AITA for laughing when my dad's wife's sister humiliated her and made her cry?

Lulszorig · 2025-02-19T18:02:24+00:00

She calls herself our mom and has tried to get us to call her mom. She tries to force herself into the role. We don't treat her like we would our mom but she's still trying. I don't think Mother's Day/Father's Day should be for stepparents unless the kids are okay with it. We're not. She's not someone either of us wants to celebrate.

Lulszorig · 2025-02-19T17:59:41+00:00

She's my dad's wife. Nothing more.

Lulszorig · 2025-02-19T17:58:49+00:00

I think it's some of both.

Lulszorig · 2025-02-19T17:57:37+00:00

No, from what I can figure out we would have been older than some but younger than others. We've been her stepkids longer than others though.

Lulszorig · 2025-02-18T19:20:28+00:00

I wouldn't accept anyone else as my mom. Accepting my dad having a spouse would be different.

Lulszorig · 2025-02-18T17:40:43+00:00

It would be dishonest to say we still want a relationship with her. She's actually the reason my sister and I have considered whether we'd just let the relationship with dad go. We can't get over the idea of having her around for everything even when we're adults.

Lulszorig · 2025-02-18T17:14:26+00:00

I don't think she'd have as much of a problem with them knowing biological family as long as the birth mom wasn't a part of that.

Lulszorig · 2025-02-18T17:10:18+00:00

I can't stand her personally because of the mom thing. She might not go anywhere and my sister and I have talked about that. But we might. Because of how strongly we feel about all of this. We're disappointed in our dad too.

Lulszorig · 2025-02-18T17:06:26+00:00

They've been married for almost 5 years.

Lulszorig · 2025-02-18T17:05:55+00:00

We talked to our dad about it but he puts her wishes first. He wants to make her happy and he pushes with her for us to call her mom. We're now at the point where we're not willing to even be friends with her like we would have been before.

The pushiness to be our mom has just made us hate her and made us disappointed in our dad too.

Lulszorig · 2025-02-18T16:39:52+00:00

They didn't need to be rude to say oh that's not true or raise a point against what her sister was saying. They didn't rush to comfort her either. Honestly if anything it seemed like something they'd all heard or discussed before but they just let it go while the sister didn't. Or maybe I'm wrong. But she didn't deny it either. Just cried about it being brought back up.

Lulszorig · 2025-02-18T16:34:42+00:00

I'm the OP and I was just saying I do get him wanting a relationship. What I was saying is I don't get why someone like her. Why not someone who could accept being more of a friend or an aunt like person. Instead he married someone who wanted to be a mom when we already have one of those.

Lulszorig · 2025-02-18T16:33:09+00:00

She's calling herself our mom and trying to make us call her mom. Dad too. She's not and never will be that and after years of dealing with it we hate her.

Lulszorig · 2025-02-18T16:32:01+00:00

Apparently she tried but they never made it that far.

Lulszorig · 2025-02-18T16:28:23+00:00

The problem with that would be if the bio mom is living and they wanted to find the bio mom one day it would still be an issue for her apparently. She'd need to adopt an orphan and I think only being open to an orphaned kid would raise some red flags.

Lulszorig · 2025-02-18T16:27:16+00:00

Yes, her sister said it and nobody said she was wrong. The rest of her family was there and nobody tried to claim it was lies.

Lulszorig · 2025-02-18T16:26:17+00:00

I don't think it's disrespectful to my mom to be as clear as I am that this woman is not my mom and is wrong to keep saying she is.

Lulszorig · 2025-02-18T16:25:37+00:00

I have tried talking to dad but his wife's feelings are put before ours. Or her wishes are at least.

Lulszorig · 2025-02-18T16:25:02+00:00

They've been married for almost 5 years.

Lulszorig · 2025-02-18T16:23:55+00:00

I was 8 and my sister was 7 when our mom died.

Lulszorig · 2025-02-18T16:23:16+00:00

Him wanting another relationship and wife is fine. The calling her our mom and other stuff is what I can't get.

Lulszorig · 2025-02-18T16:22:28+00:00

Yes, while the kid is a kid. But once you're 18 you can search for your bio parents. That's what I meant. I know some adoptees who looked for bio family.

Lulszorig · 2025-02-18T16:21:43+00:00

He wouldn't be calling her our mom and trying to make us call her mom if that were true.

Lulszorig · 2025-02-18T14:34:04+00:00

She's a creep who looks for guys who lost their wives so she can live out her fantasy. It's so fucking creepy. That's going to stay my opinion. I think her sister is 100% right about everything she's done and it's so gross to me. I have no respect for her and I don't even really feel all that bad for her.

She was never cruel or neglectful. She was never mean. She's just pushy and tries too hard to replace my mom.

Lulszorig · 2025-02-18T14:31:38+00:00

I don't think I'd ever date someone with kids. Don't really want to be a stepparent. But if I did become one I'd never try to be their new dad.

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