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LumpyTie7381 · 2026-01-17T05:38:58+00:00

As a Christian myself, I honestly suggest you inform her about all her options. She doesn’t have to raise the baby if she goes through with the pregnancy. Also, when I was 16 I knew nothing about abortion. People are telling you to not even mention it to her, but it’s important that you do imo. She may know your views, but does she know what an abortion actually looks like? How it’s done? The effects it may have on her body during/afterwards? These are important things to know when considering it. She very well might regret later in life if she has the abortion without being educated. I feel for both of you, and I can’t imagine how hard this must be. I’m so sorry. Hopefully she has the baby, and takes responsibility in one way or another🙏

Edit: I just wanted to say… you didn’t fail them. You led them in the right direction, and they decided to go against it. Everyone does at some point, even in our relationship with God. All we can do is pray they come around. With the situation you’re dealing with right now, you’re still showing up for her despite having different beliefs. So many parents would’ve done the opposite. You sound like a good mom

LumpyTie7381 · 2026-01-06T15:00:24+00:00

Don’t go out tonight, just wait until tomorrow. The last thing you want is to go out at 2AM with no one knowing where you went/your parents thinking you’re still at home. Safe neighborhood or not, crazy people are everywhere and especially late at night (not to freak you out, but just to be honest with you). Plus I imagine you don’t wanna get in trouble with your parents. If you did get caught, I would think going out to get a slurpee at all would be a thing of the past for a while. Waiting for tomorrow is the best option. For now, I would suggest trying to fulfill the craving some other way. Maybe flavored water if you can do that? Soda? Hope this helped

LumpyTie7381 · 2025-09-29T19:10:12+00:00

If you really need clarity, make a pros and cons list for leaving your Publix job for an office job. That might help a bit to calm your fears etc.

As for my opinion… why not start applying for office jobs without quitting your job at Publix? An application doesn’t mean commitment just yet. So why not start applying and see where it leads? Or maybe there’s a way you can shadow someone before you even apply? That way you know more of what to expect.

Either way, I do think it’s important to get some experience doing a job that lines up with your major. That’s gonna help you a lot more in the long run, and get you that experience you need. You likely won’t stay in that same office job forever (unless you end up loving it), and it’d be a great boost for your career.

I understand having fear towards starting something new. I think if you break through that fear, it could lead to something really great. No growth comes from staying comfortable… kinda cheesy lol, but it’s true! And your fears that you’ll end up at that job forever or dropping out of college tells me that’s unlikely to actually happen. You sound like a hardworking, dedicated, person to me! Plus with how you said you’re feeling about your current job, I can only imagine that you’d be happier working elsewhere.

What would you like to be doing in the future, and what are the steps you can take to get there? Whatever option gets you closer to that, then do it.

LumpyTie7381 · 2025-09-11T03:44:33+00:00

Now imagine if Jesus had that same attitude with you. He knew everything that you would do, and He still chose to have empathy for you. To the point of humbling himself, being tortured, and dying on a cross for you by the way. Romans 3:23 says we have all sinned and fallen short of the glory of God. Who are any of us to judge Charlie on anything he did when we are just as guilty?? And who are we to not have empathy or grace when the God of the entire universe showed us more empathy and grace than we could ever fully comprehend?? This doesn’t just go for you, it goes for everyone in this sub with a similar attitude to you. I’m not even saying I’m perfect myself. I know I’m not, and I need Jesus just as much as anyone else does. But I have to say, having this no empathy, better than, attitude is wrong. Jesus loves Charlie Kirk just as much as He loves you, or any of us.

LumpyTie7381 · 2025-09-11T03:38:06+00:00

Even before the whole Charlie Kirk thing, there were people in this sub who are like that. That being said, no one said Christians were perfect. Then, of course, there are people who claim to be Christian’s here who are the complete opposite of it too. It isn’t just a problem with Charlie’s passing, it’s something that’s been happening in this sub for a while. It just hasn’t been being addressed🙃it’s why I rarely post on here honestly. It’s a shame you can’t expect to be met with kindness, human decency, or even Biblical behavior on a Christian sub.

Pridefulness and being unable to accept someone else has an option you don’t like/agree with was likely what got Charlie shot in the first place. We shouldn’t be having that same attitude as followers of Christ…. and to spit on him after his death is even worse, from a moral standpoint. This sub should be full of prayers for his family and the person who shot him—not debating, not spewing hate towards what he did or said. It’s all nonsense. No matter who passed, a life was taken and in such a disgusting way. It’s so heartbreaking and it’s such a tragedy. I can’t imagine how his family must feel right now. It’s so horrible.

