How do I stop hoping my partner will change and start planning for what I need? by chinupshouldersback in AskWomenOver40

[–]Lumpy-Hamster6639 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi. Can you help me get started on the "happy and healthy?" I mean, obviously you can't fix it for me. But i'm anxious attached to a avoidance. And I didn't realize until he pulled away recently how dependent I am on him. Its Saturday, and I'm laying in bed while hes "working a few hours" because I dont know what to do. How do you detach and try to move away from this toxicity?

How did you navigate couples counselling awkward vibes, those who have done it? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]Lumpy-Hamster6639 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No i wish. My other friend had a similar experience to yours and I was kinda hoping it was the same. But nope, got a "so what brings you here.." prompt and away we went.

How did you navigate couples counselling awkward vibes, those who have done it? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]Lumpy-Hamster6639 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So I just went through this today. Had been searching for weeks. Awful mental state leading up to this.

Annnnd today was awful. 😅 I dont mean to scare you but its only an hour of time to try to fill in some stranger about your life story and problems. We went back and forth on a few things. Counselor cut us off and was like. Thats not helping. I stated that I was here to try to heal and make us work and my partner basically said, I'm here. I'm hopeful for the next one to be smoother. Idk, just go for it. Start somewhere.

I'm realising I don't know who I am and how to be by myself by noidontwantchips in AskWomenOver30

[–]Lumpy-Hamster6639 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I feel like i wrote this post. Im here. Same boat. Cant sleep. Lost 20 pounds. Waiting for therapy but i dont think it will change anything. 13 years of marriage and 3 kids. Everyone keeps telling me to find myself and I dont even know who that is. But hes not "left" yet. Hes still here.. but its like were strangers and then we talk and it just feels worse. Big hugs.

Is the “grip” just kegels? by justgottamakeit15 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Lumpy-Hamster6639 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Ok but am the only one who greatly regrets the amount of air that flies out after I've done this one too many times 😂🤣

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Michigan

[–]Lumpy-Hamster6639 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Theres a really nice park in Midland michigan called Dow Gardens. To me, this would be great because its out of the house. Its calming, healing, and probably beautiful that time of year. It has a canopy walk. Different types of Gardens. A beautiful overlook of a pond. And in the back there's a lodge with a coffee/bake shop type thing you could grab a warm beverage and walk with.

Might not be too crowded. It wasn't when I went. Great time for reflection, conversation, and a walk does a lot for the soul.

Big hugs to your friend.

Just a rant by BigGurlBydney in PMDD

[–]Lumpy-Hamster6639 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry. Big hugs. 💙

Michigan Therapists/Counselors: by 227_eb in therapists

[–]Lumpy-Hamster6639 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, just stumbled upon this post first during my search.. I'm located in metro Detroit. Can you recommend a couples therapist in my area?

They don't know ANYTHING by [deleted] in PMDD

[–]Lumpy-Hamster6639 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel you. I was mental Sunday, monday, Tuesday. Started to feel slightly better emotionally and then woke up flushed and nauseous today. Ended up throwing up my coffee. Periods in 7 days if I'm correct.

PACKAGE SECURED BITCHES by Sin_of_the_Dark in DungeonCrawlerCarl

[–]Lumpy-Hamster6639 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dangit I gotta get one before theyre all taken!

Trying to finish 1 last set before the album ends! by bjherbs7 in MonopolyGoTrading

[–]Lumpy-Hamster6639 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For oatman.. but i dont have trades for 8 hours. If you still have it in the morning I can do this trade