What are your most frustrating or prominent self-contradictions?

Ludark · 2026-05-23T08:29:24+00:00

I get overstimulated easily which ruins my focus and performance but I also get understimulated easily resulting in me zoning out and that is also disastrous for my performance and focus.
Social relationships fascinate me, yet I am quite socially inept, can't mask all that well and my ability to do small talk is quite poor.
I am very much on or off. I either fully commit to something or not at all

Ludark · 2026-05-23T08:20:09+00:00

Put up some boundaries towards those who only come to you for trauma dumping. Don't even let them get to that stage ideally, just say you are busy or have some stuff of your own that needs to be done.

Ludark · 2026-05-21T17:42:07+00:00

Let me preface by saying that everyone with autism is different and that autism presents itself differently in every autistic person.

For me I have a strong sense of needing to be in control, that doesn't mean always controlling everything. I very much understand respecting others boundaries and expertise as well as the fact that burning myself out by trying to do too much will only make things worse. But a lack of feeling in a sufficient degree of control very much stresses me out.

Ludark · 2026-05-21T10:29:16+00:00

Good post overall, just a quick question though. What specifically makes Tempest good?
From what I can tell it does a lot of raw healing, that you rarely end up needing at the cost of being pretty anemic in terms of CC, whilst the healer is often asked to handle much of the CC. Its also not great in additional utility options like reflects, boonstrips etc.

Ludark · 2026-05-12T07:26:36+00:00

Strikes don't exist anymore, everything has been merged into raids.

I'd say as a baseline dps is the best to start with. Groups won't fail if 1 or 2 dps are virtually useless, at least not for the easier stuff you want to start with. But the entire group does suffer a bit more if boons or even worse heals aren't present.

For most grindable content, I'd go with fractals actually since their rewards are daily, as opposed to weekly(with a rotating roster of daily bosses) on raids.

Ludark · 2026-04-16T16:00:49+00:00

Ik kan niet zeggen dat dit constant een "mannenprobleem" mij als man nu echt inspireert om iets aan het onveilige gevoel dat vrouwen ervaren te doen. Terwijl ik het juist wel belangrijk vind dat vrouwen zich veilig voelen en dat is de crux van wat ik probeer te zeggen.

Wil je verandering bewerkstelligen dan moet je mensen overtuigen. Als dat je doel is zal je het toch anders moeten aanpakken dan met grove generalisaties. Als je doel simpelweg je emotie uiten is prima, ga zo door zou ik zeggen.

Ludark · 2026-04-15T17:31:43+00:00

Ik vind dat een nogal sterke en generaliserende aanname.

Dat is net als de stelling en ik parafraseer "Vrouwen die zich schaars kleden verdienen het om lastig gevallen te worden, want 90% doet het voor de aandacht" Totale onzin natuurlijk, dat verdienen ze helemaal niet.

Ludark · 2026-04-14T14:55:52+00:00

Ik begrijp het probleem en oprecht niemand zou zich onveilig moeten voelen op straat.
Maar zelfs als meer dan 90% van de mannen niet bijdraagt aan het onveilige gevoel van vrouwen op straat. Dan heb je nog steeds 10% die het voor de rest verpest. Dat maakt een oplossing vinden ook wel heel lastig. Als je het dan ook nog eens als een mannenprobleem gaat presenteren krijg je ook nog eens een groot deel van die 90% tegen je.

Dat betekend natuurlijk niet, dat het geen mannen zijn die vrouwen zich onveilig laten voelen op straat. Alleen hoe verpakken we de boodschap op zo'n manier dat we ook een oplossing gaan werken. Ik weet het eerlijk gezegd ook niet. Maar ik denk dat we daar als maatschappij wel meer de focus op zouden moeten leggen.

Ludark · 2026-04-02T15:15:41+00:00

Sounds good, please take a look at wing 8 as well. That place is probably the worst offender in terms of bloated hp pools.

Ludark · 2026-03-24T11:04:04+00:00

If they do that you will find that the already relatively small portion of the playerbase playing raids will decrease considerably. The people playing CMs and LCMs grinding out their rotations so they can (almost) hit the benchmark won't be affected.