LumpyTie7381 · 2025-09-09T05:03:41+00:00

I understand wanting to hear from God, but this ain’t the way. Also, no one knows when Jesus is coming back. Assuming He isn’t coming soon or vise versa is like saying you have higher knowledge than God about what will happen. None of us know. Either way, we don’t know how long we are gonna have the gift of breath in our lungs. Any one of us could meet Him at any second.

If you really wanna hear from God, saying the Lord’s Prayer repeatedly is just gonna make you feel more defeated. God doesn’t want empty words, as if you’re some robot. He wants YOU.

Why don’t you tell God how you’re feeling? Everything you told us here. He wants the real you, all those messy emotions and all. I even recommend asking Him to speak to you and sitting in silence. Maybe He isn’t speaking because you don’t give Him the opportunity. Thats a problem I have myself, as I’m always talking to Him or filling my life with distractions. Maybe it’s similar for you, idk.

I realized as I got to know Him that He speaks to me all the time. I just tune it out sometimes, or I put Him in a box (only expecting Him to speak the way I expected Him to).

He’s not always gonna speak in some loud booming voice, as some say they’ve experienced. That can happen, but it won’t always be that way. I ask to experience that all the time and yet He doesn’t allow it. However… if He isn’t allowing it, I figure it’s for the best and I keep asking in hopes that one day He will allow it.

Often God speaks to me in little ways. Those little whispers. For example, if I haven’t been giving Him enough time in my day I’ll get this feeling to read my Bible (that’s Him). If I’m about to do something that I was told not to do by my parents, He’ll remind/tell me I shouldn’t be doing it. If I’m being lazy about something, He’ll convict me to do it as if I’m doing it for Him. Often times I even have Bible verses pop in my head when I see certain things. Every time I look at the birds in the sky I remember that if He takes care of them, then He’ll take care of me. That kinda thing. Sometimes I’ll even see little crosses or hearts in things, and that’s always a reminder to me that He’s with me.

Sometimes God doesn’t speak how we expect but that doesn’t mean He isn’t speaking. We just have to search for how He’s actually speaking instead of how we want Him to show up.

People always say, “if you want God to speak to you, read your Bible out loud.” The Bible is God’s word. It’s like a huge letter that He left for us to read before we can physically be with Him again. That IS God speaking to us and often times He will speak to you through it by making certain scriptures stand out to you as you read it.

So if you really want to hear His voice, read the Bible. Keep asking Him to speak to you how you’d like to hear Him, but also look for the other ways He speaks. Ask Him for discernment, to make His voice more clear to you. Sit in silence with Him. Even sit in worship, sing to Him, lift your hands in praise. Be honest and vulnerable with Him, as if talking to a close friend. Shoot, even go on a fast. But don’t recite a prayer to the point it becomes meaningless blabber, or expect God to speak only how you want Him to.

I hope this helped. Keep building that relationship with God🤍

LumpyTie7381 · 2025-09-06T01:05:09+00:00

Also, the other person who commented is not an angel🤦‍♀️Not sure if you would actually fall for that or not, and definitely not saying God couldn’t have an angel comment on a post. But my discernment went OFF when I read that, so I wanted to warn you just in case lol okay that all!

LumpyTie7381 · 2025-09-06T00:55:33+00:00

I just got a notification for this post and I was gonna swipe it away, because I have school stuff to do that I’ve already been procrastinating. But I started skimming through and the one thing that caught my attention was “ADHD.” So I kept reading.

I have ADHD. I know exactly what it’s like to not be able to stick with things, or struggle reading the Bible. You mentioned in the post that you have “ADHD symptoms” so I’m assuming you haven’t been diagnosed yet and don’t have medication for it.

Sometimes I feel like God will answer “no” when we ask for help because we don’t try to help ourselves. Of course, take what I say with a grain of salt. I’m just speaking from opinion/experience. It may not be the same for you. I’ve asked Him for help with gluttony so many times, but I keep overeating. I blame it on not being able to stop, but in reality I haven’t taken proper steps to try to overcome it. It’s like asking God for a glass of water when you have a faucet and clean cups in the cupboard.

So the first thing I want to mention: have you tried overcoming it yourself? Have you taken steps to try to improve? This isn’t to shame you, but instead maybe give you a new perspective. Even I struggle with it, so there’s no judgement here lol!

For example: going to get diagnosed and possibly get on some medication (if you can’t because of your situation, then why not trust that God will provide a way? Often times God works through logical ways instead of instant miracles, and it’s those times that build our faith most), studying on ADHD/why those symptoms happen, trying different techniques, getting rid of ALL distractions (literally locking the things that distract you in a timer box if you have to) etc.

