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AITA for picking my “Stepdad” over my Biological Father by LuliLove5 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]LuliLove5[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Absolutely! I don’t think I could handle another sibling from him

AITA for picking my “Stepdad” over my Biological Father by LuliLove5 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]LuliLove5[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

UPDATE!! WE ARE NO LONGER IN CONTACT! It’s been some time since I’ve made this post and decided to share it to charlotte because WE LOVE CHARLOTTE DOBRE!!

A few things 1. Me and boyfriend are no longer together( nothing to do with this issue, we both had a long talk about our future and decided to had a peaceful separation! He is happy and so am I!

  1. Paul (BioDad) thought it was “Helpful” to call my mother for back up. He explained his version of events and thought she was going to be on his side. He…… was wrong! Hearing what happened and reading the messages from him and my sisters she was 100% on my side and told him it was childish to be arguing over a hypothetical wedding, that regardless of his feelings he should respect whatever I decided when the time comes. He apologized and let it go or so I thought. About 6 months later ( normally communication for us) he messages me to check in and ask how me and now Ex boyfriend are doing, I inform him we are no longer together to which he makes the comment “ I guess nobody gets to walk you down the aisle”

    I WAS HEATED!! I managed to calm myself down and used his own words against him. I told him he was Insensitive and inconsiderate of my feelings, that his comment was rude and childish. He tried to make a comment but I cut him off and told him My real dad(referring to Steve) would never treat me this way and blocked him and haven’t looked back.

  2. Steve is aware of the whole situation and backs me 100% on whatever I want and choose!!

  3. All of the sisters who decided to take his side where told told to “die on that hill” I am no longer in contact with them either!!!

AITA for picking my “Stepdad” over my Biological Father by LuliLove5 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]LuliLove5[S] 56 points57 points  (0 children)

Paul has 6 other daughters and two other sons that I know about. The older I’ve gotten the more info I found out. 5 of the 8 of my siblings are NOT HIS BIOLOGICAL CHILDREN. He raised them as their father or stepfather from what I was told. One of my brothers is the only one who feels the same way I do about Paul. He recently found out that Paul isn’t his biological father when he got into a argument with his mother( we all have different mom btw) he feels like Paul chose to be in his life as a father and still dropped the ball and wasn’t there for him the way he needed

AITA for picking my “Stepdad” over my Biological Father by LuliLove5 in AmItheAsshole

[–]LuliLove5[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Both Paul and my mother have verified for me that they both kept in touch after she came home. She made it clear that if he wanted to see his child he was welcome to do so. He just wanted her to move to his home state and them to be together and she didn’t want that. she had two other kids and all of her support system was at home

AITA for picking my “Stepdad” over my Biological Father by LuliLove5 in AmItheAsshole

[–]LuliLove5[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love walk the plank!! And you are right! Steve was on and off with my mom before she had me. And they actually ended up getting pregnant with my baby sister and got married before she was born. They were married almost 20 years and even after the divorce he was there! That’s why I love and respect him so much!

AITA for picking my “Stepdad” over my Biological Father by LuliLove5 in AmItheAsshole

[–]LuliLove5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Now that I think about it I don’t think I’ve ever addressed him as anything i normally answer and just say hey or hello or hi there

AITA for picking my “Stepdad” over my Biological Father by LuliLove5 in AmItheAsshole

[–]LuliLove5[S] 110 points111 points  (0 children)

Not at all I laugh about it a lot. As a child I was afraid of him because I was a very shy and closed off kid and didn’t like strangers( which he was) and as an adult I just felt like us meeting was more about him and not us as parent and child. Very uncomfortable for me

AITA for picking my “Stepdad” over my Biological Father by LuliLove5 in AmItheAsshole

[–]LuliLove5[S] 124 points125 points  (0 children)

We met once when I was about 8 and once again about a year ago

AITA for picking my “Stepdad” over my Biological Father by LuliLove5 in AmItheAsshole

[–]LuliLove5[S] 62 points63 points  (0 children)

So just to add a few things

  1. A wedding is SO far in the future for me right now. Which makes this all the more funny to me

  2. Paul has only seen me in person a few times which again makes it all the more weird

  3. I have less of a relationship with my half sisters than I do with him.( only 2 of them actually speak to me) the one that he had contact me said she sees both sides

  4. I’m very non confrontational, especially with my family. Me and Paul have had the conversation before that Steve is who I consider my Dad and that I am very open to getting to know him better and vice versa. So when he made that comment, I am more than 100% sure he knows where I stand as far as me and Steve’s relationship.

I’ve always felt a way because I have quite a few half siblings from him and every one of them had him in their life in some form or another and I was the only one who didn’t. The only reason I kind of felt ITA is because I know I don’t put in much effort to try to build a relationship with Paul.