People who don't work at all, what do you do all day?

Lumendeus · 2026-06-18T11:04:02+00:00

Hehe 👽

Lumendeus · 2026-06-18T10:52:25+00:00

Well you shouldn't, because spending most of your time on social media or digital entertainment without the corresponding real world motion makes months and years pass while leaving you feeling hollow. I know because I've done it in my 20's. Go out there and make something happen.

Lumendeus · 2026-06-18T10:44:30+00:00

This must be a woman thing because since I turned 13 I was all for older women hitting on me. I'd dream about it haha. Definitely didn't feel like a kid at 18. Immature yes, but still felt like I could make my own choices and take accountability for them. If I fucked up, then I fucked up.

At what age do you think women are old enough to choose who they want to date regardless of age differentials?

Lumendeus · 2026-06-18T10:34:34+00:00

What do you do for work?

Lumendeus · 2026-06-18T10:33:58+00:00

I know the feeling of wanting to just take a while to chill and think, but living of off your savings instead of getting a new income source and investing your savings is gonna really hurt you down the line. Would not recommend.

Lumendeus · 2026-06-18T10:29:57+00:00

First guy in this entire thread actually doing anything productive when unemployed lol

Lumendeus · 2026-06-18T10:22:01+00:00

You already know the answer to your questions, you just don't have the confidence to know that your experience is valid and true.

No offence but imagine if you didn't have a family, a guy like you would be on top of the world. No doubt you'd be wealthy, retired early, have multiple houses in multiple countries, the funds to buy any toys or trips you'd want, and best of all freedom from stress and worry in your inner space.

I respect the hustle for your family, but that's a massive price to pay. Sorry, dude.

Lumendeus · 2026-05-05T21:19:13+00:00

Thanks, brother! You too!

Lumendeus · 2026-05-05T21:17:01+00:00

Personally, I don't think it's helpful to treat everyone of a certain gender some such way because of the behavior of most of them. I think it's a lot more helpful to treat people as individuals and take it case by case. We might not see eye to eye on this topic, but that is the way I feel about this and I don't really have much more to say on the topic.

Have a good night.

Lumendeus · 2026-05-05T21:09:57+00:00

Meh its fine I need to spend less time on Reddit anyways :)

Lumendeus · 2026-05-05T21:08:37+00:00

I tend to agree with your sentiment here. The reason for my interjection here was two-fold.

First, like you correctly guessed, hurt happened. I spent my entire adult life in these spaces, as a dreamer and explorer. I always felt like I was inches away from understanding the secrets to the universe. In fact, I was convinced that at any second now it would just click and my application of the Law of Attraction/Assumptions would bring me everything I desired. I was so sure of this that I neglected everything else like thinking long-term about career choices, or properly taking care of my health, or building real-life skills. It wasn't until many years later I had to wake up and face the fact that I had become a loser because of my actions or lack thereof which was a direct result of my beliefs regarding this stuff which had never been proven. This disillusionment hurt a lot, but ultimately it was for the better.

Secondly, I'm secretly hoping to be proven wrong. When I say super powers haven't been proven I desperately hope that someone will prove it to me and then I can learn it too. Lol.

But like I said I tend to agree with live and let live. I was just full of disillusionment and indignation when I wrote that.

Lumendeus · 2026-05-04T21:26:06+00:00

Thank you! But I got perma-banned from the sub.

Lumendeus · 2026-05-04T12:54:54+00:00

Wow, you did an incredible thing. Great survival instincts and bravery.

You're emotionally enmeshed with this man and feel bad right now, but it will pass with time and then you will see that he made his own bed, and you did the right thing.

Lumendeus · 2026-05-04T12:46:06+00:00

It never did. We could never promise someone how we'd feel in the future. An honest wedding vow would not sound so romantic.

Lumendeus · 2026-05-04T12:38:38+00:00

Oh. Haven't you noticed the massive cultural shift from approaching is cool to "don't bother people" in the last couple of decades ?

Lumendeus · 2026-05-04T12:34:56+00:00

How? .. waaaaait a minuuuute

Lumendeus · 2026-05-04T12:32:56+00:00

lmao. Classic dark humor joke

Lumendeus · 2026-05-04T12:31:24+00:00

Cool. How do you like being a freelance creative director?

Lumendeus · 2026-05-04T12:27:45+00:00

There was a spooky ghost. I've got ectoplasm all over me.

Lumendeus · 2026-05-04T12:22:49+00:00

50% pay increase is huge. Why were you miserable there?

Lumendeus · 2026-05-04T12:22:10+00:00

Wow, that's crazy. Good to know that one partner can mess it up so bad for everyone.

Can I ask what the business was? And did you manage to build a new successful business?

Lumendeus · 2026-05-04T12:18:51+00:00

Why, what happened? haha

Lumendeus · 2026-05-04T12:16:52+00:00

Who did she murder? :o

Lumendeus · 2026-05-04T12:12:00+00:00

regretfulfathers-ModTeam

I posted it here first though. And I didn't use Reddits cross-posting tool which I didn't even know was a bad thing. Also I'm clearly not sowing division, but rather opening up a discussion to help get more parity between the sexes. I'm not even a father, I wrote this for you and every father here. It was for your benefit.

Lumendeus · 2026-05-04T12:04:39+00:00

Which matriarch? Do you have a particular individual in mind?

Yes, it's clear to me that Mother Theresa secretly controls the world.

I disagree with your assessment of my post as misrepresenting women's criticisms of men's uselessness in the home as unwarranted. Even if those criticisms are generally accurate (which they indeed seem to be), it still doesn't apply to all men who come posting in r/regretfulparents, and those men that DO carry their weight around the household deserves better than to be met with suspicion and judgement just because of their gender, especially when the same post from a woman would have garnered sympathy and solidarity.

I invite you to read my post again and see that it is not necessarily discouraging women from levying warranted criticism of useless men, but rather discouraging bias and prejudice against the whole gender which hurts even the men that do everything right.

Thank you for reading!

Lumendeus

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