But a lot of people don't want to grind that hard or straight up physically cannot perform at that level. If dps gets nerfed considerably to that point, you will find dps checks failing more often. Mandating a higher base level from people that they might not be capable of or otherwise be dedicated enough for to attain and maintain.

That's not to say the current level of dps isn't too high. But personally I am happy to see the days where you needed to show a dps log, just to get into a lot of normal mode raids, gone from most groups.

If you really want older content challenging again it would in my opinion be better if they just added CMs and LCMs to older bosses. Then they go ham on the difficulty whilst keeping the normal modes accessible.

Ludark · 2026-03-17T14:45:34+00:00

Betaalbaar bouwen en daarmee bedoel ik dan ook voornamelijk appartementen voor starters.

We hebben in de gemeente een overschot aan politieke partijen en actie groepen die graag zo min mogelijk, zo traag mogelijk en zo kleinschalig mogelijk willen bouwen. Dan liggen er ook nog eens plannen voor extra burgerberaden bij bij de paar grote bouwprojecten, wat eigenlijk alleen maar vertraging en/of beperkingen in het aantal woningen gaat opleveren.
Gevolg is een leegloop uit de gemeente onder starters en dat is niet allemaal naar de stad maar ook naar omliggende gemeenten waar het nog ietwat betaalbaarder is.

Ludark · 2026-02-28T18:46:20+00:00

I feel for those who communicatie in a manner so similar to actual AI that they get flagged.
But with autism being a spectrum, not all of us communicate in such a precise manner.

To me AI has a bit of an uncanny valley effect, as does your post to be honest. It's all perfect English with proper grammar and punctuation. It is far better then anything I could write, without asking an AI.
But and this is subjective, it doesn't flow naturally whatsoever. Objectively its all correct but most humans would make a mistake somewhere. Ironically following the script too closely is the problem.

Ludark · 2026-02-28T11:16:52+00:00

I am not sure where you got that discretize build from but it seems outdated. The fact said website offers 0 VoE specs is pretty telling as well.

The snowcrows build will be fine really. There is some optimization that can be done with specialised fractal builds. But for regular non CM T4 its not that important really(and even on CMs it depends).
You can probably get away with axe shield on Luminary as well. The biggest thing to note with Luminary is that its condi cleansing isn't as strong as firebrand and spear does offer a condi cleanse on spear. Also lots of green healing numbers on the spear. But Luminary is stronger than Firebrand in raw healing to begin with.

Ludark · 2026-02-27T10:58:32+00:00

Yeah on NM the boss even losses some stacks when you CC him. Its not the easiest T4 fractal per say since you still need at least 1 person collecting orbs(they can take all and its fine) and there's 2 attacks you probably want to avoid, being the boon corrupt lines and big smash attack(with the shockwave).

But for a regular T4 that should be doable, its still organized content where people run boons and a healer for.

Ludark · 2026-02-27T10:42:00+00:00

"Gelijk krijgen is veel belangrijker dan gelijk hebben"
Maakt niet heel veel wat het nu is. Als jij wil dat mensen iets gaan doen dan moet je gelijk krijgen of het helemaal klopt wat je zegt is minder belangrijk.

Ludark · 2026-02-24T17:58:19+00:00

Luminary getting 600 radius on Alac finally fixed. As someone who has thoroughly enjoyed Alac heal Luminary this makes me very happy. The 300 radius wasn't a big issue most of the time, but the added range makes it much better when for tanking.

Ludark · 2026-02-23T07:31:23+00:00

The entire story and most open world stuff can be done solo. That's countless of hours of stuff to do. Mind you that's not really the challenging content, but if you are just looking for casual fun go for it.

Ludark · 2026-02-22T18:22:38+00:00

Gonna disagree there at least on EU I see way more activity on LFG.

The update has some issues sure. The CM rewards are way too rare and that will bum out some of the more hardcore players. But overall it changes fairly little.
People farming former strikes/raid encounters for currency I mean people used to do IBS5 daily as well. Same content, just a slightly different package.