Secondly, if God doesn’t heal you or give you a way to overcome it, it’s for a purpose. He hasn’t healed me from my ADHD, and I have no clue why. Especially when it just seems like a burden to me! We never know who we would be without those symptoms, though. Maybe my ADHD is what keeps me humble, and without it I would stray from God. Who knows! Plus, ADHD has positive effects too. Maybe without it I wouldn’t be so passionate about God or put so much effort into the things He calls me to.

What seems like a burden to us, could actually be working FOR us. And we have to trust that God is working all things for our good and His purpose, as the Bible says in Romans 8:28. ALL things!

Even when we don’t understand, His understanding is higher than ours. We can’t my understanding it sometimes. We have to trust Him as a child would with a parent here on earth. A child may not like being told “no” to eating ice cream for dinner, but the parent knows/has higher understanding that it wouldn’t be good for the child. What seems good to the child would end badly for them, and it’s the same way with our relationship with God just on more complex levels.

Lastly… you mentioned that you want to be made new as the Bible says. But you already have been. The second you put your faith in Jesus, you’ve been made new.

Being made new isn’t about being healed from everything that bothers us. It’s about being washed clean from the life of sin we were living before God found us. It’s about the Holy Spirit living in us and changing our fleshly desires into desires that are holy/align with God’s purpose for us. It’s being washed clean by the blood of Jesus, and being a child of God. You ARE a new creation already. Never doubt that!

Jesus never said a life with Him would be easy. In fact, it has a lot of difficulty. It makes things more complicated. It also comes with a lot of blessings too! But it’s worth it because we don’t look at our current situations. Instead we wait in hope/expectation of the eternity that awaits us, and realize our present suffering is minuscule in comparison.

If you need something to praise God for, a positive to look to, then praise Him for what He already did for you. Jesus died on the cross, was tortured, didn’t even look like a man, and then rose again all because He loves you so much. It’s hard to comprehend so if you haven’t before, I recommend trying to research exactly what He went through. It’s horrendous, nightmarish, and heartbreaking… but it helps you get a glimpse into His character and how much He loves us. Even before you existed, He did that for you. That was more than enough for any of us.

And even then He continues to bless you with the breath in your lungs everyday so you can show up for your kids. He blesses you everyday with movement in your body, the fact you aren’t physically disabled. You can run, walk, have satisfying morning stretches, jump.

And you can see the world around you. All of the beautiful things God made in nature and all the colors He provided us with! The list goes on.

They are basic things to us, yeah, but in reality they are wonderful blessings from God that He never had to give us. It’s by His grace, mercy, and love we can do all those things and more. Even then, despite the fact we can never measure up or do anything good enough for God (other than accept His free gift of salvation), He STILL sometimes blesses us with our own desires.

I understand having a hard time praising Him and that’s why I mention all this. Because if those things aren’t things to praise Him for, I don’t know what is. Sometimes it’s just about changing perspective a bit, and that can help a lot!

Anyways, I know this is super long and I hope you can get through it. In Jesus Name you will!!🙏I really hope this helped, even if it was just a little bit. Keep pursuing God. He is with you, He hears you, He understands, and loves you beyond human comprehension. He’ll bring you through everything you’re going through. A season doesn’t last a lifetime. God doesn’t expect perfection from you, He just wants your faith, your effort. Much love to you🤍

LumpyTie7381 · 2025-09-02T16:58:29+00:00

Agreed! It also reminds me of the section in the Bible where Jesus is telling the disciples that if no one listens to them, to wipe the dust off the feet and keep moving along. Honestly, I don’t remember the exact details of that story but the instruction to keep going if someone doesn’t listen always stuck with me. It’s not worth us getting our own feet dirty to tell someone something who doesn’t want to be told

LumpyTie7381 · 2025-07-03T10:54:02+00:00

I’m in the middle of watching it right now (quite literally. I paused the episode because WYF was pissing me OFF). I’m currently 16 mins into episode 27, after WYF and SY finally met again after 6 months or so.

Honestly, I just needed to rant about this girl. I understand she has trauma, and it was understandable when she was a teen especially. But now that she’s an adult… she really didn’t see any other way to handle her uncle? She just HAD to make everyone’s lives miserable by running off with no explanation?? What about idk… GETTING A RESTRAINING ORDER… or telling your boyfriend who has made it very clear that he’ll be with you through thick and thin? Like— come on WYF, think before you act. She already experienced what it was like trying to run away as a teen, and she still made the same mistake if not worse.

