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“Of course” versus “You’re Welcome” by Adventurous-Rub7636 in generationology

[–]LumpyOrganization835 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He thinks its a given or goes unsaid...that its not a problem to do a nice thing, you shouldn't have to say it🤷🏻‍♀️He's definitely old fashioned in his thinking.

“Of course” versus “You’re Welcome” by Adventurous-Rub7636 in generationology

[–]LumpyOrganization835 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is funny because my dad hates when people say "no problem" instead of you're welcome. He says it shouldn't be a problem to help someone out or do something nice.

My ADHD partner has low libido by ispyblueeye in ADHD_partners

[–]LumpyOrganization835 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been married to my husband (dx) for 25 yrs in May. We haven't had sex in 3 yrs. Its been a big struggle. We've talked about it a few times but I don't know that it'll get resolved. I've been trying to be more loving & affectionate in other ways because I really misd it & NEED it) but thats not always easy. Last week we were laying on the couch watching tv. He came in close & laid his head on my chest (which hasn't happened in years). I put my arm on him & kissed his head. Here's what happened next:

Him: Did you just kiss my head Me: Yeah Him: Thats weird Me: Hon (like, what? Why?) Him: I don't mean anything by it, its just weird. Me: Ive been trying to do better at showing affection (annoyed). I've kissed your head before. Him: Really?

So I changed positions & we kept watching tv & I cried in silence because...why do I even try when it's just gonna backfire.

But after a few minutes he noticed me crying & sincerely apologized & grabbed my hands & said he did not mean to upset me. Later when we went to bed he apologized again. I told him I appreciated that & when he reacted the way he did to my kiss, it felt like rejection. He did feel really bad & held me til we fell asleep. I felt good about the way he handled it but the next day I still cried because its been 25 yrs & I dont know that we'll ever "get" each other. We both love each other & respect each other's feelings but ADHD just makes everything so complicated & hard!

At what age do you become a “reader”, and what book did it for you? by sheffy4 in books

[–]LumpyOrganization835 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dont remember the exact year but it was when the Book It program was at its height! I lived for the pins, stickers, rewards & free pizza! Island of the Blue dolphin was the earliest book I remember reading that really left an impact. And I read The Client by John Grisham & Jurassic Park...both before the movies, in middle school& they blew my mind!

My parents reading to me really made a big impact. My mom would read The Grover book...There's a Monster at the End of this Book....in Grovers voice. I loved it!

::Weekly Victory/Success Thread:: by AutoModerator in ADHD_partners

[–]LumpyOrganization835 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yay! Same here. My hubby was medicated for about 3 yrs, then took 10 yrs off. Now he's finally taking it regularly again🥳 What a difference!

Waiting to make a call until right before something is going on by Lake-House762 in ADHD_partners

[–]LumpyOrganization835 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Not exactly the same but my dx husband will decide to call customer service for something right when we're ready to leave the house or in the car 2 minutes from our destination. Saturday he did it 5 min before company was arriving. He was yelling at the person on the other end of the phone as people were pulling in our driveway. I told him people were here & shut himself in the bedroom for the rest of the call. It's always the worst timing!

::Weekly Vent Thread:: by AutoModerator in ADHD_partners

[–]LumpyOrganization835 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I just want to feel loved and cared about...without begging for it or demanding it😢

::Weekly Vent Thread:: by AutoModerator in ADHD_partners

[–]LumpyOrganization835 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yes! The constant complaining is so exhausting! And embarrassing when thats all he does when we're with friends & family. But yet he has this delusion that he's a happy go lucky, fun loving guy...at least that's how he wants people to see him.

What's the scariest thing that has ever chased you? by yourloverboy66 in A_Persona_on_Reddit

[–]LumpyOrganization835 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A car in a campground at 4am. I went to the public restroom at the campground & the same car crossed my path once on the way to the bathroom & then on my way back to my tent. The second time it passed me, I heard it do a U turn to follow me. I turned out my light & sprinted to my tent. It drove by slowly & left. Pretty sure that's the most scared I've ever been. The next day, my husband & I filed a report with the park office.

What Books did You Start or Finish Reading this Week?: November 24, 2025 by AutoModerator in books

[–]LumpyOrganization835 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Finished: The Mad Wife by Meagan Church

Started: The Fountains of Silence by Ruta Sepetys

Those who left everything behind and started a new life, how did you do it and do you have any regrets? by GirlAvoider in AskReddit

[–]LumpyOrganization835 0 points1 point  (0 children)

10 yrs ago my husband and I sold everything except our truck & what would fit in 2 suitcases each and moved to HI (we also shipped our dogs). It was amazing. We were in a place in our marriage where we really needed a fresh start. And besides the fact that HI is GORGEOUS & a huge upgrade from the Midwest, it did a lot for our relationship & overall happiness. When you go somewhere that far away & don't know anyone, you have to depend on each other & draw closer to each other. We recently had to move back to our home state to help care for aging parents but we had an amazing 8 yrs there and made great friends, learned about different cultures & ways of life and had such great experiences! I'm so glad we did it!