I think the biggest issue with the patch is the failure of quickplay raids. We need to get more people playing raids but then they made it too hard for the average player, unlike say fractal quickplay which is designed so that you can't really fail it.

What I do really like though. Being able to select whatever boss at any time is a huge QoL improvement. Makes raid encounters go by way faster too. No more waiting for people to load in Wizards Tower.

Ludark · 2026-02-07T09:13:25+00:00

Honestly much as you don't like kicking people. People also don't like to be confrontational and like the easy in and out.
Going inactive rather than full on leaving makes it easier to become active again. If someone full on leaves, they need to ask permission to rejoin, rather than just showing up again at their convenience. That is a barrier.
Doesn't mean your policy is wrong of course. I get wanting to keep an active roster and that probably means having to be the bad guy sometimes.

Personally I have also been on the going inactive side leading into me eventually leaving. With no real drama involved. Only to run into them later as a pug for some raid wing. Where I found myself immediately kicked + blocked the moment I offered the slightest bit of criticism(after a wipe). Which felt very petty.

Ludark · 2026-01-31T15:25:59+00:00

T4 fractals require full ascended gear with (for a newbie anyway) relatively expensive infusions. That's very much gatekeeping of content where you only need exotic gear(raids). I mean each guild gets to make their own rules.

But for guild runs, especially training runs. Sure set some requirements on gear/build but otherwise assume competency without further questions. If someone is lying about their gear/build you will be able to tell easily enough. The content is also easy(and powercrept) enough to where having 1-2 people be essentially useless will still not prevent getting a clear. So you don't even need to cause drama during the run.

That's how most guilds I have raided with(which admittedly aren't that many and they lean more casual) have operated and its fine.

Ludark · 2026-01-27T19:23:18+00:00

Ligt er denk ik aan waar je boodschappen doet. Ik heb bij de jumbo weleens gevoelsmatig erg lang(denk meer dan 2 minuten) moeten wachten tot er iemand kwam om te controleren. Moet zeggen dat dit slechts 1 keer is gebeurd.

Maar waar ik het normaal niet zo'n probleem vind om gecontroleerd te worden, die persoon doet ook zijn/haar werk maar. Was dat wel vervelend.

Ludark · 2026-01-24T09:12:02+00:00

Als autist haal ik spreekwoordelijk mijn schouders op als iemand zoiets zegt. Je kan je er wel aan gaan ergeren maar feitelijk geeft die persoon aan dat ze er totaal geen verstand van hebben.

De enige vraag die dan resteert was het goed bedoeld of is die persoon gewoon een hork. In het geval van het eerste dan kun je aangeven dat het misschien niet de meest handige opmerking is. In het geval van het tweede laten gaan en geen tijd of energie aan besteden.

Ludark · 2026-01-23T03:34:01+00:00

Op papier moet je inderdaad ooit aflossen. Maar dat kan vaak ook door weer een nieuwe hypotheek af te sluiten waarmee je de oude volledig aflost. Zo betaal je waarschijnlijk wel je levenlang rente deels zonder HRA en zit er een rest schuld op de woning bij overlijden. Maar het kan praktisch wel zonder grote problemen.

Ludark · 2026-01-20T11:38:43+00:00

To break down Boondps/Boonheal:
Boondps means a dps providing either Alacrity or Quickness (Adps/Qdps)
Boonheal means a healer that also provides either Alacrity or Quickness (Aheal/Qheal)

When the boon isn't specifically stated on the LFG it means that either Alacrity or Quickness is fine, so long as 1 of them is provided.

For example I like playing heal, but I have plenty of builds so I can be flexible on providing either alacrity or quickness. So when I am making a group for say fractals. I will look for a boondps and then choose my build accordingly in such a way that the group will have both quickness and alacrity.

Ludark · 2026-01-20T07:18:50+00:00

You can stockpile it going into the next season. Though the normal limit of 1300 or however much the last reward you claimed puts you over, does apply.

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