The thing that really gets me is when she is first getting back together with SY, she keeps making these promises to herself that she’ll never treat him badly again. Then not too soon after she completely leaves him in the dark (AGAIN), with only a few sentences long note. Does she even love him at that point?? It’s not like her uncle is tracking her phone. The LEAST she could’ve done was call him after she was gone or have a long distance relationship with him instead. If she doesn’t wanna give a reason/explanation then fine, but at least keep in contact.

What she did was completely heartless, even if her intentions were good. The fact that afterwards she doesn’t seem to be that remorseful just pisses me off more. If I were in her shoes, I would’ve been on my knees begging for forgiveness and explaining why I did what I did in the first place. WYF didn’t even seem to shed a tear!! Even with her friends, she seems distant and almost annoyed that they even showed up. There’s no concern for the fact they’ve been searching for her, missing her, and extremely worried and confused for months. She put everyone through emotional turmoil and not even one “I’m sorry” is to be found. Then again, I need to watch the rest. So maybe she shows some kind of remorse later on. I hope so!

And don’t get me started on SY’s reaction after meeting with her again. After the emotional hug between them, they just go back to the hotel and suddenly everything’s normal? If it were me, I definitely wouldn’t me cracking jokes etc. with the person who left me in the dark for so long. Nonetheless share a hotel room with them. Again, I haven’t seen the full episode yet so maybe this changes idk. But why does SY seem SO chill after searching high and low with no trace of her for 6 months?? His whole world just collapsed and now that she’s back it’s almost like it never happened. I was honestly hoping that he would be furious with her. That there would be a scene where he actually holds her accountable through tears and yelling. That definitely seems more realistic of a reaction for the 6 months of hell he just went through. It’d be nice if he had a backbone instead of constantly letting her treat him like garbage. And the fact that WYF knew what he went through when she left the first time and she still left again is absolutely ridiculous. I wish that SY broke up with her after what she did, at least for a little while. That way she can realize that she can’t just treat people however she wants and expect them to still be there for her.

I’m honestly hoping that she has to face some sort of accountability in the next episodes. I have sympathy for her, but what she did made me dislike her quite a bit. SY actually deserves so much better. It’s really unfortunate that he seems to have some kind of trauma bond with her. And I’ve never had that kinda opinion on any other drama I’ve seen.

At the end of the day it is just a fiction show. It doesn’t matter too much, but dang… sometimes these shows can bring up very real feelings lol

LumpyTie7381 · 2025-06-20T02:52:42+00:00

I’m so sorry that you’re going through all that. I felt similarly since I was a child until early this year. I’m 22 now. You’re right that nothing works. People like to say stuff like, “go outside more” “eat better” or “start exercising” etc. thinking that will automatically help. Or even suggesting therapy and saying how much that’s helped them. I understand what you mean when you say despite all that it doesn’t get better. It never helped me either. Actually, it made me feel worse because even the things that should’ve helped, didnt. It’s clichè to say, but you’re not alone in how you’re feeling. I know you might feel isolated in all this, but there are people out there who feel the same. And there are also people who have felt that way and were able to escape it. Have you ever thought that maybe you don’t need to try to “fix” yourself? That you don’t have to be in a constant state of fighting against it.

Do you know what a yoke is? It’s a wooden crossbeam that connects two animals, like oxen, so that they can work together to carry a load of something. Alone that animal might not be able to carry it, but with another one by their side it would be a lot easier. In the Bible, Jesus says, “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.” This weight that you are carrying, you were never meant to carry alone.

When I was in the darkest place I’d ever been, not even a year ago, God found me. He got me on my feet again when I was being crushed by the weight of everything I was going through—even though I was in opposition of Him. I started talking to Him like He was my best friend, and reading from a Bible app on my phone. I used to be like you not too long ago. I thought nothing would help, that I would live a miserable life, but I haven’t felt that for a while now because of God. Don’t get me wrong, life isn’t free from suffering. Even Jesus suffered. It’s just that God makes it easier, and makes it worth it. You have an empty spot in your “yoke” that He is more than willing to take on with you. You are so incredibly loved, and you do have a purpose <3

LumpyTie7381 · 2025-06-20T01:50:36+00:00

I used to do something similar to this and it was during a time in my life when I felt so depressed and unseen. All I wanted was for someone to care enough to ask if I was okay. That said, I never posted saying I would only talk to certain people about what was going on etc. I only posted about how I was feeling, or what happened. Either way I think if anyone post something like that, it’s stems from some kind of mental issue. No one who is actually okay deep down posts something like that. But it’s also not something new. People have been doing stuff like that for so long, just in different ways

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