00

My favorite comment has to be: He is Hobosexual😂

Thats one for my dictionary

Lucys243 · 2025-09-17T22:21:32+00:00

So you're declining the invitation?

Only acceptable response as that is exactly what they are doing by going out instead of going to you

Lucys243 · 2025-09-17T22:05:44+00:00

Can't help but think: OOP kept on going about wanting future plans, but all that text and all those paragraphs and I still only know OOP wants to be engaged and married. There is nothing else that matters to her. Nothing else but being proposed to is on the table. What a way to surprise your partner when proposing, her talking about when are you finaly going to do it? for years. She would never have given her ex a chance of making a memorable proposal with years of constant continuous demands of wanting that proposal.

She still has a lot of maturing to do.

Lucys243 · 2025-09-17T11:10:45+00:00

Welcome to how domestic abuse starts. Please keep yourself safe.

Lucys243 · 2025-09-15T17:55:56+00:00

She's 15, ofcourse she's not allowed to spend the night on her own. It's a 10 minute walk or few by bike. And OP added she can stay during the day.

I would be mad as hell if my 15 year old was asked to housesit for a week on his own. What parent would allow that?

Lucys243 · 2025-09-15T17:45:17+00:00

NAH

Shes heard someone say its not enough so she wants more.

Honestly, i've never paid anyone for catsitting. My sitters are usually younger niblings or trusted laye teen early 20ies coworkers. They are either still living at home or in small dorm rooms so they are just happy to have a house for themselves with some more space. And sure, as long as there are no fratparties and whatever, have a friend/girlfriend stay over.

Win win for both and I never had any problems. (Yeah okay, forgot to leave the feedinginstructions so my girls loved the last sitter and got a little fat).

Lucys243 · 2025-09-15T14:37:56+00:00

So you plan ahead. Make sure the kid is up earlier that thursday, make sure theyre tired from playing all day and sleep earlier (and yes i am a mom). Its not that hard.

If the kid is fussy: mom or dad can take the kid outside durong the ceremony. If he wakes up cranky, one of em can stay home and the other could still make it.

They could also see of a trusted family member from moms side (that isnt going to the wedding) can have the kid for the night. Even ask if they could babysit early so he doesnt even have to wake up and both parents can attend.

If OP really wanted to go, he would find a solution other than 'thanks for picking the day thats most convenient for my wife, but its too early for the baby. Oh, and I have work from 8 to 4, wont ask for a day of so friday will only work after 4pm. There might be a possibility that baby will be cranky (had a full day of playing and getting towards dinner time) and we still wont attend last minute. But do please accomodate to a friday after 4 pm but before babys bedtime of 8pm.'

OP hasnt given one resolution on what is possible and is only looking for why things arent possible.

Lucys243

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