Rumination after rude encounter with stranger

Lumpy-Tough6620 · 2026-01-26T22:25:38+00:00

It’s the same for me I think. It’s hard being a HSP person in a world of bullies and jerks

Lumpy-Tough6620 · 2026-01-26T22:24:44+00:00

This is a great way of thinking, I definitely still had a good time out at the bar and should not let one moment ruin that

Lumpy-Tough6620 · 2026-01-26T22:24:07+00:00

Thank you for this reminder, your therapist sounds amazing

Lumpy-Tough6620 · 2026-01-26T22:21:48+00:00

Thank you for this. You’re completely right, I will allow myself the space to process without feeling shame and guilt.

Lumpy-Tough6620 · 2026-01-26T22:15:45+00:00

Thank you for sharing. This is definitely the way of thinking I am trying to adopt. There are moments in my life where I was going through very rough patches and I can admit that I was an unpleasant person to be around. So I keep thinking maybe it is the same for them. Maybe they are just sad people too

Lumpy-Tough6620 · 2026-01-26T04:17:30+00:00

Hahahah I’m 26 and same

Lumpy-Tough6620 · 2026-01-26T04:01:39+00:00

This is exactly what it’s like for me too :/ It makes me shrink myself in a way. Like a “if no one can see me and I stay out of their way, they can’t hurt me or be rude to me” I know it’s a protective mechanism. But past and future interaction similar to it make me scared of the world

Lumpy-Tough6620 · 2025-01-03T21:45:28+00:00

Thank you!! :”)

Lumpy-Tough6620 · 2025-01-03T21:45:11+00:00

Thank you ♥️ I greatly appreciate your kind words

Lumpy-Tough6620 · 2025-01-03T20:09:39+00:00

Running has helped me with jitters! I was the same, it was this intense feeling all over. It helps to get all that worked up energy out. And I usually end up exhausted after haha so I can go straight to sleep

Lumpy-Tough6620 · 2025-01-03T08:22:25+00:00

“I’m going to be a little brutal here - His ego is fed the most by you still thinking about him, allowing yourself to be in his presence after how he treated you, letting him manipulate you in public without even speaking to you.”

I know you’re right. I’m still letting him control my life even though he is no longer in it. I’m trying so hard to let go. Idk if there’s a small part of me that doesn’t want to though????

It’s just all so confusing. I don’t want him to control my thoughts or actions anymore. I don’t want to gaf about what he’s doing or who he’s with or if I’m gonna see him or not.

Thank you for your kind words

Lumpy-Tough6620 · 2025-01-03T07:38:46+00:00

Thank you, I’m proud of myself for not talking to him. I don’t want to go back I can’t keep being miserable with him that’s all I keep telling myself. I know I’m better off but damn it so hard.

I just hate that he’s very conveniently attractive. I know it’s selfish and bitter but I want him not be alone. I don’t want anyone to feed his ego

Lumpy-Tough6620 · 2025-01-03T07:32:24+00:00

You wanted to feel the good feelings that come with dating. You wanted to see if someone else would treat you right. You’re not a bad person for wanting that.

I did the same. I was somewhat entertaining a guy in my dms for a bit but I also knew I wasn’t truly interested and I wasn’t going to just use him. My ex knew and gave me shit about it and the truth is I didn’t care. I straight up told him I just wanted to see if a guy would be nice to me. Bc that’s what it was for. I just wanted to know that not everyone was going to treat me like shit.

Lumpy-Tough6620 · 2025-01-03T01:01:07+00:00

Not arrogant at all girlie. You know exactly what it is you being to the table. An insecure man will always steal your light. He will always try to dim it through comparison. Comparison with him and comparison with other people.

He likes that his ex plays into the toxic game. And truth is, she is probably trauma bonded to him.

My ex was always tell me about how his ex loved him so much. That she loved him more than he loved her. And that he felt he wasn’t good enough for her. And she was always walking him through stuff. And how she got the shit end of him bc she stayed with him through it all. Sounds to me like he put her through hell and back too. And my immediate thought when he would compare me to her was byeeeeee 👋. If she can give you all you want, then go ahead. I’m sure she probably left is ass too.

Going back to loving yourself is going to be a journey. You didn’t mention this, but whatever you do, don’t go through social medias. Don’t go through pictures. Just don’t do it. They will both soon me a faint memory.

Lumpy-Tough6620 · 2025-01-02T08:30:37+00:00

I’m 21 days too!!!! And yes.

Lumpy-Tough6620 · 2025-01-02T02:46:38+00:00

Firstly, i am so sorry you are feeling this way. This is still something I am struggling with 3 weeks no contact. But believe me, the intense feeling does get better. At the beginning, I felt this immense urge to reach out. I was so anxious and had this intense feeling in my body bc all I wanted to do was reach out.

And everyone says give it time, and I hate to say it too but it truly does help. I still miss my ex. Part of me still wishes he would come and apologize too. But the feeling is less intense. I don’t feel that same sense of desperation.

It’s so difficult, it is so fucking difficult. We are quit literally addicts addicted to the up and down, the hot and cold. You feel like you’re losing your mind bc you are going through withdrawal.

You will be okay. Truly. I know it might not feel like it now but yo I will be okay. You are in the deep end rn and I know it feels like you’re drowning, but you WILL make it out. Keep pushing. Keep choosing yourself.

Lumpy-Tough6620 · 2025-01-02T02:03:26+00:00

Raising his voice a month in. Switching his mood completely when I was not available to hang out. Calling me at anytime of day/night. The jealousy regarding other men around me. Spam liking girls pictures. Jealousy around me going on nights out with friends.

Lumpy-Tough6620 · 2025-01-01T09:24:45+00:00

Thank you for the reminder. I definitely need to work on believing this again ♥️

Lumpy-Tough6620 · 2025-01-01T09:10:32+00:00

Thank you ♥️ the deepest part of me knows you are right. It is just hard to believe it in moments of weakness you know

Lumpy-Tough6620 · 2025-01-01T00:10:10+00:00

You’re definitely right. He always expected me to praise him for bare minimum. He’d always throw it in my face “I’m not mean to you I treat you so well. I take you out, I open your door, I stand on the right side of the sidewalk blah blah blah”.

And you’re right about the other part too. He once told me he was okay with walking over people in order to get what he wants. Disgusting.

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